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petale46
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Posted on Sat, Sep 19, 2009 09:23

It's been a while since I blogged on this site. I felt the need for a break. After a few mishaps with a number of gentlemen with moral as elastic as their propensity to lie, my hopes for a meaningful relationship were in a state of total disarray. At the same time, receiving the ever crude and so ?highly sexual it becomes a put off? messages, I felt like a juicy Canada A1 steak in a meat market. So I gave it all up, close accounts on all dating sites and took a break. Now here's my question. How do you make yourself ready for the cold reality of internet dating. How do one deals with the idea of deleting 80% or even 90% of messages because it?s obvious the sender are more interested in one?s breasts size then I.Q. or humanity. Just the thought of getting another message asking me if I enjoy giving fellatio as an introduction, is bringing acid reflux to the back of my throat. I want the relationship and the discovering of another human being, but what?s keeping me from going back on the saddle is the thought of having to deal with all the morons, the not so subtle innuendos and the inquiries to the speed at which I get in the sack with a total stranger. How do you deal with the loads of crap you get for a single interesting message from a man you find might be a prospect? How not to let the process get to oneself?


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Posted on Wed, Sep 23, 2009 06:32

Hey truefriendinme. Don't delete your profile, because a lot of people here would miss you way too much... present company included. For me this site is not like others. First because I've contacted almost every male on here and none are interested or interesting. So I kind of gave up finding a relationship here. This website is about a support system. I know that if I come here most will understand about being judge on my looks and not fitting the mole of the size 0 starlet. I can whine, complain, share joy and sorrow, and I always find a kind ear that will listen and answer with respect, kindness and, dare I say, almost affection. Some women I met here I correspond with outside of this site and they are a constant support and sound board. I can talk to them and you know who you are, about everything and anything and I always get an honest, sometimes funny answer. So to all the women I've talk to here, I love you guys. Missy, I might not be a guy, I won't rock your world, but you can count on me if you need to vent, talk or shoot the breeze with. Give up if you want, I believe it to be a necessary step sometimes to pull away in order to regain some kind of joy and excitment in the process, but I'm begging you, please don't give up on this website. I'd miss your quick wise ass cracks too much. Chantale


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Posted on Tue, Sep 22, 2009 22:20

When younger, I was told you have to kiss alot of frog's to find your prince... I think that is just all B.S. ... Love seem's to find you when you're not looking for it. So... just go with the flow and take meeting new people with a grain of salt and if it is meant to be... :) Best Wishes.


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Posted on Tue, Sep 22, 2009 09:54

Welcome back....looking forward to reading your blogs!!


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Posted on Tue, Sep 22, 2009 01:56

Hey Petale, great to see you back. :) Now I understand where you are coming from here, have been there several times before and it is very discouraging. I think the trick here is to decide to go into to it to have some fun as well. To meet knew people, to learn what sort of man you like, how to recognize him when you find him. I have reviewed my reasons for online dating and have adjusted my profile (not here) several times to reflect this. Guess I have been lucky as I have met so many nice men, decent, respectful and wanting a relationship. Not saying that I have not also got the sleazy just want to hump you ones as well, but think that they just dont bother me. For me it comes down to whats in my head and how I think, and I know for each "failure" brings me closer to that success. Hugs :)


Life is only as wonderful as you think it is.

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Posted on Mon, Sep 21, 2009 12:32

Me, too, Petale. I'm only on one other site, and it has not produced any honest inquiries, either. I have found that many of the men on the internet that contact me are not anywhere near as honest as I am in their profiles. They sometimes just outright lie, and expect that because we became acquainted on the internet that lies are expected, even accepted. I have become friends, even, to one or two, but they disappear as soon as another woman comes along. And then when that relationship falls out, they want me to just forget their less-than-stellar-friendship. I've come so close to deleting the profile, and am teetering on the delete button as we speak. Now that my classes have started back, and I have another avenue to focus my attentions, I think I will do just that. I just really don't have the time for all the crap anymore. My time is precious to me, and I'm tired of men thinking I have all the time in the world to be jerked around. Where are all the serious men, the men who have brains and courtesy, the men who understand that a woman needs her space but also needs comfort sometimes, all the men who say the know that a woman has to have her own life and want to share theirs? Where are the men who don't want to jump in the sack as soon as you show an interest in any sort of relationship, who know that love takes time to develop and that respect and trust do, too? I guess I'm going to just go about persuing my career. If I meet Mr.Right along the way, then so be it. I give up. --Misty


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Posted on Sun, Sep 20, 2009 12:18

Well petale46,I have missed you sharp keen whit. My hope for you is that you finmd you Prince ,soon. Since lately all you have been getting are toads .


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