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Thunderheart44
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Posted on Sat, Sep 19, 2009 06:59

I was reading comments in another blog about passion.And Babycakes was talking about if a man kisses the way she likes,that got me thinking about what really makes a great kiss and how important is it that your mate kisses well.For me you can tell so much about someone from their kiss,kissing for me is one of the most intimate acts 2 people can share.You can certianly feel if someone is passionate about you by the way they kiss you.But can you tell how good a lover they will be by the way they kiss? And how important is it to you that your partner is a great kisser ?Will you not continue seeing someone if they don't kiss the way you like ? or would you try and teach them to kiss you the way you prefer,if you like evrything else about them ? As for me it makes a big difference that a women kisses very well.I like a woman who allows me to take the lead when we kiss,at least at first,this way I can see how willing she is to either accept my advances or slow things down.I do love those deep,long,wet,slow kisses that last for 3 days ! Ok not for 3 days actually but you get my meaning I hope,and thank you to Kevin Costner for that discription of a great kiss.It's from the movie "Bull Durham",and I have never heard it described better.I must say that when I kiss my tongue does have a mind of its own,is this good or not so good to you ? I certainly am interested to hear the different opinons on this subject.


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Posted on Sun, Sep 27, 2009 05:44

I certainly do like the responses to this question and thank you all for your thought provoking comments.Now oz I did enjoy your description of a good kiss and hope your "tongue tango" lessons are going well.As for Island gal Yes I fell for that line because I was very interested in falling into the young lady who feed it to me! Ah my dear babycakes we both know science has nothing to do with kissing it's all about the emotion.If there's intense emotion behind a kiss then there's bound to be intense emotion in the next level.Petale I couldn't agree more kissing is certainly foreplay and I am a man who likes his foreplay.And since men are often referred to as dogs why not lead them down Pavlovs reflex training regime.Aimee you always have something to say that makes me stop and ponder the question at hand,and maybe even send me off on another blog topic all together !!!


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Posted on Sat, Sep 26, 2009 17:46

Reaching back into my past, Kissing is a major deal for me. That being said, as I matured, each decade presented a different response to kissing. When I was 19 we learned. My ex was a great kisser, knew just how long to stay, how long to kiss on the lips and how long to use his tongue. He make my knees weak and yes, he was an excellent lover. Knew his way around the important parts and he taught me a great deal. Granted I was young and he was only my second lover.

in my late thirties, after the divorce, I was no responding to a kiss for a very long time. I held back. Then one day I met this man, his kiss was tender and gentle on my lips. He teased me just enough for me to want more. We lived together for eight years and was the best lover, todate.

Now, through my middle fifties I really did not find that a kiss "did it for me" any longer.

I wanted to be touched and treated well first. A good kisser was a bonus.

I've found that the men I've gone out with had to be romantic first. That was what turned me on much more than a kiss. Just a dash of romance was such a turn on for me. It is today also. I like a romantic place, like the beach or a lake. A moonlit walk holding hands, a ride to nowhere is also good with his hand on my knee.

Romance has not moved up a notch in importance. I can teach a guy to kiss well. As age creaps up, sexual prowess fades, romance has to take on a new meaning. YES YES I hear you, there are many facets to love making. YES I agree totally, sprinkle in the romance and I'm weak kneed once more.

Nat



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Posted on Wed, Sep 23, 2009 22:07

Kissing to me is foreplay. When he comes home, if I just give him a peck, we'll talk and have supper. If I kiss him slowly at first, then my arm go up around his neck and I slowly reacquaint myself with his mouth and his tongue, then he knows he's in for a steamy night and very little to eat. A kiss can pack a real punch sometimes, because it's about emotions and intentions. It creates anticipation. If the guy is a bad kisser, give him a chance, kiss him the way you'd like to be kissed. If the kiss is not so great, then just take it, but if it's good, moan and get closer to him... it's like Pavlov dog reflex. He'll associate a way kissing with moans and pleasure.


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Posted on Wed, Sep 23, 2009 09:12

For me personally kissing involves feelings and emotions.


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Posted on Tue, Sep 22, 2009 08:14

"I had a woman tell me she knew I would be a great lover by the way I kissed her." C'mon Thunder ...... you fell for that old chestnut??!! Obviously there is the hope and expectation that if a guy kisses well he will also perform well in other areas, but I don't think you can say they are mutually inclusive/exclusive. (Oz .... good luck with that research!!)


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Posted on Tue, Sep 22, 2009 07:53

IMO, good kissing is important. I don't know that I wouldn't have a relationship with someone because they couldn't kiss well, but I guess it would depend on how badly they did. As far as being able to tell how good they would be in the bedroom from the way they kiss, I think that if they are a good kisser, that definitely enhances the performance but doesn't really let you know how god/bad the actual performance will be.


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Posted on Tue, Sep 22, 2009 01:20

Hi Thunder good questions. I feel the kiss is very important and usually sets the pace for the rest of what is about to occur. A "good" kiss will iginite my passions just about quicker than anything else can and to me is vital to foreplay or just a healthy relationship. Now I have not stopped seeing a man because he did not kiss in the way that I liked, and as Babycakes states will try to take over and lead in hope that he follows. If though he is really gross, like he is tickling your vocal cords with his tongue, or has decided that your face needs a mouth massage ... yuk ..... then its goes no further for me im afraid. I mean if your feeling a bit sick at this point how do you go on? Also I would not consider a relationship if there was No sensual kissing at all. Now as to how to describe a good kiss? For me it starts with the delicate brush of the lips, that tease and entice for one to open and expose the sweetness inside. Like to use my lips to suck and pull on the lip, with a flick of my tonuge to even a nibble with the teeth. Once mouths are open then its a gentle explore, give and take and tongue tango that alternates between this and back to the lip dance at the start. Mmmmm want one now. grins Looking back I think that the lovers that i have considered the best lovers were also fairly good kissers. Now dont know if that is because passion just built high from this point or whether it was because they were just more passionate in the first place? Very interesting I must say! Wow now if this is accurate, its a very easy way to see who will or wont rock your world? Im off to do some research. hehehe


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Posted on Tue, Sep 22, 2009 00:43

I still haven't heard anyone answer if they could tell how good a lover someone is by their kiss.I had a woman tell me she knew I would be a great lover by the way I kissed her.And I never heard that before so was wondering if it was really possible to tell from a kiss.I can't tell from a kiss how good someone will be in the bedroom,but everyone is different.By the way Babycakes that Kevin Costner line from the movie was part of a long summation on what he believes in.He said he believes in the small of a womans back and long,slow,deep,wet kisses that last for 3 days.I always wished I had been the one to say that first.lol


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Posted on Mon, Sep 21, 2009 19:22

Kissing is so important because it says so much and can promise more later. I think it's important to lock lips for good 20 mins while you explore each other's mouth and lips. A little tongue tag and playfully sucking on lips just makes me all steamed up. Yummy question but essential ingredient to coupling.


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Posted on Sun, Sep 20, 2009 12:44

Kissing on the lips, and mouth is important. However there are other places that still be sensual to both partners.Beside the obivious below the belt line places. The back of the knees, nape of the neck, ear lobes, small of the back , and under the chin all can be places that can heighten pleasure.I feel that while kissing one has to be attentive to the body language that their partner displays.I feel that being able to read and respond to those changes makes the whole process much more enjoyable. One thing that used to put me on the ceiling in a good way was,when my partner at the time used to kiss me on my side in a area from inline with the navel but a hands span on either side up to about in line on the same plane even with the chest. By her kissing me there softly and gently . Many times she had to peel me off the ceiling from the pleasure. So the mouth is not the only pleasure zone. The whole body of skin can and is one.


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