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ozredhead62
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Posted on Sun, Sep 13, 2009 10:08

Quoting: Originally posted by butterbll
I quess, I may be a little old fashioned and selfish not wanting to "Share" my partner.I feel that enevatiblly lead to one partner liking the other swinging partner more and the relationship will not work. Plus ladies whould you not get a little freaked and upset if you cought your partner in bed with three other people and two of them are the same sex as you partner? I have to say If that is the life style you want,Go for It!! However,I want only one woman in my life,(and bed) at a time.Like the Country song by the Statler Brothers "Trying to love two women". I agree...It is not worth the pain! I speak for my self .Sorry ladies It can be hard enough to please one of you ,why would I want to triple the pain by getting another woman in mix.


LOL Butter, we are not talking about you "loving" more than one woman, you still love only your partner, so much less pressure there to please apart from in that way. grins Now I am like you, in the fact that I like one partner and though I have been offered this situation before could not go there without feeling the risk to the relationship. Though what was interesting in discussing this issue with someone that had had this, was that the jealousy part diminished. The ownership issues also faded. What was left according to him was 2 people that loved each other and were not threatend by external sexual encounters coming in and upsetting the relationship. Just thought it was an interesting life style choice, as you would not worry about your partner cheating on you, they would be able to have this with you, you would be a part of it all. This is something that is shared within the relationship. Now you would not "play" on your own, so your partner would not catch you with other people, you do this together, both willing, so I dont think you would be freaked by it. I thik you would only freak if something happened that you did not exoect? I guess there would need to be lots of good and honest communication needed to make this work. Will be interesting to see what others post here.


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Posted on Sat, Sep 12, 2009 18:35

Hi Oz,¿ :-)

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I don't know of anyone personally.¿ I've read about them, they work for those that are interested in an open relationship.¿ I've read that there more of a solid foundation established before the open relationship takes hold.

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Personally, I would never get involved with a situation where I share my partner with anyone.¿ Too many diseases out there. I know that each would have a doctors note, still there is always that one time too many.¿¿¿

I'm not the sort to agree to this situation. I don't share.¿ I've been told it has little to do with sharing, it's more in the realm of fantasey and the need for more than one sex partner. Still not for me.¿

I too am curious to hear from others and especially from someone that is in an open relationship and making it work for them.

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Nat



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Posted on Sat, Sep 12, 2009 18:27

I quess, I may be a little old fashioned and selfish not wanting to "Share" my partner.I feel that enevatiblly lead to one partner liking the other swinging partner more and the relationship will not work. Plus ladies whould you not get a little freaked and upset if you cought your partner in bed with three other people and two of them are the same sex as you partner? I have to say If that is the life style you want,Go for It!! However,I want only one woman in my life,(and bed) at a time.Like the Country song by the Statler Brothers "Trying to love two women". I agree...It is not worth the pain! I speak for my self .Sorry ladies It can be hard enough to please one of you ,why would I want to triple the pain by getting another woman in mix.


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