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aimeefla
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Posted on Tue, Jun 30, 2009 19:32

Hi everyone, I need, yes NEED opinions, here's the scenerio.


First, I'm 60, I do as I please, BUT three friends of mine said I'm sending the wrong message to a man if I've only met him once, talked on the phone for a month and exchanged emails, its too soon and too risky to invite him to watch a movie in my home.

I say, they are right with reservations for personal judgement. They are not saying anything about a sexual encounter. They are only saying it's the wrong message. I say they are right and wrong. At my age, I've been married, dating on and off line for ten years now. I use my gut to tell me if I'm taking the risk of being mugged in my own home. That's always an issue. But if I feel the risk is minimal after meeting him for one date, then I'll do it my way. The dating game has never worked for me, not even in high school or after for that matter.¿


They feel that one should meet over time, about three weeks, four or five dates before ever inviting a man to your place. The message is i'ts okay I'm easy ! Depending on the situation, I can agree and disagree, it depends on the guy and the gal.


Now I want YOUR feelings. ( I bet the field will be split. )



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Posted on Sat, Jul 11, 2009 04:28

So Natalie, what did you decide and how did it go?


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Posted on Wed, Jul 08, 2009 22:59

When you get horny enough. he he Sorry couldnt resist. :) It depends on the situation and how well you feel you know the man. As I have young kids I tend to hold off and consider their safety more than I think I would if I was living on my own. Though from having spoken to a few guys, I do feel they the men feel that it is much more than a meeting and coffee if a woman invites them to the house on the first meeting. Trust your instincts and make sure you clearly state the purpose of the meeting. I think if you have spent the time with him in chatting and feel comfortable with it, then stuff what anyone else thinks. Good luck Nat.


Life is only as wonderful as you think it is.

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Posted on Mon, Jul 06, 2009 16:13

I say: "Go with your gut!" There have been many times I have ignored my gut and have regretted it. We get these feelings for a reason. Trust your instincts. --True


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aimeefla
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Posted on Sat, Jul 04, 2009 04:30

Hi Azure,

¿

"The Chase" is just a game I've never been good at and it never worked for me.

I'd love to hear from others to find out if it works.¿ SOOOO yet another blog Topic !!

Nat

Azureblue753 Wrote:

hi natalie,
LOL, on 'the chase'. Actually, your role in the chase is just to let him pursue you and not come off as being 'extremely' interested too quickly. Supposedly men love the challenge of the 'chase'. I guess if we respond too quickly, it would be as disappointing as a pro football players feelings having to play with a losing team, No challenge. lol, Anyway nat, you do what your heart tells you and I wish you success and happiness in it!...Be safe always and never underestimate your powers as a woman.



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islandgal64
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Posted on Thu, Jul 02, 2009 14:11

Natalie I think you KNOW the right answer ..... the ONLY right answer is what feels right to both parties in any given situation. Trust your judgement, follow your instincts, and always keep your wits about you!


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Posted on Thu, Jul 02, 2009 10:57

I talked to him on the phone for a month before we met in public. He did not know where I lived at that point.¿

I don't disagree with you on your points or my friends points. I just feel each situation is different.¿ I've been out with men that will never know where I live. My phone number has never beel listed. They can't find me that way. Until they know my last name. Then they can search the tax rolls for property, that's public record.¿

I'm rather careful who I lef into my small world. I was rather comfortable with this guy. He seemed comfortable with me as well. I like the comfort of my home.

I also feel each situation has to be judged on it's own merits.¿ We are all differnent and each situation, two people interacting results in different chemistry.¿

The "chase" never worked for me. I don't think I know how to do it. LOL LOL


Natalie



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Posted on Tue, Jun 30, 2009 20:59

Thirty years ago Inviting a man to you home to watch a movie alone with you would possibbly get one the moniker of being a"Shamless Hhussey". However times have changed just a wee bit. However I have to say If you feel safe with the person, Do so.But I would schedule it early in the evening so that you have ample time to watch the movie.I would also have a close freind call you at you house at prescheduled intervial to check up on you just for safety's sake.Example If he arrives at 6 Pm. If you start the movie at say 6:30 pm . If the movie is 180 minutes them you would have the person call your cell phone at 10:00 pm to check up on you. If you chose to go out to eat after the movie the person still could call you on you cell. Myself Not knowing the person well.I would feel a little uneasy inviting some one I recently met to my home. As a guy not worried a bout being physcally attacked ( I just dont want a possible "Bunny Boiler" { AKA stalker} knowing where I live, and all the hassels that having to deal with one.(Been there done that.)


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