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Posted on Tue, Mar 17, 2009 11:22

Hi all, This blog is not meant to offend anyone and I hope it doesn't, but I have been thinking about this for a while. This is more about another dating site that shall remain nameless but I do know some here FISH there too. What's up with women having things on their profile about not looking for just sex yet their pic is subjective. Now don't get me wrong, I like a good cleavage shot as much as the next guy and I say show your assets, if you got it flaunt it. The pics I'm talking about are the ones that go low enough to ALMOST show more then cleavage, the ones that show enough to tell for sure that your toppless if not nude. I have also seen swimsuits so small they are only legal in Europe. (ok I lie a little) I guess what I'm trying to say is if a lady has a pic of themself sitting at their computer showing enough that it seems your toppless then most men are going to think this is a woman I can see her stuff on cam. I'm sorry but that's the way men think (don't think I have been trying to cam with someone I'm just saying lol). I was talking to a friend yesterday and she reminded me that it is said that men think about sex every 13 seconds. With all that thinking we don't need help with pics like that. The point here is if you want to find love then stop looking like your willing to be a one night stand or less. Again, I hope I didn't offend, good luck all---Tom


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Posted on Thu, Apr 09, 2009 20:59

Great point... and let me follow up with..Some woman (most), not all but some tend to undervalue themselves they mistake sleazy for sexy they don't get the concept that you can be very very very sexy without showing your goods or acting like a porn star and still capture a mans attention. I am not a prude in any way shape or form but I know where my sexiness lies and usually it starts with my clothes being on. (Otherwise I would have to walk around half naked all the time. (Things that make you go.... hummmm):) Then of course there are women who are looking for the online sexting, sexy cam because that's their thing and hey if that floats your boat rock on and more power to ya!!! :)(written in a completly non judgemental way wink wink) But the women who show their goods then get all bent out of shape when a manimal (lol) responds with his NORMAL dna hardwired for self,(I happen to like this aspect of the manimal you can always count on his dna to respond accordingly), the point being that women like this are just insecure and they think that showing their goods is the way to get a mans attention which it can be for that minute but this doesn't mean the beginings of a new romantic relationship it actually signals to the manimal LETS GET IT ON...lol Just had to give you a shout out on the post and if you get hate mail from any chicks just tell em to put down the harlequin romance novel and come see me I'll set em straight..lol KEEP ROCKIN


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Posted on Sun, Mar 22, 2009 02:14

Quoting rockchick48:

If I ever get a picture on here it will be tasteful, from your every 13 seconds friend


Quiet, Rockchick, your telling on me now. lol


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Posted on Sat, Mar 21, 2009 01:27

If I ever get a picture on here it will be tasteful, from your every 13 seconds friend


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Posted on Fri, Mar 20, 2009 19:09

Thanks you guys!¿ And no worries, Butterbll, I knew exactly what Tom was saying.¿ It was just a little joke ... I couldn't help myself.

The leprechauns made me do it :D



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Posted on Fri, Mar 20, 2009 15:28

You make a good point Tom. I think maybe some of the ladies on here that you are speaking of are confused by the messages we get from the media and elsewhere. Sex sells. Even if what you are selling is not sex. My philosophy is: If you wouldn't wear it in front of Grandma you sure as heck shouldn't be wearing it in front of a stranger, even if you are hoping that stranger will like what he sees.


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Posted on Thu, Mar 19, 2009 20:41

Tom, you are correct ,My newest¿photo was taken in church clothes.



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Posted on Thu, Mar 19, 2009 10:32

I do agree with you...Some women send mixed messages. That is why I'm careful about my profile..I am truthful and don't lead anyone on..I am what I am and that's they way the all women should be..(If they are serious about what they originally claim they want..

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Posted on Thu, Mar 19, 2009 07:25

Quoting Olivia2691:

Oh Oh...time to change my picture...lol.


I feel that yours is Definately on that is not¿ in any way revealing too much skin.Your's is very tastefully done.¿And on a side note Your¿ brilliant¿baby blue eyes,and great warm¿smile¿ are Very inviting.¿So don't change a thing about it.¿



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Posted on Thu, Mar 19, 2009 01:36

Agree here Tom,¿I do think that we do judge a book by its cover, even if we are trying not to.

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It is a dating site and we are advertising ourselves, the type of customer you get will greatly depend on what wares you have on offer.¿ I think that some feel more confident and open in displaying that part of themsleves.

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Overall I think you have to ask what type of person are you attracting by your pics and your profile and if your not happy with this then change either or both.

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Though I will say that some men dont care and just try to get to the middle of the book anyway regardless how covered up it may be.¿ lol



Life is only as wonderful as you think it is.

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Posted on Wed, Mar 18, 2009 18:17

Right on the money - I agree - if you're going to advertise - expect all types of buyers - those that look, those that read and those that can do both or neither. Say what you mean and mean what you say. I'm gonna look at the guy in the speedo and admire the view but not much moe than that.


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Posted on Wed, Mar 18, 2009 17:42

One, Butter is right your's is just right. You are dressed like you were going someone even could wear it to church. To Butter- I never said I was a true gentleman--if it's there, might as well look. True--I know better then a direct comment, see I'm learning.


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Posted on Wed, Mar 18, 2009 16:49

Tru, I did not look ,A True gentleman would not take advantage of a wardrobe malfunction. Unless you told him too. :)



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Posted on Wed, Mar 18, 2009 16:44

One2one I Have to say Yours is tastefully done. I think what Tom was trying to say that some other people's photos leave Very Little to the Imiagation.Another 1/4 inch, And the picture would be something you would get in an Adult bookstore magazine. And I have to say that sadly some of the guys are guilty of photos that verge on the side of being¿a Little bit bawdy. Sorry I¿Don't want to see a 500 pound¿guy stuffed in to a Speedo,any more than I want to see a 600 pound lady with her belly apron to her knees in a top(band aids and dental floss)that barely covers. To each their own, but lets respect the rights of others not to see that. If thats your thing fine. Don't force that on to every one, that does not want to see that. There is a wonderful thing called E-mail. So if you hit it off you can send attachments to your hearts desire.That way,that you and the other party will not offend anyone.



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Posted on Wed, Mar 18, 2009 16:17

Oh Oh...time to change my picture...lol.


'puttin on my big gyrll panties and getting over it

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Posted on Wed, Mar 18, 2009 11:37

Wanting to comment on this, but am Biased. Being a self confessed Boob Lover, I usually like what I see on the site. Some pics are more seductive than others, that's down to differing taste's on how they want to advertise themselves on the site. Me personally, doesn't bother me, and am sure for the most part, it's not gonna bother the lassies either. After all, its a Dating Site. You sorta expect some folks to "show what they got" to get noticed better, and fair dues to them. and by your 13seconds thing, I have thought about sex at least 18 times since I started typing this??? Thats a Song... Sheeesh. Am Knackered. Need a cuppa now and maybe a wash down... Muhahahaaaa Friendly Guy Hug to Big Tom ( Welcome back ) Hugz an kisses to the lassies. Peace


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Posted on Tue, Mar 17, 2009 21:22

Oh...Look! My bra fell off! LOL! --True


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Posted on Tue, Mar 17, 2009 21:04

Amen!¿ How's my cleavage ... too much? ;)



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