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truefriendinme
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Posted on Sat, Feb 28, 2009 12:53

Anyone out there feel like all we do in life is wait? I have felt this way for as long as I can remember. I have waited for EVERYTHING! I have waited for the (used to be) man in my life to develop his career, waited to go to school, waited to finish school (to raise the boys), waited for the happiness that I thought came "later" in marraige, waited to leave, waited to go back to school, waited for this to be over! I am tired of waiting! As some of you know, I have been wading through the murky waters of divorce for nearly two and a half years! Yes, my friends, even when you break up, you STILL wind up waiting on them! Over two years and almost 20K later, I finally figure out that no matter what I do, he's not going to let go very easily. He has dragged this out in every manipulative way imaginable and I finally have lost sight of the "EXIT" sign. Somewhere along the way my Tom-Tom pulled a "gone-gone"! LOL! Let's face it, guys. I'm abysmally trapped in the land of never ending settlements! So, I have pulled out the "Big Guns", so to speak. I had one ace in the hole that might wake him up to the idea that he could pay for this a very long time (if you catch my drift). Unfortunately, I think he is so far gone and so scared of relinquishing any bit of control that he won't realize it till it's too late. But, hey, what should I care? I do. And I don't. It's a draw. But, all in all, I'm glad I finally at least ASKED for what I deserve. I atleast stood up for me, for once. I put my foot down in such a way that ther is NO mistaking whose it is or how pi$$ed off I am. I have given up practically my entire life pre-divorce, and it still wasn't good enough. So...now I've decided that NO-- it's NOT good enough. I was willing to settle for so much less than what was deserved, and he just HAD to complain once more-- to make even MORE adjustments. So, now the whole deal is OFF. I am now taking not only the bacon, but the pan to fry it in, too! I suppose a judge will make the final decision, but I am glad I asked. At the very least, I showed I'm not afraid of all the intimidation and threats. It gets old after a while, you know? I just got so sick of all the "fineggling" and I just said "screw it all!" Then I decided that I have to look out for the one person everyone else has decided is meaningless: me.


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Posted on Tue, Mar 03, 2009 17:46

Like Kenny Rogers says You've got to know when to hold 'em, know when to fold 'em. Sounds like you've figured it out for yourself. I'm proud of you for taking care of YOU.


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Posted on Tue, Mar 03, 2009 16:56

Misty, From all your bogs - I would say he had it coming. You were patient and trying to play fair and raise the kids. Pull out the big guns and trump for what you derserve and what your kids deserve. It's about time someone looked out for you. Go get 'em tiger. Show your fighting spirit!


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Posted on Tue, Mar 03, 2009 15:47

Hey Misty you have been treated by him as a door mat during the marriage and after the split. You tried to not to cause a fuss and be fair. However he wanted more from you and to play silly head games. Now he keeps pushing for outragious things. Now it is YOUR time to use HIM as the doormat . Don't forget to put on the Golf spikes before you go to wipe your feet! You have been forced to by the bully to retreat till you have no choice. Either fight or roll over for the rest of your life. Now you are in the fight of your life . Go for the throat or Nads or both! Hang in there!! Destroy the cowardly CUR!!



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Posted on Mon, Mar 02, 2009 19:54

Again, I am with Buttrball, don't get mad...get everything dawling! ¿Sounds like you deserve it:)

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Posted on Sun, Mar 01, 2009 18:10

Truefriend

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If I may... Go for it.¿ Did it myself at one point.¿ Decided to fight, not same circumstances, but same threaths and same need to find courage and a will to fight you thought was exhausted.¿ You won't regret it, because in the end you're sense of justice will be satisfied, you got what you could get, but most important, you'll owe it to yourself and nobody will ever be able to take that away from you.¿ You fight, you win, and you'll have the pride of having done it.¿

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Good fight honey, my heart and vibes will be with you, trying to send your way some of the strenght I have and don't require at the moment.¿ Send it back when you're done. LOL



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Posted on Sat, Feb 28, 2009 23:01

Dont forget to take the Stove and the house it goes in!!!



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Posted on Sat, Feb 28, 2009 22:59

Hey hang in there . You will see the light at the end of the tunnel. You have tried to play fair, and nice.But if the rules keep changing all the time you have NO option. You have to crush your oponent in court. He had the gold mine (A loving wife, nice home and other things)You got the shaft in return. Now it is his turn now!!!! There is an old saying that goes something like this..."If you give a man enough rope he will hang himself." Meaning this If one says something Yet does the opposit they will be found out because the truth is plainly seen.Hey hang in there! Any TRUE Man would honored to have you as a freind. It has been said that" Causing pain and suffering to others only will hurt YOU in the long run!"



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