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Posted on Fri, Feb 27, 2009 19:17

Hi to all you wonderful people in blogland, I have not been on much recently as i have been busy with life and been a very lucky girl and had quite a few dates.

Am a memeber on some other sites and perhaps because I was the new girl on the block, got quite a few responses, some that i have been rather interested in.

Ok so you all know the drill you talk get to know them and if you are lucky one day you meet. All good not too hard to think with and should be so simple. Right? ..... NOT lol

I am starting to lose count of the amount of men that have twisted the truth to suit the situation, told part of the truth, or half the picture.

One man I really liked said he had broke up with his ex about 5 months before, truth came out after we were dating for a couple of weeks and she called him to say she wanted him back (he went). Turns out is was only 1 month before.

Another said he was 5 ft 4, my height, which was not ideal but ok. We meet and he is not even as tall as me WITH his booster shoes on.

Then there is the one that says he has a little bot belly, ok, we met and he was rounder than one of those exercise balls you can sit on.

To top it off another one that was was taking it up big how he wants good conversationa and that connection with a person and he would take that above just having sex with someone he does not like or connect with. Great, we establish that there is a connection, and agree to meet. He then cancels on me last minute because he got an offer from a woman for sex, that he already admited to me that he did not even like.

Ok had my rant here, lol, but I do wonder why bother???

Granted we all want to show our best side. I do too. I have what i consider is a nice pic here for example, but i do tell the men that this is one of those special pics that shows me in my best light and that i look different in real life, and I also have pics that show me looking different too.

If we re really out here to meet someone that may become special, why do we need to push the truth , or lie? Surely the end result is not good if you are deceiving someone, how ever slight this may be?

I am sure that women are all too guilty of this as well, and I guess I wont always disclose everything about me straight off, but would and do if I was asked. Want some one who is into me for me and all that i really am. otherwise why bother?



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Posted on Sun, Mar 29, 2009 08:46

i dont need long distance just looking at you is good enogh for me

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Posted on Sun, Mar 29, 2009 08:44

cool so whats been going on in your life

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Posted on Sun, Mar 29, 2009 08:43

i think you look awsome the computer says im a girl but i messed up my name is full proof youre the first atractive woman ive seen so i disided to take a shot im full proof

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Posted on Thu, Mar 19, 2009 03:57

Quoting: Originally posted by hd2000
hi oz, i TRULY/REALLY/HONESTLY/100% think you are a lovely looking woman. ......... so how am i doing, .. do i qualify for a date, lol x


LOL you are doing great, you have the date.¿

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Now just waiting for you to tell me that¿you dont dated long distance.¿ :)

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The rest I will take as being the truth.¿ he he he xxx



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Posted on Mon, Mar 02, 2009 19:23

Hi Red,

Okay, first of all, no. ¿You are way too "cool" to except anything less than "amazing". ¿Secondly, it sounds like you are doing a great job weeding out the guys out who, hmmm....need to be weeded. ¿Don't lose Faith girl, you got this! I have total confidence in your "spidey sense". You have to give everyone a shot, yes? ¿You are doing just fine. ¿And you never know who will knock on your door, so to speak, tomorrow! P.S: I love buttblls response...only I call it "Adult Onset Retardation" ¿as I get older anyway...lol:) ¿But to answer your question, why bother? ¿Because you know you should!!

Best of luck and more of it, xoxo~

Kat.

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Posted on Sun, Mar 01, 2009 18:04

Good Day all.

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You know me... Honesty is without a doubt the most important trait in anyone, character.¿ I don't justify lies, never will.¿¿I believe that not only do liers corrupt the truth but they make us feel like idiots for believing their lies and make us mistrusting afterwards.¿ Even if I've been lied to I try to trust from the first moment I meet someone.¿ Doing otherwise would be make that new person pay for all the lies I've been told before and it would be unfair.¿ However, there's always a little voice inside of me that keeps me looking for flags, for any hints of lies.¿ In the end, those lies we are told do that an impact on our innocence and ability to trust.¿ Lies will never be only lies.



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Posted on Sun, Mar 01, 2009 11:55

I think it's all too obvious why people are "fake" online. Your date that turned you down for a "better offer" is a prime example. It's se* that they're after. I honestly believe that on the majority of dating sites (especially the free or very low priced ones) that the users are primarily trolling. Trolling for perversions, trolling for se*, trolling for porn, trolling for the next fix, so to speak. Those of us that are actually honest and forthright in our profiles and honestly looking for true companionship, friendship and/or love have to deal with the deluge of trash while we stoically wait for Mr. or Mrs. Right. It's a hazard associated with the venue we have chosen. Anonymnity is a double edged sword, people. To be more apt to actually trust what we are "getting" versus what we "intuit", I would suggest the same thing I always do: Put absolutely NO emotional stock into what transpires online or via telephone. Put ALL stock into your first few meetings and your "gut feelings". I have a very good "bull-Zhit detector". I make very good use of it. good luck to all-- True


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Posted on Sat, Feb 28, 2009 12:40

I my self try to Be very Honest and always tell the truth ...That way I don't have to remember what little white lie I told someone. Because I have been Diagnosed with CRS syndrome( Can not remember¿ squat ).Yeah Ive lost a lot of dates this way.But would the relationship lasted any longer ,or be any better if I had?



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Posted on Fri, Feb 27, 2009 20:41

Good question. I believe in truth in advertising and answer all questions honestly or not at all.



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