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petale46
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Posted on Tue, Feb 10, 2009 02:16

I was reading the blog, understanding the psychology of man and I saw something I believe only existed in litterature from the past. Is it me or are tears and sex outdated as arsenal to bring a man back.

In the blogs, there is mention of tears, revealing pictures and promises of sex. I personnally, and I strongly stress here it's my personnal opinion and I'm not saying that women are, but I find this type of behaviour, being part of a woman's arsenal, incredibly degrading and making the cause of women go back 25 years. I would never cry in front or for a man that dump me. I just wouldn't, I would feel humiliated. I wouldn't send him pictures or promise sex in covered words, because I would feel like I'm selling and cheapening myself.

About you!! What is your arsenal when trying to get a man back?? All the men outthere, does tears and sex still work and if it does... does it last??



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Posted on Fri, Apr 03, 2009 11:43

Call me idealistic but if I need to be armed with anything more than honesty and a sense of humour it's not a battle I want to be in!


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Posted on Thu, Apr 02, 2009 13:15

Quoting: Originally posted by petale46

Butterball

Your insight is spot on. A relationship based on manipulation, the use of tears and sex as bargaining chips never last, because it is based on disshonesty. That's my personal opinion however.



I agree  that a relationship based on lies Dies.



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Posted on Sun, Feb 15, 2009 07:30

Bluegirl

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Manipulation is not the soul arsenal of women... just done differently when done by a man.¿

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But whether it's tears or sex, I believe this type of tactics is¿just as bad as lies.¿ It's dishonest and not a way to buil or have lasting relationship built on.¿ Those are very shaky foundation.



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Posted on Thu, Feb 12, 2009 06:56

Truefriendinme.

See, you're harsher then I am and I thought I was the ultimate bitch. I've had men try to get me back, and I'll admit trying to get some men back after the end.

I stopped trying as everytime it worked, it was never for long.



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Posted on Thu, Feb 12, 2009 05:01

I didn't realize it until far too late, but my ex-husband was VERY manipulative and very good at getting me to do what he wanted by using those manipulations. This is probably why I am so dead set against using manipulation or any other type of "head-game". I much prefer a straightforward approach.


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Posted on Wed, Feb 11, 2009 21:10

Sangraal

No, dear, we meant to use tears to make a guy give you or do what you want. I've cried about guys but I've never cried in front of a guy that dumped me.

I have to admit making one man cry when I dumped him. That's a reversal!!! I was totally shocked and honestly felt totally at lost. I didn't know what to do. In the end, and I don't think it's funny, I just blurted, Got to go, I've got something on the stove... we were in restaurant and had been there for hours.

I just panicked!!



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Posted on Wed, Feb 11, 2009 18:35

I have NEVER tried to get a man "back". If he dumped me, or I dumped him--it's over. I suspect it will remain so in my future. I tend to have a finality to these sorts of things. --True


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Posted on Wed, Feb 11, 2009 15:43

I have only cried out of loss or anger...I can truly say that a man has never made me cry unless I'm furious or he has died...now I wish I could say, "or both ," but I'm really not that dangerous a girl...whether I say I am or not...LOL



"...if you start considering yourself a person of some importance, just start trying to order some other feller's dog around..." The Cowboy Guide to Life

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Posted on Wed, Feb 11, 2009 09:19

I have no arsenal....If I have to use tears and sex to get him back then I realize he doesn't really want me or care for me....it's just pity.


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Posted on Wed, Feb 11, 2009 08:49

I speak from personal experiance. My NOW EX-WIFE was good at it,manipluations of the emotions.But after all the Drama she did to me now my Bull scat radar goes off when any one comes crying to me. Not to say that I am a cold heartless Bastard,but you better be able to prove beyond a reasonable doubt you need my help.


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Posted on Wed, Feb 11, 2009 06:58

Butterball

Your insight is spot on. A relationship based on manipulation, the use of tears and sex as bargaining chips never last, because it is based on disshonesty. That's my personal opinion however.



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Posted on Wed, Feb 11, 2009 06:57

Bluegirl2006

I'm so glad you said that... for a moment I thought I was the only one who thought this kind of behaviour belittles women. I would have never thought of it as a game. I think of it as dishonest, manipulative and totally wrong any way I look at it.

If that's what guys mean when they say they don't play games, I don't blame them.



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Posted on Tue, Feb 10, 2009 19:27

Yeah As a Guy I have to say it(the water works and the sex) works for a while.But sooner or later "we" wise up. when "we" do we leave because of all the emotional drama and the Flat stale growth of the relationship.


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Posted on Tue, Feb 10, 2009 17:25

This kind of thing is just game playing. I refuse to play this kind of emotional game.


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