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Posted on Wed, Dec 17, 2008 06:39

I had to write to Vegas to say "Thank You!" I have been feeling guilty for a while, although I know (in my secret, rational side)that it's not necessary. My divorce has been a very long time in coming (and I'm still waiting...), but I have been feeling guilty. Sometimes almost regretting this life-changing choice of mine. It's been a blessing and a burden. Now that the "burden" part is nearly over, I am trying to focus on the "blessing" part. I am trying to appreciate my decision for what it was: a recognition that the marraige was not what I needed and that I hadn't been happy in years. In a recent blog, Vegas wrote: "...what was perfect for us 5 years ago may not be ideal for us now because we are constantly chnaging, maturing and perfecting ourselves..." This was just: PERFECT. I have thought it many times, I have said it in so many words, but it hadn't clicked. Today...it clicked. It's a relief to try to go on, to forgive yourself for doing something that needed to be done. It's hard knowing that the choices we have made in life affect those closest to us, and sometimes not in a good or helpful way. But, it IS helpful to realize that it's for the best in the long run. It's what I needed and I can finally try to forgive myself. So, to Vegas: Thank you! --True


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Posted on Fri, Mar 06, 2009 11:26

That is the beauty of this blog forum, we can help each other. Sometimes we can be so sharp and smart and see things crystal clear before us, then at other times especially when emotions are running high we become blinded. Thankfully we have this resource filled with caring, intelligent people who are here to guide us through those times. Thank you truefriendinme, for all that you are and all that you do. You are very special!

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Posted on Tue, Jan 06, 2009 21:47

I'm not divorced.. have to get married for that. I'm not really religious so marriage is not a necessity to me and also it's the kind of step I would take if I truly believe, deep inside me, he's the one. I've never felt that. I've had a few long term relationships over the years. Lived with a few of these relationship (you have to know in Quebec, people live together more then they marry... and almost always do for a few years before they marry). I know I'm babbling now. My point is. If you sit down, no distraction, and if you analyse your conjugal life (and I know you're good at analysing and over doing it :-) If you come to the conclusion that the relationship wasn't good for you, then it propably wasn't good for him either. You are both better off cutting your loses before these loses break you. You don't want to lose yourself, become bitter or a pale copy of yourself because you tried to make it work until you drop. I mean, you are a well rounded invidual, smart and rational. This is not the kind of decision any being would take likely, it sure is no fun. It is requires an effort, if it makes you feel guilty or unsure, it's the right decision. They are never easy to take. But think now... the world is yours. You are your own human being. You can be what you want, change into anything you want and be this open, intelligent, attractive woman full of potential with the world to conquer. Go for it dear.


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Posted on Thu, Dec 18, 2008 08:08

*huggles* I know exactly what you are saying. I have thought so many times am I doing the right thing. I sat and had a long hard think..I know I'm doing the right thing, and reading what you put here I indeed, want to thank you both. Chin up girlies.. it can only get better from here =)


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