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Posted on Thu, Nov 13, 2008 23:48

Well, I told you it was coming and here it is. I hope to keep this one shorter (I can't believe y'all read that book I wrote lol)but I can't guarantee it. We all know the things I am about to say but a lot of us here are divorced so SOMEBODY forgot them. When you meet the one you decide to take on as your life partner, well first off take the time to get to know them. There are so many couples that do not last simply because they do not know each other before making what should be a life long commitment. Now, you know them well, you have dated for a while and maybe even had a long engagement (something I did but it didn't help), so now it's time to start your walk together. Remember this folks, this walk is not an easy one. As we walk hand in hand, guess what, there's them dang crossroads. Sometimes these crossroads are not four way stops, yep thats right it's either left or right, so what to do then? A lot of people I know that are divorced are so because of these situations. Why, you may ask, that's an easy one, they may have decided the new path together but they are no longer holding hands. That's my point of this story, it's not enough to walk together but you must be together. Theres a lot of times on this road of life that our path follows close to another of those people that are right for us (see Crossroads blog if you have not already). What are we to do when this happens, thats also easy if were willing to do it, if you are already holding the hand of your partner then just look down, let your eyes move from the hand your holding up the arm attached and look at the face of the one that won your heart to start with.(sappy huh?) I think if we take this walk together we should make every decision together. Have you ever seen those old TV shows like Leave It To Beaver, where Ward would come home and announce, "my boss will be here in about an hour"? Soooooo wrong. Every couple face the bigger things together but it's the little side roads that make the difference in the life of a couple, if you are not walking completely together (I'm tired of saying holding hands) it is real easy for one, the other or both to stray down a side road. Once these side roads are taken there is a big chance that your two roads never completely intersect again. There is an answer to this problem also, they will come close enough for the two of you to grab hold and pull each other back to the main road again, the main problem with this plan is too many people have too much pride to admit their on the wrong path so they will not work on getting back to the main road again. OK folks at this point I did a preview and noticed I had written another book so I will come to the end soon. I hope someone out there is getting something from all these rambling thoughts of mine, there is a lot of stuff going on in my head right now, and I thought I had killed all my brain cells when I was younger. Those few little guys that are left are busy right now so I wouldn't count on this being my lat blog along this line. I hope each of us here find someone to make us happy, that we accept these people's flaws (sounds like another blog) and walk the new path hand in hand and make it work...Till death does you part. I better stop now...later---Tom


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Posted on Sat, Nov 15, 2008 18:42

Oh Tom - I so get it and can't believe you took the time to write the book. Funny how when I married that I swore til death do us part and together forever and somewhere along the line realized that forever is a very long time. No regrets - I chose my crossroads and we learn from all that is good and bad. I hope to find a special someone that I can be with together - if not forever - for a very long happy time.


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