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Posted on Tue, Nov 11, 2008 00:41

Hi all, I am just sitting here early, very early, on a Tuesday morning, nothing on the tube, so I have my music playing and the old songs are making me think about where I was When the song was "big". I guess I'm also thinking that every place I was I made a choice to be there. Everything we do in life is a choice, a "crossroad" we must face. So what if I had gone down a different path at each of these crossroads? What if I had not quit that job when I was 24 to start another, where would I be now? What if I had not married my ex, would I have found someone that would have stayed with me forever or would I still be alone? I will admit I was very shy when I met her and she helped me come out of that shell. the guy I was then would have never be putting something like this out for the world to see, so I guess it's true that good things come from everything. I think what I am trying to get to is this--have you ever thought where you would be with a small change in your past? A few weeks ago Ram wrote a blog about depression, well I have been there also. I allowed myself to be transfered to another city years ago and for some reason I hated, really HATED the city I went to live and work in and thus started my years of deep, but hidden, depression so what if I had not gone? Just think how all the small things we decide to or not to do can become such big things down the road. There is no one crossroad (decision)that I can say for sure would have changed my life for the better or the worse, but the thing is I don't know what entirely different life decision (crossroad) I would have faced if I had just taken another road years back. We all face these crossroads everyday, sometimes we don't realize it was a crossroad till years later when you say what if I had done or not done this small thing. I have to wonder that if any of you realize that when you joined this site you were at a crossroad? you could have decided to join another site, decided to keep looking on your own or even decided to just live with being alone. There are 100 plus success stories on this site, what if they had not joined here, would they have ever met or would they have found someone else to make them just as happy? Whoever it was that said there's someone for everyone had to be wrong because with every decision leading down a new road there must be more then one someone for everyone or all these crossroads would never lead to the ONE somebody. we just have to accept the road were on and find the one for you whose road is running side by side with yours at that time you both need to decide to start a whole new road together and always walk that road together. That is a whole different blog there. (coming soon I do believe). Choose your roads carefully folks, you have to walk it for a long time. Good luck to each and everyone here, happy choosing---Tom


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Posted on Fri, Nov 14, 2008 00:11

Good points from all 3 of you. some of the things y'all are counterpointing (big word for MS ain't it) me with are covered with the blog I just finished. I should have stopped here before writing it I guess, I will say I like the idea of many people on my road, I don't know if I just never thought of it that way or if it's that when I wrote it I couldn't see anyone else walking it with me. Thanks to all that commented here and check out my next one. Yep it's long too so don't go in till you have time.


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Posted on Thu, Nov 13, 2008 09:03

I agree with both Oz and Butter. I think that in the course of a lifetime, we all are faced with so many problems with multiple choice answers. Problem is: there are invariably one or MORE right answers. As Oz put it: we choose what is right for us AT THE TIME. I know from personal experience that there have been times in my life that I was not ready for change, so my choices in life reflected that. I dont' necessarily think that we all are on a "path" and have to wait for someone else's path to converge with our own. That's such a lonely way to look at it. I think there are many people on the SAME path as me. And we meet along the way. When people meet along the path, they decide for themselves if the are going to stop for a while and rest, or keep walking. Sometimes only our shadows cross, sometimes we actually stop and chat. Sometimes, we move closer, so as to see the person better in the glaring sun, and sometimes we decide to "REST"--together. There are many, many destinations, every day. We pass by multiple "potentials" every day. We make the choices that will lead us past them, or right to their doors. Not everyone will want to stop and talk a while. Not everyone will have time--we all are "on our way" somewhere. We have to decide enroute what and who we want to stop for, if at all. When we DO stop, it's likely for just a visit. Sometimes we only chat, maybe we'll have coffee. But, sometimes it leads to something more. That's when a decision must be made. Do we continue on our way? Or do we stop for a while and rest--together?--True


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Posted on Wed, Nov 12, 2008 22:15

I think we all have done that and wondered sometimes. But it has been said that hind sight is 20/20 and the present is 10/20 and the future is legally blind. I figure the best way to not fret about is . If you buy in to the "theory of a multi verse" Meaning that there could be many "you's" out in the universe each following a path divergent from your"own."So that way I figure it some where there is a "me " that has it worse off than " ME." The other ME's have traveled path's that I did not take, some better some much worse.


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Posted on Wed, Nov 12, 2008 14:49

I often think about this too Tom, as I like to learn about why I am here (in life) I often have to look at what choices I have made that led me to this path in life. I think we have these crossroad everyday, some small some larger, though as you say, we are not aware of them at the time. In my class I teach that your future is made today, and what today looks like, is due to the choices you made in the past. We can not see how all our decisions will affect our future but I think that we all make the best possible decision from what we know and where we are at the time. Your decisions choose the path you travel and your path defines who you are. It is who you are that brings the special "one" to you. Yes I think there is more than ONE person for you out there. You attract that person to you that reflects where you are at the time, good or bad. I dont believe you are stuck on the road you choose, unless you just blindly walk it and do not evaluate how you have come to walk this path. For like any road there are always turn offs that can be taken, and each path you take bring you closer to the one that you are meant to or want to be on.


Life is only as wonderful as you think it is.

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