Plus size Blogs > Truefriendinme's blogs > Missing the Attention
Missing the Attention Sort by:
Author
truefriendinme
Available only
to logged in members

total posts: 638
Posted on Sun, Jul 27, 2008 09:58

Hey Guys! I have been gone for quite a whle now. No, I have not been dating, I've just been submerged in what I would like to refer to as "life". However, it feels more and more like simply "existing". Lately, I think about dating and missing the male-side of life. While I like being alone (my "quiet time), I miss the companionship. I miss someone making me feel that "way". I have not dated anyone since the separation/divorce (almost final-- THANKK GOD!) in Nov. '06. I think the women will understand what I mean more, but men might, too. I'm just in that place, wanting companionship but not wanting committment. Scared to date for fear I might go too far, too fast, but in a way really *needing* to. I think maybe the interaction is the most important thing right now, but I can't make myself do it. What do you think?--TrueFriendInMe

Available only
to logged in members

Reply / add comments   Quote   Report abuse    0 up Bookmark and Share
petale46
Available only
to logged in members

total posts: 229
Posted on Thu, Feb 19, 2009 08:50

Reading an old blog of yours True.¿ I know what you mean.¿ I miss the companionship too.¿ It's been a while for me.¿ Actually I miss hearing someone breathe in my bed in the middle of the night, miss the warmth of another body.¿ It's not about sex.. it's about waking up at 3h00 in the morning and feeling comforted by the presence of another human being.



Reply / add comments   Quote   Report abuse    0 up Bookmark and Share
butterbll
Available only
to logged in members

total posts: 812
Posted on Fri, Aug 01, 2008 12:27

truefriendinme Am I going to have to your town to get you to smile? I know that right now you feel like life has rode you hard and put you wet. I know it is hard to stay posative when life keeps kicking you in the teeth, But you get up and fight back. If no one else will pamper you ,YOU pamper you. Because you deserve It. So here is a big HUG. and a soft kiss on the cheek.Hopefully it will bring a smile to you face.


Reply / add comments   Quote   Report abuse    0 up Bookmark and Share
AmuseMe
Available only
to logged in members

total posts: 850
Posted on Thu, Jul 31, 2008 19:21

Heya True! We gotta do something about that picture babydoll. You look too SAD! I am in that place with you, and I am sure I am not the only one here, too. Cept I keep dating all the wrong guys. Don't feel bad about not wanting a commitment! You are in the PRIME of your life honey! You don't have to be in a committed relationship in order to let someone in, be comfortable with and fulfilling your "desires" all at the same time. I'm not suggesting you go out and make it with strangers, but you don't have to wait til you've decided the guys marriage material before you roll a few rounds with him, do you? Take it easy, have fun, grab life with both hands while you are still able to. Seriously. Love ya girlie.


In your rocking-chair, by your window dreaming, shall you long, alone. In your rocking-chair, by your window, shall you dream such happiness as you may never feel. –Theodore Dreiser

Reply / add comments   Quote   Report abuse    0 up Bookmark and Share
truefriendinme
Available only
to logged in members

total posts: 638
Posted on Wed, Jul 30, 2008 18:10

Thanks guys! And, NoDrama, yeah, I'm gonna stick around a while. I'm at a "low point", as Butterbll pointed out so eloquently (just kidding, honey! LOL!). I'm hoping this will make me a little bit more optomistic about the "gotta- get-here- some-freakin'-day- because- it-really-can't-get- much -worse" high points that we are all supposed to encounter but are truly elusive to me right now.--True


Reply / add comments   Quote   Report abuse    0 up Bookmark and Share
Available only
to logged in members

total posts: 301
Posted on Wed, Jul 30, 2008 16:28

Hugs to you true. Hang in there it will all work out..


0 up Bookmark and Share
nodramaaroundme
Available only
to logged in members

total posts: 285
Posted on Tue, Jul 29, 2008 11:33

Awww hugs True. Honestly, the next time I go to Charlie Town to visit family I want to look you up...if you don't mind. I know the feeling you are talking about. You might have inspired me to write a blog on my "crazy" life and ask what I should do out something. I hope you hang around the blog world for a while.


Reply / add comments   Quote   Report abuse    0 up Bookmark and Share
ozredhead62
Available only
to logged in members

total posts: 1011
Posted on Tue, Jul 29, 2008 08:57

After the pain of love gone wrong it can be really hard to want to expose ourselves to potentially more pain. It can take time to heal and to be willing to open up to someone else again. One thing that has helped me in dealing and being open to love/dating is asking myself a question. What have I learned from this and how have I contributed to what has happened? Now I dont mean in a blame them look how bad they are way. I mean look at yourself and how you have in what ever way been part of it. Sometimes it could be that you accepted things that you knew you should not have. Other times it may be that you expected love with out giving it. These have been some of my answers, and I'm not saying they are yours. I think that hurt and pain can make us feel like victims, like we had no control over the outcome, when in fact this is usually not true. The answers dont always come straight away, but if you really want to know, they will come, and with them will come a renewal of strength and control. Give it a try, it just might help. Good luck xxx


Life is only as wonderful as you think it is.

Reply / add comments   Quote   Report abuse    0 up Bookmark and Share
butterbll
Available only
to logged in members

total posts: 812
Posted on Tue, Jul 29, 2008 06:59

Hang in there!The feeling of being in limbo does pass. It does get better,with the passage of time.Or at least in my case.I know what you mean that some times you just need to be held or just have someone of the oppisite gender pay atttention to you.It is because of the low points in our lives , that the high points are soo much sweeeter.


Reply / add comments   Quote   Report abuse    0 up Bookmark and Share
Katwoman1968
Available only
to logged in members

total posts: 358
Posted on Mon, Jul 28, 2008 13:11

True, I know exactly what you are feeling. My divorce is final August 12th and I had my first date two weeks ago....actually someone I met on here. It was really scary for me but I "needed" some male companionship. I'm glad I took that first step into the dating world again. Next time it will be even easier. I say give it a try...if you are too uncomfortable or not ready then you can wait until you are. Good luck. Kris


Reply / add comments   Quote   Report abuse    0 up Bookmark and Share
Available only
to logged in members

total posts: 132
Posted on Mon, Jul 28, 2008 12:59

Hello and welcome back ! I have felt as you do, only my thing was a rocky break up. It made me angry, bitter, lack faith in love and men. Yet I am a woman after all and I can have a great job, supportive friends and family and all the pleasantries a comfortable life should, however there will forever be a void of where a man should be. We can only do so much on our own. Sometimes it does feel as if we are robots just going through the motions and supposedly living. I think if you started a friendship with a man, nothing serious or uncomfortable too fast. Just someone to start out as a person to talk to then share feelings and such with...then in time it could eveolve to a relationship. At least then you would already have a foundation established and it would help your comfort level. There are a lot of me on this site who are looking for women to be friends with or hang out with and have that " let's see where this goes " attitude. I think that is great. Sometimes without the pressure of a romatic relationship looming above your head you can actually have a better time together as you won't be stressing ! Best of luck to you !

Available only
to logged in members

0 up Bookmark and Share
Follow - Email me when people comment