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Posted on Tue, Mar 18, 2008 15:30

In reading some male blogs, blogs comments and profiles there seems to be a repeated theme of wanting "someone comfortable in their own skin," "confident BBW," and "someone who can take a compliment." And all I want to say to these men is "WAKE UP!" Now I'm not going to tell you that every BBW (Big Beautiful Woman) is proud of her size and walks around with her head up, which would be untrue. But if society was excepting of BBW's and BHM (Big Handsome Men) then there would not be a need for this site. Women that are all shapes and sizes have days when they do not feel so "sexy" and that's ok. It's a little harder for a BBW because even on the days that we believe that we are at our sexiest it only takes one disapproving look or overlook to shatter our spirit. To give an example, I'm a confident and outspoken person on most days. One day I was at my sexiest, nice fitting clothes, make-up on and hair freshly done...no one couldn't tell me anything. I was walking around flirting left and right and then it happened. My good friend, who is tall, slender and beautiful inside and out, went out with me. And there went any attention I was drawing my way. At first I felt like a little troll standing next to her, but it's only because my friend is such a wonderful person that that I regained my footing. When guys tried to exclude me from conversations or almost stand in front of me to talk to her, she turned her back on them and talked to me directly. Soon only the quality guys were around us and the conversation was great, with everyone involved. And this only happened because of the person my friend is and the person I am. The evening could have gone in a whole different direction, a very painful direction for me at least. So WAKE UP guys! Just because you claim to be that guy that enjoys a full figured woman it doesn't mean she hasn't heard that before. I've heard my male friends talk about "trying" to be nice to the fat friend so they can get the skinny chick. I held my friend as she tearfully told me the story of a guy she had a crush on tell her he only dates fat girls in the winter time to keep him warm. No one wants someone that is needy all the time, but to think that a woman who most likely has been excluded most of her life due to her size can just be confident and comfortable with her size is unreal. I can only speak for myself, in the beginning of a relationship (friendship) it can be a little nerve racking, but once it settles down that confidence and outspoken nature will appear. And yes it's related to how I'm being treated by the guy, because if he makes me feel uncomfortable he won't see the confidence. And now that I'm more mature the only thing he will see is my backside as I walk away.


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Posted on Sun, Mar 30, 2008 21:21

Very cool, nodrama!!! I loved reading this!!!


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Posted on Fri, Mar 28, 2008 10:03

Hi NoDrama, You are lucky to have a true friend. HUGS Crystal


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Posted on Tue, Mar 25, 2008 08:43

Some of us men like to treat our ladies like the QUEENS they truly are.


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Posted on Mon, Mar 24, 2008 13:19

As usual NoDrama you have spoken both eloquently and intelligently. Now let's hope that some of the men on this site read this and get a clue...LOL Kris


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Posted on Sat, Mar 22, 2008 18:51

Amen, sister. You have said a truthful mouthful. What a wonderful friend, consider yourself lucky.

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Posted on Fri, Mar 21, 2008 11:43

NoDrama-- I LOVE it. Yup, as usual, you are right-on-the-money...


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Posted on Thu, Mar 20, 2008 16:07

NoDrama !! YES YES YES YES and kudos to your friend, she is a true friend and one you will treasure forever. You are both wonderful and I agree with what you said wholeheartedly. Two angels sharing friendship, what more can you ask for? Natalie


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Posted on Wed, Mar 19, 2008 06:41

Hi... I totally agree with u.. when I am with someone that I know appricates me then I can be confident and secure within myself and with him. I am confident and secure within my family... my job and with my friends as well but when meeting somone new I generally have to "test the waters" ... just as anyone of any size would but for those of us who have been rejected for our size it is a little harder "sometimes" to just go in with all that confidence glowing from within... so.. patience is a very good thing... just my opinion...


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