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Posted on Wed, Feb 13, 2008 08:54

Over the weekend I stumbled across the movie The Mirror Has Two faces, Barbar Streisand and Jeff Bridges are two college professors who date then marry. The premise of the marriage is non-sexual. To get along - be friends, confidants,mates as it would be after the sex waned out of the relationship. If you have seen the movie you know how it ended, if not rent it. :-) It really got me thinking about the foundation of a relationship and if the movie held more then the reality to a really good relationship. Should we look outside of the physical attraction? Ignore that "spark" that drives us - over 50- baby boomers? Or make note of the spark and work around it for an undetermined amount of time. Can a relationship sustain itself without sex? Natalie


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Posted on Sun, Feb 24, 2008 06:08

Quoting: Originally posted by s7veninches Most men want sex in the relationship. Any woman who decides she doesn't want sex without consulting the husband FIRST is dooming the marriage and it is HER fault.

s7veninches, in the movie, HE wanted no sex in the marriage. SHE wanted the romance, the intimacy. HE learned that it once they are deep friends,once they established a platonic foundation, the loving and lust were fantastic ! I think you need to watch the movie or are you speaking of personal experience only? Nat


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Posted on Mon, Feb 18, 2008 15:25

I agree with Bluegirl on the note that a marraige could work without sex-- if the partners were happy that way. I was in a marraige where I could have easily given up sex (and did). However, I could not trust him nor respect him. Had those two most important aspects been within reach, I never would have left.


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Posted on Thu, Feb 14, 2008 00:23

Excellent movie, but I think of the moral of the story a little differently. To me, this movie demonstrates that physical beauty is not nearly as important as most people think it is when it comes to falling in love. Gregory fell in love with her mind and because of that love, wound up very physically attracted to her. Even though he had chosen her initially because of her "plainness". In the end they had a very sexual marriage (or at least that was implied). I think trust, respect, and emotional intimacy are the most important ingredients for a happy and successful marriage. If 2 people trust and respect each other, and are both dedicated to creating and keeping emotional intimacy a marriage without sex CAN work. IF both partners want the same thing out of the marriage. Respect and trust are pretty easy when you find someone with similar values as yourself. But intimacy is another story. Makes you vulnerable. I've found it is far easier to be intimate emotionally, even with someone you are madly in love with, when you are intimate physically. And emotional intimacy is something that you need to work to keep. Its easy to get distracted by the day to day grind and let it slip. But its sooooo worth the effort to keep. Makes all the difference in the world in your happiness quotient.


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