Hypothetically, ( okay so I was bored and thinking in the car on the way to the periodontist) i know we've danced around this issue a few times in different ways. Now I'm wondering. okay, bored.
Just suppose you choose to discard some weight, not all, just say 20 pounds.
Then there is this reply to your profile and new picture. It's someone you've seen on the list of "viewed you" However, he never contacted you. He's now interested and wants to go out.
What do you do: Do you now go out with him/her?
( see I know you were wondering how you would know this guy/gal did not contact you "before")
Hypothetically, ( okay so I was bored and thinking in the car on the way to the periodontist) i know we've danced around this issue a few times in different ways. Now I'm wondering. okay, bored.
Just suppose you choose to discard some weight, not all, just say 20 pounds.
Then there is this reply to your profile and new picture. It's someone you've seen on the list of "viewed you" However, he never contacted you. He's now interested and wants to go out.
What do you do: Do you now go out with him/her?
( see I know you were wondering how you would know this guy/gal did not contact you "before")
Hey Melissa, Sorry, I know you said send an email, but I'm not a full-member so I can't, but I would love the info, I have always loved to watch Belly dancing and would love to learn how!!
Hey Melissa,
Sorry, I know you said send an email, but I'm not a full-member so I can't, but I would love the info, I have always loved to watch Belly dancing and would love to learn how!!
If the weightloss is 20 lbs. I would have not thought anything about it and been interested. Now if I had lost substantial weight (75 lbs., for example) then I would question it a little.
If the weightloss is 20 lbs. I would have not thought anything about it and been interested. Now if I had lost substantial weight (75 lbs., for example) then I would question it a little.
Not corny at all. Belly dancing is actually a terrific way to get a good cardio vascular workout. Also, if you pursue belly dancing further, you will find you will use muscles that often are not targeted in typical workouts. It is also a great way to develop self esteem and body love.
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LegalEagle224 write: I'd go for it Nat. You'll never know if it was purposeful or coincidental. If you don't got out with him, how will you know he's not THE one? Take a chance.
Oh, I've been losing weight too. I feel great and I hope the trend continues. I know this will sound corny but a friend gave me a belly dancing workout DVD called Flex Appeal. I tried it and it really works for me. It's lots of fun too! I would recommend it to anyone who's looking for something a little unconventional. Send me an email if your interested.
Melissa
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LegalEagle224 write: I'd go for it Nat. You'll never know if it was purposeful or coincidental. If you don't got out with him, how will you know he's not THE one? Take a chance.
Oh, I've been losing weight too. I feel great and I hope the trend continues. I know this will sound corny but a friend gave me a belly dancing workout DVD called Flex Appeal. I tried it and it really works for me. It's lots of fun too! I would recommend it to anyone who's looking for something a little unconventional. Send me an email if your interested.
Melissa
Not corny at all. Belly dancing is actually a terrific way to get a good cardio vascular workout. Also, if you pursue belly dancing further, you will find you will use muscles that often are not targeted in typical workouts. It is also a great way to develop self esteem and body love.
I think if we had talked before and he had never asked me out before, I might wonder why, but I don't know if I would actually ASK why. But, if it is something that really bugged me, or I thought that the person was being superficial, I would ask. If I didn't think the person was being truthful, or if I thought he was lying to me, I wouldn't persue it (the relationship) any further.
I think if we had talked before and he had never asked me out before, I might wonder why, but I don't know if I would actually ASK why. But, if it is something that really bugged me, or I thought that the person was being superficial, I would ask. If I didn't think the person was being truthful, or if I thought he was lying to me, I wouldn't persue it (the relationship) any further.
I'd go for it Nat. You'll never know if it was purposeful or coincidental. If you don't got out with him, how will you know he's not THE one? Take a chance.
Oh, I've been losing weight too. I feel great and I hope the trend continues. I know this will sound corny but a friend gave me a belly dancing workout DVD called Flex Appeal. I tried it and it really works for me. It's lots of fun too! I would recommend it to anyone who's looking for something a little unconventional. Send me an email if your interested.
Melissa
I'd go for it Nat. You'll never know if it was purposeful or coincidental. If you don't got out with him, how will you know he's not THE one? Take a chance.
Oh, I've been losing weight too. I feel great and I hope the trend continues. I know this will sound corny but a friend gave me a belly dancing workout DVD called Flex Appeal. I tried it and it really works for me. It's lots of fun too! I would recommend it to anyone who's looking for something a little unconventional. Send me an email if your interested.
smoosh write: Overanalysis - go for it - maybe he simply liked the new pic, has been reading your blogs, his circumstances have changed, he saw your profile but never read it through - don't miss an opportunity - you only live once. Live on the edge a little. Maybe someone ecnouraged him to be brave and take the same chance / opportunity.
smoosh, I always like your thinking
Thanks,
Nat
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smoosh write:
Overanalysis - go for it - maybe he simply liked the new pic, has been reading your blogs, his circumstances have changed, he saw your profile but never read it through - don't miss an opportunity - you only live once.
Live on the edge a little. Maybe someone ecnouraged him to be brave and take the same chance / opportunity.
Overanalysis - go for it - maybe he simply liked the new pic, has been reading your blogs, his circumstances have changed, he saw your profile but never read it through - don't miss an opportunity - you only live once. Live on the edge a little. Maybe someone ecnouraged him to be brave and take the same chance / opportunity.
Overanalysis - go for it - maybe he simply liked the new pic, has been reading your blogs, his circumstances have changed, he saw your profile but never read it through - don't miss an opportunity - you only live once.
Live on the edge a little. Maybe someone ecnouraged him to be brave and take the same chance / opportunity.
I wouldn't,because your the same person just 20lbs lighter.The question would always bother you regardless what his explanation was.Move on to someone who takes the time to know you as a person first.
I wouldn't,because your the same person just 20lbs lighter.The question would always bother you regardless what his explanation was.Move on to someone who takes the time to know you as a person first.
I see no reason not to go for it. The weight loss might not be the reason they waited. I'm just shy myself and have to talk myself into things sometimes. Give them a chance.
I see no reason not to go for it. The weight loss might not be the reason they waited. I'm just shy myself and have to talk myself into things sometimes. Give them a chance.
I think we should just go for it - going by the state of these blogs some of us clearly need to get out more, lol!
On a more serious note, if it was on a site like this I'd try not to read too much into it. An upated photo will often get more ttention whether it's down to weight loss, a new hair do, new specs or simply a smilier pic.
However, if it was someone I had known for a while who suddenly started showing interest after 20lbs weight los .... I'd likely write them off as being shallow!
I think we should just go for it - going by the state of these blogs some of us clearly need to get out more, lol!
On a more serious note, if it was on a site like this I'd try not to read too much into it. An upated photo will often get more ttention whether it's down to weight loss, a new hair do, new specs or simply a smilier pic.
However, if it was someone I had known for a while who suddenly started showing interest after 20lbs weight los .... I'd likely write them off as being shallow!
hmmm. I would explore it some if I was really drawn to the person but would ferret out their edges and limits on the weight issue. I find that those of us who are large tend to ascribe more influence and attention to our size than those who are interested in us as a rule.
hmmm. I would explore it some if I was really drawn to the person but would ferret out their edges and limits on the weight issue. I find that those of us who are large tend to ascribe more influence and attention to our size than those who are interested in us as a rule.
I do think I would give that person a chance. It could be pure coincidence or even incidental that the weight loss and the contact occurred at the same time. It could be the timing is better for this person. It could be that the weight loss resulted in you feeling more confident or playful and that this showed in the new photo.
Unless you give this person a shot you'll never know.
I do think I would give that person a chance. It could be pure coincidence or even incidental that the weight loss and the contact occurred at the same time. It could be the timing is better for this person. It could be that the weight loss resulted in you feeling more confident or playful and that this showed in the new photo.
Unless you give this person a shot you'll never know.
I would go out with them.There could be many reasons that the person may not of contacted you. like they might not have been a "gold "member " when they first viewed your profile, now the are. or involver in a relationship with a nother, now they are not in that relationship. so at least you might get a nother freind.
I would go out with them.There could be many reasons that the person may not of contacted you. like they might not have been a "gold "member " when they first viewed your profile, now the are. or involver in a relationship with a nother, now they are not in that relationship. so at least you might get a nother freind.
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