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Suzieq22
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Posted on Sun, Dec 09, 2007 15:53

I can't believe its over a year and a half since I wrote my blog. Again, I let my membership lapse because I was discouraged with the quality of the profiles that were posted from my area. Now that I've upgraded again to a gold its still not good because the site and my computer are just not seeing eye to eye. I can't even wink at the guys who do look interesting. I'm still single. Must be too fussy. I've had some nice dates from this and other sites but mostly they show me the kind of man that I don't want. I don't want to even think about what it would be like to go out with a guy who posts a picture of himself in his bathrobe on his profile. ewww ! HOT ROD FOR U..not happening ever! Married, looking for discrete encounters..jerks totally. I went out a couple times with a man who had a really nice, friendly picture, sounded like we had similar values.. Spiritual but not religious..went to a movie and would you believe it.. he takes my hand in the dark, and places it on a fully exposed and hot piece of flesh ewww. Amazingly I didn't walk out..but all conversation and interaction ended. Afterwards "are you mad? why are you upset" When I got home I emailed the man and told him how inappropriate his behavior was. We made contact again over a year later ( doesn't everyone deserve a second chance)..and this time went to a comedy club..not dark like a movie theatre..guess what..same thing. I don't want to paw anyone in public. I'd already paid for the entertainment so again didn't leave him sitting there but stayed and completely enjoyed the performance. He pouted through the whole evening and then said how could I be so frigid and puritanical and yet laugh at that racy humor. I'm neither frigid or puritanical. I just think there's a time and place for everything. Went out with another man who started planning our future life together on our first date..I was exactly what he was looking for..duh..I wasn't supposed to have any say in these big decisions. Sigh.. I don't know who I'm looking for..a pleasant, funny man..presentable but not that slim and fit, sorry. I like comfortable cuddly men. I'm not Barbie and I don't want Ken. I don't want someone who wants to take over my life and start telling me everything that I should and shouldn't do. I'm pretty independent and happy with life the way it is, except I'm missing cuddles, hugs and good healthy sex in a monagamous relationship. Nice intelligent conversation would be good too. Well that's all my musings for today..catch you later.


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Posted on Sun, Jan 13, 2008 13:03

Personnaly I would have walked out.Maybe he's a little dense that public sex is not your cup of tea.Don't get dicouraged.


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Posted on Mon, Dec 10, 2007 19:17

Sounds like you've had the dates I fear most! FREAKS! And, boy are you nice about it! I'd have punched that -in-the-dark-exposing-disgusting-place-for-a-hand-grabbing-PERVO in the nose right after pulling his "ripcord" hard enough to dislodge his spinal column from his brain!! Why, oh WHY would you give a freak like that a second chance! You must be so kind-hearted. It would be just PRIME to be your friend. I'll bet you are loyal and true (like me). Promise me to WALK OUT if that ever happens again! That is SEXUAL ASSAULT!! I can guarantee that man has done worse to others...offenders DO NOT rehabilitate...they re-offend!


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Posted on Mon, Dec 10, 2007 09:15

Hi Suzieq, I have been meeting men for the six years I've been in Florida. In fact one day a friend, in the UK, and I were IM'ing about the men we've met. We put together a list for kicks. Well that list is now 25 face to face meetings in six years. That's just over 4 men a year. It also means 25 men that were not for me or I was not for them. I'm fussy, as you are. I'm always amazed at one thing though. I view these as you do, an education into knowing what I don't want and more importantly into having a stronger idea of what I do what. I still enjoy meeting someone face to face, for me it's the only way to figure out the real person behind the picture. I don't want to leave the site because I feel that being here gives me the edge for someone to find me or for me to find him. If I'm off the site and he wanders in, then I might lose that opportunity for him to find me or me to find him. Don't give up - stick with it ! Just my 2.5 cents. Besides the blogs are great fun and a wonderful education and some of the laughs are well worth the read :-) Nat


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Posted on Mon, Dec 10, 2007 03:24

Sounds like you hit the bottom of the barrel with a few of those dates. That's rough. But hang in there. I know from personal experience that there ARE some really great fish in that there sea. And welcome back to the blogs. Hope to hear more from you.


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