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nodramaaroundme
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Posted on Tue, Nov 27, 2007 20:25

Hey everyone, I hope you all had a great holiday. I need some legal or otherwise advice. I'm at my wits end with the job. 10 years at a company and never had to go to HR now I'm in there almost every week or emailing the manager. The VP, Director and Manager are all friends so I have nowhere to turn. All they keep telling me is to find another job, but no one is trying to help me with the Manager and Supervisor that are writing me up for things that they are letting the other 7 members of the dept get away with. Today, I had to go into the office while everyone else was given the option of a Company paid day off. I showed them where I came across the other members "falsifying" information and I got in trouble for reporting it. Honestly the only reason they have not fired me is because I broke my ankle on the job and have been battling that for a little over a year. I have never mentioned a lawsuit but every time I go to see the HR Manager he mentions I don't have a case for a lawsuit. At this point I'm starting to wonder if I do have a case. It has to be a way to stop them from harassing me until I can find another job. HELP!


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Posted on Thu, Oct 23, 2008 05:40

how do i now if that person likes me for me and not how munch i hav


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Posted on Thu, Dec 13, 2007 00:51

So today started my vacation and they had to end it with a bang. When they wrote me up the last time it was because my numbers were bad. They wrote me up this time because my numbers improved and it was suspicious. I expressed it was a hostile work environment and I was told it was all in my head by the person causing me issue. And to end the meeting they told me in 30 days we would meet again and it won't be a conversation about my attitude that I will be gone. Mine you I'm on vacation for the rest of December. *sigh* I need a lawyer...


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Posted on Sat, Dec 01, 2007 18:04

Thanks again. Friday started off good with this cute red head opening a door for me but ended with my manager claiming I wasn't at my desk and he was looking for me. I only left my desk 3 times, going to the bathroom, getting some water and lunch. Mine you I saw him several times on Friday but he wanted to ruin my weekend. Yes, I'm documenting and sending all emails home that I receive. I guess I need to get better at keeping a time line. Nat, yes it's a right to will state. So again it was a blessing that I broke my ankle on the job. I'm job hunting left and right, but I keep asking for someone to stop the harassment in the meantime. It just has to be a way to stop it. I've already come to the realization that I won't be getting a raise this year...the first time in 10 years with the company. This is so unreal.


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Posted on Thu, Nov 29, 2007 12:15

Sounds to me that they know you have grounds for a suite. Maybe you need to seek professional advice. I don't think I would go to one of those "sue your mother if u want" lawyers.( no offence to anyone here that pratice law but we all know they exist). I myself don't know what kind of lawyer or cancel you should see but maybe someone here thats smarter than me could tell you. I can't see where this will get any better on it's own, just do your job as best you can and keep good records of everything they say or do to you. Good luck with all this.


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Posted on Wed, Nov 28, 2007 21:55

Leagleagle and butterbll make good points! Stress free WITH legal counsel sounds good to me...


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Posted on Wed, Nov 28, 2007 20:51

I say Lawyer up. Because if the company ( Manager and supervisor) has been writing you up for Perceived infractions and lets others slide,It then has a hostile work environment towards you. I had a similar problem where I did up until recently worked.I'll make a long story short I complained because of the corporate incompetence, lack of support from management, and grossly under staffing. you guessed it I got the dreaded peace of ladies undergarment.(Pink Slip). I have to say now My stress levels has dropped off. before Due to the stress. I was getting heart burn constantly was eating Tums like candy to . now not a peep. Broke yes ,but very stress free.


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Posted on Wed, Nov 28, 2007 20:21

Thank you everyone for your help, I'm so sleepy I can't reply like I would like, but I will fill you in on this craziness later. Thanks again!


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Posted on Wed, Nov 28, 2007 16:35

Ok, this is actually something I can help with. I have a a few questions though. 1. Do you have a union where you work? 2. Do you have a legal service as part of your benefits? (some do) Now, you need to record and keep copies of everything including conversations, dates, etc. Now, you really should write down all of the events that have happened in chronoligical order. When doing this, go back and edit out all words that refer to how you were feeling (summarize shortly and concisely how you felt at the end). Also, take out all assumptions and conjectures and only report the facts. The reason for this is that it will be harder to poke holes in if you go into a legal battle. Unfortunately, there's nothing you can do to change the working environment if management is unwilling to help you. But there is still hope. I strongly recommend you get your facts together (and quickly) because they can (and probably will) fire you once they write you up enough times according to their office policies. They're obviously trying to chase you and and that's never a good situation. Ok, I'll stop here and wait until you get back to me. I have several ideas which could work if we do this right. :) Feel free to email me and I'll get back to you tomorrow night. On a personal note, I'm very sorry you're in this situation. I've been there too but never to this degree. Just hang in there the best you can. (((hug))) Oh, and even though you don't like the idea...you really should do some job-hunting and see what's out there. That way at least you'll have something to fall back on if you need it. Who knows what you may find...maybe even a better opportunity. Just don't lose hope. I'll try to help you any way I can. :) Melissa


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Posted on Wed, Nov 28, 2007 14:56

ND, Boy you sure do have a sticky situation there. Not that you are doing that, but as Amy said document, document and then document. There is good advice on that website about similar things. {{{{{ NODRAMA}}} keep us posted, you ARE among friends here for sure. Is your state a right to work state? I know Florida is and North Caroline is also. Nisi32132


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Posted on Wed, Nov 28, 2007 14:47

I think you do need to contact an attorney this time. If you aren't quite ready to do that, contact your local Department of Labor office and/or Civil Liberties Union and see if anyone there can offer you any advice.


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Posted on Wed, Nov 28, 2007 08:05

Hey ND, First off, *hugs*, what an awful situation. I don't think I could give good advice but I do know one thing: document, document, document. I hope you are writing down dates, times and specifics. Whatever you choose to do in the future, your position will be bolstered by your documentation. If you DO have documentation that you think shows bias, I'd show it to someone in the legal profession IRL. I don't know if you can really stop them harassing you. If they feel that their behavior is appropriate, I doubt that they will stop. But a letter from a lawyer citing evidence you provided might change their minds. . . Hoping you see a change soon! Amy


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