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Posted on Sun, Nov 18, 2007 16:35

Ok, I am opening a can of worms here. And realize there could be opportunity for people to throw me under the bus but the topic does explain it all. If you lived in my area, from the information on my profile, would you consider dating me? If yes, why would you, and if not why would you not date me. Would changing my profile help? Something missing? Keep in mind I am straight, and I am not doing this to gain more views or anything of the sorts. I am just asking to see what you honest people of Largefriends have to say :)


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Posted on Sat, Nov 24, 2007 16:24

Hi! Stannosstacey Thanks! I hope someday that becomes a reality :)


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Posted on Thu, Nov 22, 2007 23:11

Good luck in your search Bart. I hope you find the woman you are lookikng for!


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Posted on Wed, Nov 21, 2007 22:08

Hi truefriendinme You so totally summed it up very well! I do need some new pics on here, and hopefully I will get some up soon. Oh and thanks for sticking up for me!


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Posted on Wed, Nov 21, 2007 21:47

Hi staceysstanno, Thanks for your comment. But I see that photo as being different, you other people are welcome to comment on this if ya like. To me, that picture shows, that when need be, I can be strong and ready to defend you if need be, and not a wuss. :)


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Posted on Wed, Nov 21, 2007 21:44

Hi Covergirl, Congrats on snagging you a winner! I wish you both the best in everything!


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Posted on Wed, Nov 21, 2007 21:43

Hi Covergirl, Thanks for your honest opinion. I value it very much! I think you are correct on what a lot of women are looking for. The skinny hunky guy, with the 6 or 12 pack abs, and a huge member. But most of them are worth only 1 thing and its usually what the women go after them for, but then later, they look for someone to settle with, and then us regular guys actually get a chance. Thanks for your comments!


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Posted on Wed, Nov 21, 2007 21:39

Hi Truefriendinme, Thanks for commenting back to me! I appreciate your honesty. It seems interesting the difference between two peoples opinion. But I value every ones input. I like your comment you said about my pictures and my profile in general. I'm glad I would be in your league if I lived closer, that helps the ole spirit out some. I love your comments to me and to other posts! Thanks for your honesty! Your name suits you well. To bad I don't have ur IM, you would be awesome to chat with :)


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Posted on Wed, Nov 21, 2007 21:34

Hi Bluegirl2006, Wow you tore me up there. LOL But maybe its for the better, I will definitely have to take another look at my profile, and revamp it. I do mainly just work and take care of stuff, but I will try to add some more fun stuff about me! Thanks for your suggestions! I appreciate your honesty.


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Posted on Wed, Nov 21, 2007 21:32

Hi SweetCicely Thanks for your suggestion, wish you was wrong on your assumption, but yes I have been burned alot in the past, and yes there is some baggage, but I try not to let it affect me. I will definitely take your advice and put it to good use!


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Posted on Wed, Nov 21, 2007 21:29

Hi LegalEagle! Thanks for replying. I have been a member of this site for awhile now. But never really participated in the forums to much, I understand what you mean, I always sent out winks but never got nothing back. Seemed weird, so I gave up for awhile. Thanks for your honest reply bout going out with me if u was in my area, I appreciate it :)


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Posted on Wed, Nov 21, 2007 20:19

While I agree with Stacystanno on the pics' possible interpretation(s), I didn't view them that way. I do think body language is an important indicator, BUT it is much more an effective tool in person. Also, no offense (ever, ever intended) to Covergirl, but I never ONCE expected to find a stunning male coutnerpart on this site. What I wanted to find was a man. That's it. I have a few criterion to meet, but in general, the physical attraction requirements of the male species are few, for me. I just want a man to be attractive to me (and attracted TO me), not necessarily on the cover of GQ, however nice that may be! I have never been the type of woman to go for "pretty" men-- even in my much younger, slimmer years. I have been much more attracted to an intellectually stimulating man, who finds me interesting and in whom I can place my trust. Pretty simple, right? (NOT!)


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Posted on Wed, Nov 21, 2007 05:00

WOOOOO HOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO WOW Wonderful !!!!!! Tell us more !!!!! That's wonderful I'm very very happy for you both !!! Because HE's snagged a WINNING LADY !!!!! Natalie Re: CoverGirl write: Okay... this is in NO WAY WHATSOEVER to offend you or anyone else... but I will be honest in my opinion. (for whatever it's worth) Most women... certianly not all... are here because they hope that a sexy, slim, athletic male will see their big beautiful body and sweep them off thier feet. In my other opinion, after seeing and reading your profile, they are looking at the wrong men when they should be looking at you. How do I know this you ask? I was one of those women waiting for Mr. Hunk to come a get me. Guess what... I've been on many dates with those men... and they are ALL same. I was just thrill for them something for them to hopefully experience. Then I started looking at REAL men. And I am happy to say... I've snagged me a winner!!!


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Posted on Wed, Nov 21, 2007 02:37

I seem to have ran out of space... Get your self a body language book or two. This will really help and it'll boost your confidence when you know what signs to look for and what signs to give off.


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Posted on Wed, Nov 21, 2007 02:36

Hi mate. I looked at your profile and I think you should retake some of those photos. Especially of the one where you are close up and interlocking your hands; you look threatening. Almost like a bouncer/ doorman. The arms in front of you at any time whether folded or crossed are a defensive mechanism. It shows that you're not comfortable in that particular situation. Try and retake one with your hands in clear view, (palms out as that shows you mean no harm) and your arms uncrossed. Get your self a body language book or two. This will really help and it'll boost your confidence when you know what signs to look for and what signs to give off.


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Posted on Tue, Nov 20, 2007 06:59

SNAGGED ME A WINNER!?!?! WOOT! Oh, Congrats, CG! Amy


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Posted on Tue, Nov 20, 2007 04:42

Okay... this is in NO WAY WHATSOEVER to offend you or anyone else... but I will be honest in my opinion. (for whatever it's worth) Most women... certianly not all... are here because they hope that a sexy, slim, athletic male will see their big beautiful body and sweep them off thier feet. In my other opinion, after seeing and reading your profile, they are looking at the wrong men when they should be looking at you. How do I know this you ask? I was one of those women waiting for Mr. Hunk to come a get me. Guess what... I've been on many dates with those men... and they are ALL same. I was just thrill for them something for them to hopefully experience. Then I started looking at REAL men. And I am happy to say... I've snagged me a winner!!!


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Posted on Mon, Nov 19, 2007 23:45

I agree with Leagleeagle and the others... I want to add that some of us (me, for instance) are still fairly new and might not be quite as "jaded" as some of the rest. I am old-fashioned, and would not initiate contact with someone, it's just not something I do, BUT, if you winked at me, and I lived in your area, I would wink back...and maybe something would develop from there. I liked your profile, and I don't really see anything wrong with it. You seemed sincere (and straight--LOL!). Yes, it was obvious that you had a bad experience, but haven't we all? I mean, we ARE all on a dating site, right? Besides, anyone with the "spearated, divorced or widowed" box checked has had a "bad experience"-- in one way or antoher! Personally, I like that it is in the profile, as it gives a little reality to the whole "computerized" scene. I liked your pics, too. I have viewed your profile several times and have wished you lived closer! Good luck to you--True


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Posted on Mon, Nov 19, 2007 17:44

K. Here's my tuppence. Your pics are pretty good. Nice variety. Could show a little more of a fun side though, if you have one. You come across as a pretty serious guy. Most women like a guy with a bit of a sense of humor. If you have one you may want to show it a little bit. Also, you haven't given any kind of an indication of YOU. What do you like to do when you aren't working? Are you just your job, because that's all you've described about you. If I lived in your area I wouldn't contact you first. Mainly for the reasons described above. If you contacted me first, I would probably take the time to find out a little more about you because you do seem like a genuine guy. Give a girl something so connect with other than the fact you are both looking for a date. Other reasons I wouldn't contact you? Well Honestly, I'm out of your age range and you are a bit young for me anyway. Plus I'm spoken for. :)


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Posted on Sun, Nov 18, 2007 20:14

Hey Bart! (With a name like Bart, you should live in SF!) I agree with Melissa; you seem genuine and open. _If_I_were_to_get_very_picky_ I would only add my humble opinion that, when I read things like "no playas" or "no head games" I sense someone who has been burned before and who might be carrying some baggage. I MAY BE ENTIRELY MISTAKEN IN THIS! Still, it gives _me_ pause when I read a profile with that sort of statement in it. Maybe some of our other loyal posters will have a take on it as well . .. *hint* Amy


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