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Richard5
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Posted on Thu, Oct 25, 2007 07:44

Hi all, I'm new to this site and am doing spectacularly badly at contacting women. Iv sent a few emails and winks. I had a chat with someone which seemed to go well but she seems to have vanished now. Anyone got any tips on how to approach this. Check out my profile, is there anything wrong with it?. Am i just butt ugly (Possible)?. What is the best way to approach this site?. any suggestions from long standing members would be much appreciated.


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Posted on Wed, Oct 31, 2007 02:29

Hi there, i didn't think they were very good but i have had a couple of emails asking me where they went. I am going to get some better ones posted when i can.


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Posted on Tue, Oct 30, 2007 18:11

One thing that makes a big difference is posting and particpating here on the boards. You posts will also register in your profile i think which makes it a richer tool - plus its fun and you seem like a sweet pea so will do well on the boards. Just keep at it otherwise...but do be careful there are definitely scammers around.


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Posted on Mon, Oct 29, 2007 20:25

I read about your problem. I think you just need some new pics. Your primary should have you smiling looking at the camera.

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Posted on Sun, Oct 28, 2007 18:51

Re: bluegirl2006 write: Don't despair because you are on the other side of the pond - one of your fellow countrymen just hooked up here with one of mine and it looks like their romance is blossoming beautifully. Good luck!

From experience do not let distance hold you back. I am so glad Stanno and I didn't. Update - Stanno is coming for a visit in 9 days and counting!!!!!!


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Posted on Fri, Oct 26, 2007 03:29

Thanks for all your replies, i have just started emailing a totally stunning lady from Canada. I don't know if it will amount to anything and I'm not going to hold my breath, but its really nice to chat to her, even if it is a hell of a long walk from the UK. Hope reigns supreme.


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Posted on Thu, Oct 25, 2007 17:19

I totally agree with Bigbirdy-- it's primarily American people on this site. Good for us-- bad for you. SORRY! However, your profile is just fine. I liked it alright. And I liked your pictures, too. Very nice. I especially liked the one where you are sort of looking off into the water. I would certainly want to try to get to know you better, based on the information presented -- most especially if I lived near you. I have met and chatted a bit with a few really amazing men around the globe. And I'm totally bummed they live so far away! But, like you said. We have to put ourselves out there! Good luck to you. This site is teeming with women, and I truly hope you find one close to home! --True


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Posted on Thu, Oct 25, 2007 14:31

I liked your profile and pics and you are a decent looking sort of guy. They show a little bit of humor and playfulness and you sound like a good guy. Most women prefer emails over winks and since you are a paying member you may want to skip the winking all together. A brief "Hi, I'm interested in you - check out my profile" kind of email would work as an introduction, but it would help if you threw in a just a little bit of what makes you you - without investing too much of effort since its only an introduction. Don't despair because you are on the other side of the pond - one of your fellow countrymen just hooked up here with one of mine and it looks like their romance is blossoming beautifully. Good luck!


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Posted on Thu, Oct 25, 2007 10:19

Thanks for that. I did join a few months back but decided to get serious and become a gold member only a couple of days ago after realizing it was hopeless unless i took the plunge. Your probably right though. Relax and be patient. The point about the site being mainly American is a very valid one. Oh well...Nothing ventured, nothing gained i suppose. Thanks again.


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Posted on Thu, Oct 25, 2007 09:10

I think you could call me a long standing member - just come back after a few months away from the site ... evidence that it is not going to be successful for everyone, lol! A few things worth bearing in mind ... as Brits we are hugely out numbered by our cousins across the pond. It is much more an American based site, so sometimes the search for "compatible" people in the same country, let alone local, can be fruitless. Lots of members only seem to log on now and again - if you are a gold member you can see when someone last logged on, otherwise you can't really tell. The blogs and forums can be a good way to get to know people on here (but there are very few of us Brits brave enough to take the plunge!) Don't beat yourself up over your profile ... can't see anything wrong except that you apologise for losing your thatch ..... nothing to apologise for there! Personally I don't take too much notice of winks (mainly 'cos the senders are generally 1000s of miles away!) but don't give up, send a few emails and you'll get some interesting conversations going for sure. Just be yourself, but don't put so much pressure on yourself! Biirdy


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Posted on Thu, Oct 25, 2007 08:29

Richard, "Been shoppin'?" LOL Truth be told, I saw absolutely nothing wrong with your profile. Detailed without being long winded, upbeat and positive _and_ 3 pictures (I like the one with the shopping bag best, of course!) I am rather new to LF myself (1 month) and my experience has been similar to yours. It seems that a lot of the communication is one-shot. I don't know why. I've posted some questions to the blogs about it and the general consensus (from those who responded) was that if you don't get a reply, that's it, the person you were speaking with was not interested. I don't know if that is indeed the case, but it seems to be, at least no one has posted anything to the contrary. Not the most pleasant feeling, is it, to be summarily dropped after what seemed like a promising start? Ah well. I have found, however, that most of our bloggers are supportive, positive and a helluva lotta fun, so welcome to LF and welcome to the blogs. On behalf of my sisters, we also welcome a new male voice to the mix. The men seem to be having a hard time keeping up with us! Amy


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