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Posted on Thu, Sep 20, 2007 14:06

Once upon a time I was bar-hopping with my friend Dan, one thing led to another and we ended up at one of Charlotte's more exclusive gentleman's clubs. Not counting the nude strippers and barely-clad waitresses, I was the only woman in the room. It didn't take long to figure out that although sex was the commodity, the trade was in money and, mostly, feminine power. Every male in the place - including my pal Dan, checked his intelligence with his coat - at the door. As I sat front and center watching the strippers make slack-jawed, slobbering, walking hard-on's out of these men - I was flirting with Dan and the other bar-mates and I realized that although fully clothed, I had my own particularly enjoyable hold within my group. Now Betterman decides to give us answers to questions that have been evaded for years by the male lapdance fanclub and what was once only an unattainable fantasy is now a harsh reality?? Women are turning into chauvenistic pigs in the name of feminism and strippers are my competition??? Mix real, live, available woman with fantasy prototypes in a sex club and I suspect we've reached a point where the line of demarcation between the two is no longer discernable. Now it seems imperative to learn to dangle upside-down on a pole (in thigh highs for better grip). And since when is it sensible for any person of any gender to succumb to a sexual free-for-all lifestyle? With so many women/girls emulating strippers, pressure is once again on the rise for those of us who are less than 'perky' to produce a product that should be KEPT a FANTASY. Heaven help me, I'm raising two girls alone. *shudder* Sorry, but if this reaction is what you call envy then I can no longer portray myself as an un-jealous, accepting woman.


In your rocking-chair, by your window dreaming, shall you long, alone. In your rocking-chair, by your window, shall you dream such happiness as you may never feel. –Theodore Dreiser

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Posted on Fri, Dec 07, 2007 00:03

Thanks Katwoman!


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Posted on Fri, Nov 30, 2007 13:16

Welcome back Wanda!!


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Posted on Thu, Nov 29, 2007 11:43

A wise woman never reveals her secrets...lol....suffice it to say I have been busy rediscovering the reality of my own existance. ;) 'nuff said? lol


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Posted on Mon, Oct 08, 2007 10:37

Oh, Blue.. I agree wholeheartedly. And I also take the blame for the media presence in my house too, because as a single parent, the t.v. served as a babysitter most occasions when I needed it to. My fault, I know. I pay that price dearly. And then I go halloween costume shopping over the weekend and find little red riding hood with a bustier and little miss brittany spears hip hugging pants and tube top like bra ensemble with bonus mic! Of course the girls were more than miffed when we left sans costume. Suffice it to say we went to goodwill, bought old prom dresses and hacked them into frightful messes. Much, much more funner and my babies don't look like streetwalkers. Boy do I hate it for them when they have babies of their own! And Wylde, I do understand the point you were making, and I know it's a struggle for us all. It's hard to get the message across, though, and even tougher I know for the girls today who do inevitably feel the pressure from peers and what not to compete for attention in such a manner. It happens to them all, whether they admit it or not, whether it is dealt with in such an open manner at home or not, and whether it is discouraged by parents and loved ones - or not. You just 'suggest' - for lack of a better term - that you have it all 'covered' or 'taken care of'. For your peace of mind, I hope you do. I wish I could be so confident.


In your rocking-chair, by your window dreaming, shall you long, alone. In your rocking-chair, by your window, shall you dream such happiness as you may never feel. –Theodore Dreiser

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Posted on Mon, Oct 08, 2007 10:19

Re: wanda_world write: Oh my! I left and Bestkeptsecret was dancing in her leotards and tights...I return and AmuseMe is pole dancing in dental floss! LOL....It's good to see some old folks still hanging around!

Oh, don't they wish. NOT lol Heya WandaLady. It's very nice to see you are still hanging out! Missed some great conversations, but I am sure it won't take much diggin' to dredge up the good stuff! lol So get to bloggin', you know us nosey people want to know what (oe who) ;-) has been keeping you away from LF's BL. Fess up chicky!


In your rocking-chair, by your window dreaming, shall you long, alone. In your rocking-chair, by your window, shall you dream such happiness as you may never feel. –Theodore Dreiser

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Posted on Fri, Oct 05, 2007 09:55

Oh my! I left and Bestkeptsecret was dancing in her leotards and tights...I return and AmuseMe is pole dancing in dental floss! LOL....It's good to see some old folks still hanging around!


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Posted on Tue, Sep 25, 2007 02:26

Amuse, I blame a lot of this on the media. It is very difficult to raise children anyway. To raise girls seems especially difficult. And to raise them with self-esteem even more so. But look at any music video nowadays and all of the women are objectified. It's frightening to think we have a generation of young women growing up thinking this is the way to be. I'll admit I haven't done such a great job with my daughter. She's 21. She recently flew out to CA to meet a young man she had been "dating" long distance. When I picked her up to take her to the airport, what was she wearing? A very very lowcut top because "she wanted to make a good first impression", and this child is VERY well endowed. I got her to change but only because of the recent news about women not being allowed to fly that the airline had deemed "too sexy". And when not displaying what she considers her best assets she felt less than pretty. And there's not a damn thing I can do about that, because as much as I have tried to shape her image of her society has taken far too big a toll and outside influences have played far too big a role.


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Posted on Mon, Sep 24, 2007 21:36

Ah, Amuse, you know I have to add in my .02 cents now and again. It is my nature. I do not disagree on moral teachings nor ethics. My family is full of diverse cultures so we are often very open regarding the value of another person's opinion, life experience, spiritual beliefs, etc. We have had our self esteem moments, still do. It is all part of growing up. Never once did I indicate that my child raising days have been easy. There has been tragedy, sadness, fear and more. There have been days they angered me beyond reason. But always, in each of them, I have seen their beauty, strength, potential, intelligence, etc. I teach my girls to be proud of their sexuality, so no one can strip them of it, degrade them for it or use it to manipulate them. I teach them that being a girl/female/woman is "righteous" (a little flashback to my growing up days there!!!). I don't want them to believe they are lesser beings because they are female. I cannot "make" them believe it, I can only do my best to teach them and be that way myself. My two youngest and my oldest have and do benefit the most. My two married girls live out of state, I do not see them often and their growing up years were more influenced by my husband and outside family members than myself. If at least one or two of my girls can be confident, powerful women, then I have made a step in the continued re-evolution of womankind. And I see that potential in all three here with me. I do not equate sexual empowerment with being scantily clad, wearing spiked heels, etc. Perhaps female empowerment is a more appropriate, less chauvinistic term. It matters not to me, I am fully aware of the value placed on women throughout history and in today's society and it is my intent to ensure, to the best of my ability, that at least my three here do not succumb to those standards.


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Posted on Mon, Sep 24, 2007 14:35

Wylde. I appreciate your thoughts and I too teach my children the power of self-acceptance and love for who and what we are and each and every one of our unique aspects of beauty. What I also try to instill into their life-long lessons is a sense of moral and ethical responsibilies to the people around them, geographically and spiritually, because somewhere along the path of this life, most of us have forgotten the fact that we are not "sexual" beings, we are, at the root of it all, "spiritual" beings, and to be a woman and to be coveted ONLY as a sexual being is morally insulting and spriitually degrading - not to mention the emotional devastation and complete havoc of self for the the bearer of those that love and live for this attention. It's hard to compete with the gyrating Ms. Spears and Ms. Knowles. Hell! Even Disney has fallen and Raven Simone is wearing skin tight jeans (with a camel-toe even Hellen Keller can see *ty honeybuns*) all ghetto-glam with sequins and high heel'd feet - ALWAYS. I find it hard to believe that anyone can have such an easy time of raising daughters - even those of generations before me. Societal degradation of women aside Wylde, it's more popular than ever for young girls and "MILFS" to walk around barely-clad and jeans not big enough to cover their butts (ya'll have seen the thong peek-a-boo) and high heels that 10 years ago were commonly knows as Hoe-Toes with lingere for tops and nipples protruding through barely-there material. The fact that some of "us" use sex as an empowement tool is the reason behind our constant struggle for the very power we seek.


In your rocking-chair, by your window dreaming, shall you long, alone. In your rocking-chair, by your window, shall you dream such happiness as you may never feel. –Theodore Dreiser

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Posted on Mon, Sep 24, 2007 14:14

Honey - thanks for having my back girl lol True - thanks for the shout-out but if it were my job I'd never do it! lol


In your rocking-chair, by your window dreaming, shall you long, alone. In your rocking-chair, by your window, shall you dream such happiness as you may never feel. –Theodore Dreiser

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Posted on Mon, Sep 24, 2007 01:57

Girl, you NEED a newspaper column, or magazine, or newsletter, or SOMETHING. You've got a GIFT for writing.


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Posted on Sat, Sep 22, 2007 13:03

Whewww! then says in a very bossy holier than thou tone - yeah - she's right!


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Posted on Thu, Sep 20, 2007 21:23

Well, I'm on my last two girls to finish raising (out of 5) and so far, it's not been the desire to emulate the fantasy of the striptease girl nor playboy model that has been their competition. It is society itself as a whole and how women have been portrayed. Our society is one that has consistently degraded women. Be it outright or subtle. Through politics, religion, the media, our poor educational system, lack of family and community values, etc. Our societal outlook of presumed liberalism truly is just a crust which hides the imbalance of female/male power that lurks underneath. I try to teach my girls to believe in themselves not only as a person, but as a female. The strength of feminine power is unbounded. Their intelligence, creativity, wit, charm, sense of self; I expound upon it. I try to teach them to be resiliant and confident in who they are. And as they grow older, help to give them confidence in their sexual and spiritual being as well. It can be a difficult path but so far, one that has really been truly wonderful to share with them.


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Posted on Thu, Sep 20, 2007 19:52

Re: honeybiscuit write: umm did my post cause this comotion? I would love to go back and review what I posted but the entire thread seems to have dissappeared. Take the toys and go home....

No honey, you didn't inspire this post... just bumped something I have had on my mind to the forefront and I thought to blog on it to see how much sh*t I could stir up. No worries mate, it's all said with a smile.


In your rocking-chair, by your window dreaming, shall you long, alone. In your rocking-chair, by your window, shall you dream such happiness as you may never feel. –Theodore Dreiser

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Posted on Thu, Sep 20, 2007 17:06

umm did my post cause this comotion? I would love to go back and review what I posted but the entire thread seems to have dissappeared. Take the toys and go home....


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