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Posted on Mon, May 08, 2006 07:58

It's not just a song it's a truth for many of us. I had a customer admire my watch and bracelet the other day and say "Oh aren't you spoiled" I just looked at her funny and told her I bought it for myself. I work a fourty hour a week job. I have my own place. I make my own payments and if I like something I buy it for myself. Men can be fun but I don't *need* one. I have no desire for a sugar daddy but a guy that shares my work ethic is a must. So if anyone else is out there like me speak up or I dare say they'll think we're all gold diggers ;)


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Posted on Fri, May 26, 2006 14:43

Hey i just like to big-up all the independent women. well it don't mean you don't like to be spoilt and pampered but its nice to know your not sitting around waiting for it to happen. sometimes its good to know that you can spoil him too


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Posted on Thu, May 25, 2006 14:06

I agree 100% about being independent. I work a 40 hour a week job. I am in college and I pay my own tuition and my own bills.Anything that I want or need I can get it for myself. BUT!!! I have a good man and without me asking he does things for me. But he also knows that I don't need him to do those things,he does it because he wants to. GOOD men value that in their woman.When a man feels that he has a woman that values more than being a gold digger he does more. So all independent women keep it up there are men out there that really value that.


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Posted on Thu, May 25, 2006 04:03

I think an independant woman are very desirable. Strength is a very good quality. It's just sometimes that an independant woman, even when she really needs a shoulder to lean on, has a hard time admitting it that seems kind of odd to me. Don't get me wrong here, we men have this problem also. We are all human and sometimes need someone to help us see things more clearly, give us that extra push when things aren't going so well, or even just someone to reassure us that what we are doing is right. It seems that more and more people are just afraid to show their true feelings because it somehow makes us seem weak or unsure. It's not only a question of the material things, gold, diamonds, flowers, etc. It's being able to share your fears and insecurities with someone close to you and knowing they understand you, and are behind you even if sometimes they may not agree 100%. Spoiling someone can happen on many levels not just the shiny stuff although to me it is really nice to see someone's face light up with a smile when given an unexpected gift no matter how large or small it is.


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Posted on Sat, May 20, 2006 15:52

If I waited on a man to spoil me I'd be waiting forever. I don't think it'll ever happen. I am, like, the poster child for independence. I've been known to throw people out of my house just because they tried to take my trash out. LOL!! Anyway, never had one spoil me yet and probably never will. Let's hear it for independence!!


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Posted on Fri, May 12, 2006 15:27

Amen and Amen !!! Lets here it for the independant woman!!!..... but are we really? How far does our independance go? Can we exist on our own? Yes. Do we make our way through life and pay our bills and feed our bellies, as well as clothe and nurture our children, and many of us on our own? Yessss. Do we make daily decisions without the aide of a male opinion on topics both large and small? Yes, yes, yes. Do we lay in our beds alone at night, content to hug a pillow year after year? Yes. Do we, in our independance, really feel that we need a man to complete us? Yes Or shall I rephrase, not to complete 'us'... but to complete our lives. Yep... thats it. Sure, we can exist without a companion, and even do so comfortably, sainly, and relatively happy. Still, there is something missing. It's a vicious cycle. Independant people tend to have a mass of people depending upon them in one form or another. The truth be known, we enjoy that people 'need' us... so in essence, aren't we dependant upon others depending on us??? So why do independant women have a hard time meeting the "right" man? Independant womem rarely have a hard time 'catching fish', its that it never seems to be the 'right fish', so we keep tossin them back into the river of life and re-cast hopeing for that perfect catch. Why are we so choosey? More often than not, the ones we catch cling to that independant side of us and tend to be a bit tooooo dependant upon us. Even though we are what we are, we still desire a man to be, A Man! We need to know that we too can depend upon them, in the rare event that we need to. We need to see, feel, and hear.. with all of our senses that our mate is completly capable of toteing the boat when we choose to stop rowing. Better yet, would be to find the Man who could not only let us row alone at times, but is more than happy to take up one of the oars, and even insist on making us sit back, relax and take in the scenery while he takes a turn monuvering around the sea of life. While we independant women do not "need" a man.... we do "need" a Man. Two entirely different statements. Thanks StarEnight for making my noggin use a few under worked brain cells. These mind-anderings bring a smile to my face and revelation to the soul.


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