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Posted on Sun, Jan 21, 2007 01:24

For many years I have pondered over the fact that female bisexuality is much more acceptable to men and women than male bisexuality is to women and men. I imagine that over the course of time this will change. It will probably happen faster than some want,yet too slow for others, but I see it happening. In the mean time, it's an interesting dichotomy. Why do you think there is this discrepancy?


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Posted on Thu, Nov 01, 2007 00:01

oh by the way people happy late holloween


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Posted on Sun, Oct 28, 2007 00:21

DirkDig: My mistake. However, my intention was to point out that in ANY religion (to my knowledge), the "books" (bibles, korans, scriptures, etc) are written by humans--not a higher being--just like the Bible that Christians/Catholics/Baptists use. Case in point: the Catholic Bible has books in it that some other religions or factions of Christianity do not recognize-- and vice versa. Ergo-- the possibility of error in interpretation, judgement, etc. My post wasn't an intentional jab at any other religion--I am currently in "limbo" myself. It was a question, more so: "who determines what is actually "true"-- and how can we be sure about it? I believe that we all struggle with faith-- no matter what we believe. I'm just wondering what people use as justification to say that their "book" or "guidelines" are the correct ones. Just posing a question. No offense to anyone. No intentional harm or insult.


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Posted on Sat, Oct 27, 2007 11:05

I think that man on man sexuality seems less appealing because people tend to think that it entails anal s*x. And for many people, anal is a big no-no. I also think that people believe that s*x acts between two men are not as tender as s*x between two women or even s*x between a man and a woman. Just my two cents!!


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Posted on Fri, Oct 26, 2007 02:43

There is a minimum age of consent issue for male homosexuality but as far as i know not for women, this is because for women, no penetration is involved. Sex between males is (i assume) allot rougher so the risk of physical damage is higher. society's attitudes reflect this and lets face it we are still for the most part governed by men and the idea of two girls together is easier to accept for men than two boys together. From the outset their is a difference both in risk and acceptability.


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Posted on Thu, Oct 25, 2007 17:59

Wow-- some serious bloggin' going on in here! I think this blog may have surpassed the "lazy-afternoons tell all" in the I-pushed-the-Hot-Button department! Um, personally, I believe whatever you do in your own bedroom with your own time is your own business. Love, sometimes, knows no bounds, and so I believe that it is entirely possible that sexual attraction can, too, know no bounds. I also share a bit of Amuse me's and Wanda's opinions. Both make some very valid points. And I think we all can agree, no matter the content, the Bible was WRITTEN BY HUMANS. Man is certainly fallible. In addition, after thousands of years of "interpretations", it is highly possible that the original intent of the content may have been misinterpreted. But, HEY-- that's why the Bible is in every nation, in every language and the most read, studied, quoted and argued about book on the planet! EVERYONE is entitled to his own interpretation. It's called "free will"! And no, I don't mean the actor on Will and Grace! (LOL) I'm surprised the blog has remained as friendly as it has, thus far. And, quite frankly, not so surprised that WWGuy hasn't posted any more than what I see here (unless it has been deleted by the LF-Patrol!). Our regulars( you know, Bizzle, Timothy, Stanno, Bttrball, etc.) have got the hang of this blogging, but many men have a hard time holding their own in a highly charged environment like this! I'd certainly like to see more men trying their hands at this one, as I'm pretty sure that's what the intent was, initially. Good luck, everyone. Gloves on! DING-DING-DING!


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Posted on Wed, Oct 24, 2007 21:50

i think everyone is bi under the right circumstances, honesty i do have to agree with "lougenessis" because i know im visual take for example the three females in the picture below.... if i was in a room with all three of them and two of them were packing something extra, i guess id be bie in that situation.


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Posted on Thu, Feb 15, 2007 11:53

well, i believe that we all make owr own mistakes in life and we learn from them equally, my thoughts on bisexuallity is simple, men and women are no different than each other dispite the fact whe have different bodily functions. once we learn to see past this ignorance we will see equallity ......i can see beauty in all aspects of humanity oh and men like to see from a womans point of view how to please onother woman for there insecurity makes them curiuos and the fact that men have controlled this country for so long its become threaded into owr minds that female sexual encounters are o.k. but man on man is degrading


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Posted on Thu, Feb 15, 2007 11:47

well, i believe that we all make owr own mistakes in life and we learn from them equally, my thoughts on bisexuallity is simple, men and women are no different than each other dispite the fact whe have different bodily functions. once we learn to see past this ignorance we will see equallity ......i can see beauty in all aspects of humanity


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Posted on Wed, Feb 14, 2007 22:46

Well I just got finished reading every comment and although I didnt get all of it because apperently some people deleted there comments I got the jist of it, so heres my take on it, if anyone cares lol. As a bi-sexual woman my self I veiw men and wemon two very different ways. Men are like cars, some are sleek and sporty, and nice to look at, while others are reliable and safe, and all of them can be beautifull, but ram two of them together and it wont be a pretty site. Thats not to say that if both drivers concented it wouldnt be an acceptable crash site. lol. And wemon are like gods works of art, they are to be admired and taken with great care, because they are a timeless beauty, and two of them together seems like a beautifull concept to me. and as for the religious stuff, well I am a non-conformast christan myself, and I belive there is a god, and there was a jesus, and they have some very interesting things to say, but the bible may not be very reliable, because it was only influenced by god, not directly written by him. we can all agree the bible was written by man and men make mistakes, so i dont put my faith in a book, i put my faith in god and what he suggests is best in my life. though I would agree that the bible can be used as a guiding light to lead a moral life, it can be confusing and at times hipocritcal, but i do not see that as a fault of god, mearly a fault of mans interpetation of god. Well thats what I belive any how, Im still young so I may chage my mind. lol.


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Posted on Mon, Jan 29, 2007 23:11

LOL Sally-ever thought of being a comedian? Here's a joke for your repertoire: Two cannibals sat beside a large fire, after eating the best meal they'd had in ages. "Your wife sure makes a good roast." commented the first cannibal. "Yeah," replied the second. "I'm really going to miss her..."


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Posted on Mon, Jan 29, 2007 13:44

There's no discrepancy in my mind. I prefer a smorgasbord. So many "straight" men have boyfriends on the side. They just make my life so much more interesting by balancing my teeter-totter. I'm told that Christians, when properly prepared, are good eating, and that is probably the most effective way to make them change their tedious tune.


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Posted on Mon, Jan 29, 2007 10:16

Loungenessis-LOL! I agree with you. Many men do seem to be homophobes. I wonder if sometimes some of these same men actually have fantasies of being with a man and it frightens them that they may lose their masculinity or others may learn about their thoughts so rather than being accepting of bisexuals and gay men they steer far away from them. It's always great to see friends Charley! So, you are another typical male who wants to jump in and join the fun, eh? Thanks for sharing your thoughts...You make a good point! ...LOL...ya didn't know I could teach and preach, did ya? This weeks lesson is on increasing friendships. I am glad that you follow what the good book teaches and most people know and understand-that a man that wants or has friends must show himself friendly,loves at all times,provides positive encouragement and a consistent challenge, shows acceptance,shares each others burdens, and tries to bring out the best in each other. I can't wait for it to warm up so we can hit the beach again and maybe do some fishing too!


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Posted on Sun, Jan 28, 2007 19:57

Hiya Wanda..what are you doing, holding Sunday School in here? It seems the conversation got diverted from the initial question quite abruptly. Your friend,WWguy, can't seem to pay attention enough to stay on the subject. He acts more concerned with attacking you than being involved in an actual discussion. Personally, I accept women having sex with women because there might be an opportunity for me to join in.(grin) With men having sex with each other, I'm not interested. Good to see you again, Wanda.


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Posted on Sun, Jan 28, 2007 19:27

i'm going to tell you what i think wanda. most (not all..geeeez) men are homophobes when it comes to men on men action. i feel men are visual creatures and that when they see two beautiful women go at it, it's sexy but when they see two men loving on each other, a red flag goes up. i could care less. to each his own. i'm not the one to judge. i'll prove it to you, anyone got any bi-male videos and dvds, i wouldn't mind looking at a few to give you my honest opinion on the subject. anyone? anyone? **toothless-grin**


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Posted on Sun, Jan 28, 2007 18:23

AmuseMe, as for the Bible being full of hypocrisy, the Bible is a book. The Bible is no more "full of hypocrisy" than a textbook on history or geography. People who use the Bible to justify their own hatred and predjudices are full of hypocrisy. And if the Bible didn't exist, they'd just find some other book to use. It was a popular theory before all the cities were found that what happened to those cities was due to an earthquake that shot up volcanic ash and fire; sure enough they are on a fault line. Probably any type of natural disaster at the time was perceived as a punishment from God. They didn't know otherwise and they had no concept of what was going on. The Bible says that the cities were destroyed for several reasons- the people were arrogant, overfed,unconcerned; they did not help the poor and needy. They were also haughty and did detestable things. The story goes that Lots daughters got him drunk and while he was passed out communed with him because they were fearful of never having a man in their future and of not having children. He'd just lost his home, his wife and possessions, so it seems plausible to me that he was eager to drink and pass out. Why were the Soddomites murdered for their sexual sins and not him or his daughters? My guess would be perhaps because they were continuing to procreate-to go forth and multiply while many in Sodom were not interested in that at all. Biigbiird, thanks for your very interesting comments. I tend to agree; I think the visual aspect may come into play. Men think women's bodies are beautiful and therefore are excited by the thought of 2 women together while many men think men just are not attractive. Women on the other hand seem to view both men and women as attractive. Bizzle, lol...do you think I have pretty teeth? CoverGirl-you know what they say? "Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results." Thank-you Lazy for your gracious act of chivarly. May your kind act be well rewarded. Warm regards always my friend.


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Posted on Sat, Jan 27, 2007 11:49

geez..this sure got deep and some fang bearing as well LOL....whatever floateth thine own boat and keepeth thine comments light maybe. Thank God though that we do all have our different opinions on the subject as that is what does make us human-and individuals :>|


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Posted on Sat, Jan 27, 2007 07:02

Seems to me the bible is full of quotes that can be plucked out and used to suit every occasion and every opinion. For every "Thou shalt not ..." one person quotes, another will find an "Oh yes you should" which basically makes it seem pretty irrelevant as a basis for argument or discussion. This is quite hard to write in what I hope will be a polite way that won't get censored, lol. My (non religious) thoughts on the matter .... 1) "Going in through the out door" is generally less appealling to many whether in a homosexual or heterosexual context. Not all I grant you, but many heterosexual man who might ask their female partner to indulge in this activity would flaty refuse to have the act reciprocated with something of similar proportions! With lesbian/bisexual women it's a little less invasive unless by their own choice! 2) Traditionally men are more physically/visually motivated and s*x is so often the aim rather than emotion 3) Women are more inclined to get emotionally involved and seek more loving relationships 4) I have some good friends both gay and lesbian ... I have no more desire to think about them performing their preferred "act" than my straight friends ... doesn't mean I think any less of them as people! 5) It seems to be more generally believed that women are more beautiful/pleasing to the eye than men. (Bear in mind I am generalising here ... I know there are many exceptions!) Men with their tackle may be considered more functional than beautiful - and I'd hazard a guess that ever gallery has more female nudes than male. 6) In the same light, certainly in the UK it is illegal to show (TV, movies etc) a male appendage at anything more than 1/2 mast ... 45degrees I believe is the maximum. Hence to see a female in all her glory is more likely than to see a male in all his! Anyway, with all thst waffle, I think what I'm basically trying to say is that I think most peoples opinions are based on a physical/visual thing. I'd like to think the world is becoming more tolerant of what is done between two (or more, lol)consenting adults but I don't know if that is the case just yet. For me it's a case of live and let live .... but I'd prefer the imagery wasn't put in my head, lol.


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Posted on Fri, Jan 26, 2007 12:17

Curvy Tigress, I think what people want to do with their bodies is their own personal choice, be it that they want to be heterosexual,homosexual,bisexual or enjoy polyamory. I was raised by some open minded parents back in the sixties and seventies who were the only people in our neighborhood who openly and lovingly accepted the two gay men who moved into the house across the street from us in our middle class neighborhood. Out of six real good girlfriends I hung out with in my teens and early 20's, 2 of them were gay and a couple, two were straight, and two were bisexual. I spent several years working as a waitress at a restaurant in Boston where all of the waiters but one were gay and several of us would go out together to the gay clubs after work quite often. Because the waiters there had been there for much longer than I had, they were usually off on Sunday nights; I was the most requested waitress on that night when the gay couples would come in for dinner, because I lovingly accepted them for who they were. I have a sister who was in a gay relationship for almost 20 years until her friend passed away not so long ago, and another who is bisexual but has spent much of her life in a relationship with one woman.I have met many gays through them and become good friends with some of them. I am very happy for my sisters that they found the love they were seeking in their lives. I am still trying to figure out though why women seem to be much more accepting and embracing of female and male bisexuality than male acceptance of male bisexuality. And I am finding it that more people (male and female) are accepting lesbians than ever, while many men are still nonaccepting of gay males. I have been talking about this for many years, I recall even as far back as in the early 90's, several years before the Internet was around here, chatting with a local guy when we had a computer bulletin board system at our house about this same topic because it has always amazed me that men for the most part seemed to be accepting of women together, but not men. I think it's a combination of several things; heterosexual men think women together are sexy and don't feel threatened by them being together because they feel they have something to add to the mixture to enhance it. I also think as someone pointed out that they feel that their masculinity is threatened by being accepting of gay males. And as someone else pointed out, I think the thought of how gay men do it just seems repulsive to some men. I can't answer for men why they can accept one and not the other. All I can do is ask. 26-JA


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Posted on Fri, Jan 26, 2007 12:07

WWGuy-I sent you a note that jokingly stated you were being politically incorrect by making the comment that a little bit of lesbo action wouldn't be considered cheating, to which you replied "I think you know that I was just being playful with the lesbo statement. Still, most women go ballistic over male bisexuality, while many men view female bisexuality as erotic. I suppose that it would be an act of faith, in the present dark age, to believe that eventually all of the double standards will fall. " If there was a question there, my brain missed it; however it did make me think of the many conversations I have had over the years on this same topic with numerous people, and nine days later when I had time to sit and write a response I thought since you did not seem interested at all in posting this topic yourself, that I would. I didn't mean to "steal" your question. I didn't know someone "owned" it. If you had wanted to ask a specific question, you should have. If you had wanted to discuss this topic in a blog, you had ample opportunity to do so. I believe in the Christian concepts:Love one another. Do Good. Do not lie. Do not kill. Do not covet. Forgive one another. I honestly emailed you and told you that I found some of your comments insulting and condescending, and I still feel that they were. In my opinion you were publicly mocking my God and calling him a bloodthirsty god. In the same email as mentioned earlier, one of the numerous emails you sent me to which I never had ample time to respond to, you made the statement that the God of the Bible was a needly, insecure, bloodthirsty God and it was difficult for you to imagine modern educated people claiming that every last word comes from our Creator. Although I felt insulted and that your remarks were condescending at the time, I kept my opinon to myself until you again made what I perceived as derogatory remarks. And you felt surprised, shocked and hurt and impulsively deleted all your comments. When I realized you had done so I politely apologized for not communicating clearly to you that I was specifically referring to your comments on Christianity and that you should not deprive others of your comments on the blogs because you were upset with me. I felt bad as I knew you had no friends in your area and apparently are lonely and with a lot of time on your hands because you have sent me several long emails. Your response was to call my profile a "fraud" because it didn't say anything about Christianity or religion on it; apparently "you" missed where it says my religion is Christian and my friend/match says Christian/Catholic/spiritual but not religious. You suddenly became a mental health professional and diagnosed me as being passive-aggressive because I politely didn't tell you the first time you offended me, but finally did the second, and apologized for not communicating more clearly. You told me that had you known I was a "Jesus freak" you would never had corresponded with me. And you accused me of trapping people with my religious beliefs. I was NOT the one who brought religion into this. I have had ample time on these blogs to bring religion into a conversation in all the time I have been here and did not. I didn't wait to 'steal' your question and 'trap' others.You stated you didn't want to know anything more about me. So do yourself a favor and stay away from my blogs. One last thing. You also called me a "sexual bigot." I am not the bigot here. You are.


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