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Posted on Thu, Nov 30, 2006 17:04

Is it possible to find a man Online to love and spend your life with when they have SO MANY women here to choose from? Here's the deal: I'm new to this Online dating thing. I've met and dated 2 men - both professionals. The first one I dated for five months. I only had two dates with the second guy. With both it was hard for me to learn to "trust" because I always felt that they would be cruising the Internet for women. Is it me? Or do other women feel this way? I'm either not a good candidate for Internet dating OR I just haven't met Mr. Right yet.

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Posted on Sun, Dec 17, 2006 15:58

Hi there WW, Welcome! The male point of view is invited and always appreciated. I find your "twist" interesting and enlightening. And although I can't agree totally with your line of logic, it does give me a different point of view to consider. Thanks for sharing!


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Posted on Fri, Dec 15, 2006 20:01

Hi Girls! Thanks for all of the great advice. Perhaps since I'm new to the Online gig I had unrealistic expectations. Jiiggl, you're right...it is somewhat similar to the real world with the exception that here the women are readily available...in record numbers. Anyway, maybe I just need to give this some time. Bluegirl, could patience be the the key? It looks like that theory worked for you. There are a lot of GREAT guys out there. I would just like to meet ONE. I'll leave the rest of them for you ladies :-)


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Posted on Thu, Dec 14, 2006 23:58

True. There are more women for men to choose from on line, but it is the same in the "real world" too. I would suggest that you use the same savvy with on-line dating as you would use in real world dating (because playahs can buy computers, too. LOL!!) Keep posting and blogging because that helps people get to know you. Perhaps they won't post, but they may read and be inspired to give you a wink. That is how my honey and I got together. He told me that my posts got his attention and gave him courage to wink at me.


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Posted on Mon, Dec 11, 2006 23:16

Hi Ladies, Well I might possibly need a course in Online Dating 101. I'm enough of a hopeless romantic to know that all guys Online are not "serial daters" and that there are some good ones left out there. But girls, I've met 4 guys Online and 3 of them have been "players" (one was 63 years old and still playin' - sheesh). This is all very new to me. I'm just curious to know what kind of experiences other women are having. I see that a lot of people check out the blogs but few comment. I would love to hear from more of the ladies. Girl-talk anyone?


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Posted on Sat, Dec 09, 2006 10:18

Hi Anne, I agree with Wanda. I've dated a few guys from online and there comes a point in the relationship where either person will bring up the idea of exclusivity. And, just like other relationships...it works the same. :) And...there are some really great guys out there...the shy ones that are online. Wishing you much luck! :D


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Posted on Sat, Dec 09, 2006 08:16

Hi Anne and Welcome! Wanda couldn't have put it better. I've met guys in different ways and Wanda is right, if they're going to cruise, they're going to cruise not matter how you meet them. Personnally, I believe in dating one person at a time, (how else are you going to get to know someone?), but have met many guys who feel the need to "play the field". I have dated guys who also like the "one-on-one" thing, so I know that they're out there. Take care and good luck : )


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Posted on Mon, Dec 04, 2006 18:13

Hi there Wanda - Thanks for the warm welcome! My friends "and more" implies that I am definitely open to more with the right person. It just seems that men Online have such a smorgasborg of women to choose from that many of them (certainly not ALL of them) find it hard to commit to an exclusive relationship. Of course I'm a novice, but I've met a couple of "not-so-good" examples of Internet men. Will the good guys step forward please? :-)


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Posted on Mon, Dec 04, 2006 02:22

Hi Anne! Welcome to blogland here at Large Friends! I think you need to think about what it is you are seeking. Your profile states friends and more. That to me would imply friends and casual dating, hardly anything that would make a man think that you would want him to date you exclusively or even that perhaps you were looking for that sort of relationship. I have found that meeting someone first online is the same as in real life-when you reach a certain point you may discuss having a mutually exclusive relationship. If a man is going to cruise around for women he's going to do it if he's online or in his neighborhood. I don't think where you meet is going to make that much of a difference. Good luck!


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