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Posted on Fri, Nov 10, 2006 02:34

I want people to share their stories of acts of chivalry, either where you were the beneficiary or the benefactor. I say chivalry is very much alive and us women love it. Most recent acts of which I have benefit. I went to purchase a new rear screen wiper for my car. I bought it paid for it and started to walk out. The guy who served me offered to put it on my vehicle. I said "are you sure its not too much trouble?" he said it wouldn't be it would only take a few seconds. As we walked to the door his colleagues commented "Funny how he never offers to help the guys!" When I was last in London (you know people that horrible weekend I got dumped at the end of September) well on the tube lugging my wheelie suitcase around everytime I changed lines and had to negotiate some stairs many men offered to carry my case up the stairs. Bless...


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Posted on Fri, Dec 29, 2006 10:39

One thing I cannot stand is other men disrespectin women in any form, rather it be verbal or physically. One night I was out with some friends when I noticed some guy getting loud and verbal with his date. At first I just sat there watching the scene, until I saw his arm come up to take a swing at the woman. I jumped up from my seat, much to the dismay of my friends. I went over the the guy and tapped him on the shoulder and said If you want to hit someone, why dont you try me rather than this poor lady, or are you not man enough to hit another man? He turned around hurling a barriage of curses at me, all the while I told toe woman to gather he things and come with me. The guy started to stand up and I pushed him back down into his chair and said stay there. I would not tolerate any violence against a woman in my precense. If he wanted to step out and "discuss" this matter so we didnt disturb the rest of the people enjoying themselves. He got all wide eyed and said if I wanted the little ....erm...If I wanted her, I could have her. I walked away from his table and had her join my group of friends for the evening. She was so grateful, said she had never seen him get violent before like that and thanked me for helping even though he could have hurt me bad. I never even thought about that end of it, I just cant sit by while a man thinks he can do whatever he wants to a woman and she has to take it. Even if it means I get hurt.


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Posted on Tue, Dec 19, 2006 10:24

I do pride myself on being honorable and doing the right thing when I am able to do it, the doors and giving when I can,etc however recently the best thing I have done for a lady would be this.... I was in line for lunch here at the college and some girl over in the other line was having problems with her debt card and was getting frustrated. I said to the girl behind the counter to ring it thru on my card since hers wasn't working. The debt girl looked confused and thanked me a bunch of times and as I was leaving, she offered to pay me back right away but I politely declined and told her, it was an act of kindness and my good deed for the day and no repayment was neccessary. She blushed and kinda stuttered a thank you to me and I shook her hand and told her my name and said that I'd see her around again. Probably one of the better things I have done for someone recently.


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Posted on Mon, Dec 18, 2006 03:08

Way to go Redbear! Thanks for helping a lady out! Robyn, there is much there to be thankful for. Thankfully you are okay! Thankfully a brave man was a hero and came to your rescue! And thank-you for sharing with us that we need to always be alert and on the lookout even when we thingk we are 'safe'. May good karma follow your guardian angel for many years for his valliant bravery.


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Posted on Sun, Dec 17, 2006 18:21

Today I was struggling with putting up Christmas lights on the outside of my house when my neighbor came over to help. He even ran back home to get an extra extension cord for me to use. He ended up helping me for over an hour. I've never seen lights shine brighter.


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Posted on Sun, Dec 17, 2006 18:08

Robynroxx, I am glad that you are well enough to share your story. Many times we think that we are safe just because there are lots of people around. Thank goodness that your rescuer did not wait to see if someone else would help you. He truly is a hero.


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Posted on Sun, Dec 17, 2006 16:41

Well I contemplated long and hard about sharing this example of chivalry because in order to do so it involves telling some personal info. but I have decided there's a lesson to be learned so here it goes. Very very recently I was the victim of an attempted car jacking.I was in my vehicle at a red light waiting to turn left onto a major road where the traffic was backed up due to an accident. I saw a man walking twords my vehicle but didnt think anything about it as I was diagonal to a gas station. As he got closer I saw that there was something wrong, his facial expression, but my first thought was he may need help because of the accident, could have been injured and confused. Still didnt think my safety was an issue. As he got up to my door I realized in a split second that I was the one in trouble.Before I could re-act he had my door open and his hands around my neck choking me in an attempt to pull me out of my vehicle, that didnt work to well because I was seat belted in, I than had to duck and cover because he started punching.Well after he let go of my neck I was able to get a scream out, keep in mind this happened in daylight on a busy road. Right about the time he started to reach into his back pocket for the blade he had there(so the police informed me after the fact) my guardian angle came to my rescue. Some guy at his own risk was able to reach in and grab the guy around the neck in a choke hold and get him out of my vehicle. He suffered a pretty severe bite that took a huge chunk of flesh out of his arm. By this time 3 more guys had come to help.It took all 4 of them to hold this little guy down and restrained till the police got there 20 min. later due to the traffic from the accident. So to make a long story short I am okay, my savior is okay. But I think this is a perfect example of chivalry and bravery, my savior who didnt know me from Adam came to my rescue and in doing so put himself at risk and all for me a damsel in distress.So rather than dwell on the fact that I was a victim I have chosen to be grateful for my brave and chivelrious guardian angel. P.S. Always always lock your doors even in a safe little city like mine,random acts of violence do sometimes occur! Merry Christmas to you all!-RR-


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Posted on Fri, Dec 08, 2006 12:41

One morning I came into work with the flu, and my boss sent me home early. While driving home from work on a busy highway. I noticed a young women with a flat tire,looking at the cars wizz by her looking lost. she was going to try to change this tire with all this traffic passing her by at 70to 75 mph, next to a divider wall at lunch time traffic. Well, as bad as I felt. I pulled over and changed her tire for her with a 102 temperture. If you are truly a man, you hate to see a damsel in distress whatever the distress may be. she visible noticed that I was sick and said that I should have went home and got some rest. The look on my face and the nodding of my head told her that it would have bothered me if I did not answer the call to chivalry. I hope this story pleases you because every bit is true. and no.....chivalry is not dead. I've learned that a smile and a helping hand can chang a persons day for the better.


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Posted on Fri, Dec 01, 2006 00:51

I got another one. I have property developer client, and I have to do a site visit to go through his files and sort out some issues for him. But his offices are like a 5 to 6 hour drive from where I am based. I said I would leave Plymouth at 4 in the morning to get to his office in Essex but he said he would come and pick me up and drop me off and that I should be totally refreshed to do the job. How sweet and chivalrous is that?


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Posted on Thu, Nov 23, 2006 00:35

nodramaaroundme that's sweet, even what may appear to be the smallest gesture is worthy of a mention if it makes you glow inside. That's the affect of chivalry. If only guys made us glow more often...


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Posted on Tue, Nov 21, 2006 11:51

ok everyone I hope I don't gross you out with this one but it was also a little sweet. I had a brief relationship with a guy that lived about 4 states away. I drove out to see him (12 hrs one-way) and on the morning that I left, I had some sleep in my eye and he told me. I said, "where" but he reached down and scooped it out without a word. I didn't even jump. I couldn't believe he did that and his reply was, "I could see it better than you could." Gross but maybe the sweetest thing any guy has done for me.


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Posted on Tue, Nov 14, 2006 22:10

ahh sweet robyn would hold the door open for you anytime...and even pour that cuppa java replete with Frangelica for you :>D


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Posted on Tue, Nov 14, 2006 15:01

You are a good man Deaffy to not let that experience change you. No need to be bitter just because of someone who does not have enough common sense to thank someone for putting her first.


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Posted on Tue, Nov 14, 2006 05:28

Deaffy thanks for your posting. I don't know why women do that. I hold doors open for old ladies and help them with their shopping bags on the bus. If I go through a door I always look behind me and hold it open for the person behind. That is just good manners. Don't worry Deaffy we won't chastise you for your gentlemanly behaviour we celebrate you. Actually I remember when I was dating the guy from this site (who dumped me - see my "Worst Date Ever" blog) we arrived at my parents house after attending a wedding together (i was his wedding date) He took my weekend bag out of the car and insisted he carried it. He said he didn't want my Dad to think he wasn't a gentlemen. When we went inside to my parents house I introduced him to my parents and he was still clutching my weekend bag. I went to take it off his hands and he wouldn't let go. I said "err [***] please may I have my bag?" He replied no he must carry it for me. I said I do think you should let me take it now because I have to put it in my bedroom. He then blushed realising he couldn't very well follow me upstairs to my room at my parents house then he let go. I'm sure thoughts of my Dad chasing him down the road with a sabre scared the pants off him!


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Posted on Mon, Nov 13, 2006 13:33

It's funny, but what some may label as chivalrous I would define as just being kind and considerate. I open doors(cars and entrances), walk on the street-side of the lady, and generally behave myself. I've never been "called on" for a lack of gentlemanly behavior, so I think I'm doing alright. About the only thing I don't or won't do is order for her in a restaurant. To me, that's a bit dismissive and controlling. If I'm dating her, she's smart enough to make up her own mind. I'd rather she place her order and make any particular requests for preparation without going through me. Actually, I HAVE had my gentlemanly behavior questioned a few years ago. I reached a store entrance at about the same time as a lady who was about my age. I reached for the door, and held it open so that she may enter first. What ensued was a 30-second (seemed longer) chiding about how she can open her own doors, and that women are perfectly capable of taking care of themselves, that this was a nation of equals, and I must be some chauvinist pig. I didn't say anything, just continued to hold the door, expressionless. She must have thought she'd have more luck talking to the door as she just huffed and went on through. But my options were limited. I could have argued (pointless), or just walked on through pulling the door behind me. Today, I'd still open the door for her.


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Posted on Mon, Nov 13, 2006 00:28

I know chivalry is not dead. I don't need a man to open the door for me, pull out the chair in a restaurant and seat me, or open the car door for me. But these little things are a sign of respect and courtesy towards me and I appreciate them.


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Posted on Sun, Nov 12, 2006 01:47

Seriously its been two days...are you telling me that chivalry is really dead...and I am the only lucky lady to have had the benefit of an act of chivalry? This blog is to celebrate and honour those acts of chivalry and those chivalrous men...I am disappointed...its no good, me no like...


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