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Posted on Mon, Sep 25, 2006 19:14

so much for eharmony I guess...contacted by someone seemed to hit it off then comes the meeting....seemed to go ok and then next day....no calls...and no response to my call....so strange...no signs of any problems during the date....but oops just disappeared on me....whats up with that? well here I am back and dusted off and just a little bit more wary....


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Posted on Tue, Oct 03, 2006 17:59

Diamond4u.... I had that same concern when I met my fiance. The first time I saw his place I knew I was going to be in trouble! He was very neat and I am not. Just like you, I thought it would be a problem so I just came right out and told him that this might be an issue. I told him that I would try to be neater and he promised to not hold me to his same standard of neatness. We are getting married on Saturday so I guess this wasn't a deal breaker afterall. I wouldn't let this issue stop you from pursuing anything .... if you choose to. It's all about compromise. Good luck!


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Posted on Mon, Oct 02, 2006 18:48

hi jjiggl, no I am not offended at all...your right and I appreciate your thoughts...I am kinda undecided about being friends because I thought friends accept you as you are and I wonder about him...he is hard to read but I guess time will tell...the biggest difference I can see is he is a neat freak and I am not so guess who will not be coming to my house....lol


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Posted on Mon, Oct 02, 2006 14:23

There isn't anything wrong with being "friends" with him, but you have already said that there are things about him that make you sure that he would not be a good love connection. You also seem to be having reservations about even being "friends" with him. Remember that you are not obligated to him even to just be his "friend". If you don't feel comfortable with that idea, then don't do it. I am not trying to tell you to leave this man alone, period. I am just telling you that it is ok if you don't like him and don't want to be around him at all. Not only is it true that everyone is not meant to be our life partner, but it is also true that everyone is not meant to be our friend either. (If I am out of line with my comment, I apologze. I am just giving my gut reaction to your post). Take care.


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Posted on Sun, Oct 01, 2006 20:52

****update**** the guy contacted me again...seems he is shy and was overwhelmed....so we are gonna try to be friends....not really sure how I feel about this but gonna give it a try....I think we are both seeing some things that might be issues for us if we had dated....but I guess you can never have too many friends....so we will see....the biggest issue I see so far is he is very neat and I am more the lived in look...not a slob but unlike him I know everything has a place but if its not there I don't fret...so this might be a sign of more issues that we would have have....I just gotta wonder....in the grand scheme of life is it really necessary to sweat the small stuff?


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Posted on Tue, Sep 26, 2006 15:33

so true...and to find out that he had lied on his profile...so what good are they...I am going to pull my profile from that site...I didn't like the idea that lots of the men had no pictures and then you couldn't really talk just answer questions....this guy I was wary of....he showed up with a card with a poem I know he did not write...professing to be mine forever...please...it just doesn't work like that...and worst of all he had no plans...didn't spend a dime on me....I really think he was just looking for a booty call...just got the wrong girl...anyway....he is gone and soon to be a forgotten memory....


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Posted on Tue, Sep 26, 2006 14:51

I signed up with one of those compatibility dating sites a few years ago because they offered a free compatibility assessment. I spent all afternoon answering their lengthy questionnaire. The next day, or maybe it was a day or two, they send me a list of men's profiles that I might be compatible with. Turns out that none of the men on the list wanted a woman who was plus sized. Most of the men on the list wanted women who were not of my race. Some of the men on the list wanted women with long hair. To me, when a person specifies what they want physically in a mate, anyone who does not match that criteria should automatically be put in the "no way in heck will he like her/him" file. So I could not understand why they would send me a list of men who would not be interested in me at all. Not only did they get the physical part all screwed up, they also sent men that I was not compatible with in several other categories. Men who wanted to children. Men who wanted women with degrees. Men who wanted women who enjoyed the outdoors. None of these were me. I never contacted anyone because I thought it was just a waste of time. Just like it was a waste of time to fill out that danged compatibility questionnaire. Because of the experience that I had with that site, I roll my eyes when I see that commercial about the dating site that matches people based on their personality. What a load of hooey!!


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Posted on Tue, Sep 26, 2006 06:36

I just hate it when men fall of the face of the earth like that, but I'm sure there are women that do the same thing. Dust yourself off learn from this one and keep looking. Like Ratler said there are good men out there, we just have to get past all the losers to find him..


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Posted on Tue, Sep 26, 2006 05:54

thanks...your right there are lots of good men out there...I was concerned about him because he was so nervous...he was shy and visibly shaken so I held his hands and said its OK I am nervous too and he seemed better after about 20 minutes or so...hopefully he will find someone...I hope so....


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