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Posted on Sat, Apr 01, 2006 14:02

Is there some new rule written somewhere that I am unaware of? Why is it that 90% of the emails, grams, or instant messages from men all begin with "Hi baby"? I dont know about other women, but it annoys me beyond descriptive words. First of all, I'm not your 'baby'. Second of all, pet names are meant to be earned, not just slapped on any woman out there, otherwise... do you really think it's going to mean anything special to your girl when you use it on her? Thirdly, by using the term so loosely, you have just inadvertetly catagorized yourself into the HNG's hall of fame. For those of you who dont know the widely used net term... it means, Horny Net Geek. Please gentleman, if all your wanting is a piece of cyber@ss, then by all means, keep it up. If you really want to impress the ladies who are serious about meeting their mate for life... give us a wee bit more respect and use a little more class when your first getting in contact. The fun and games and cutesy comments come after we know you are for real and not just out to squirt your monitor.


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Posted on Mon, May 01, 2006 23:33

I don't know if this comment will make it through but , here goes:Would some of these cyber geeks address the female members of their family as such? i don't believe they have the nerve to. so It's alright to address someone totally unknown and with no familiarity in such a manner? apparently they must not credit women with enough intelligence to totally disregard them for the morons they are


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Posted on Sun, Apr 23, 2006 08:54

Well titian, what would a woman be if she were not able to do a bit of whining? Its in our nature. I think my forum and blog posts speak t=for themselves as to who I am as a person, that one tiny little 'whine' isn't going to taint my reputation. I agree MrGW that communication skills have been sorely lost to our youth. Proper manners is a thing of the past. My post was really more of an observation with a bit of whining mixed in there. The meat and potato's of the subject is that many men really should brush up on their skills as far as how they approach and speak to women. I think they would have much better results in catching the girl of their dreams. Thank you RWGroot, while I'm not a patient woman, I can be patient when it comes to finding the man I wish to spend the rest of my life with. I would like to add that I find it incredibly humorous that during this week that I've been in Louisiana (I return home Wed. of this week), its a cultural thing to call everyone baby. Both males and females alike. Well, the cajun pronunciation of the word comes out quite different. Everytime I meet someone new, I've been call baby... I can't help but laugh. Serves me right!


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Posted on Sun, Apr 23, 2006 08:48

Toketee - I'm with you Girl! I Love Pet Names - but NOT by someone I don't know and who has No Clue. Gimme a lil respect when startin out. "Baby" is Soooooooooo Overused, it's almost an insult. My favorite Pet Name was... well, not gonna tell - but when he whispered it in my ear, that's All it took :-D


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Posted on Fri, Apr 21, 2006 20:12

That pretentious attitude will get you everywhere.Stop the whining and Lighten up....baby cakes.


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Posted on Fri, Apr 21, 2006 14:51

Tokotee I never realized how crazy this world is, until I read your post. I have been a silent member of this site for awhile and findit incomprehensible that a person would start a email or a blog that way I guess there are a lot of sexually stunted guys out there that don't know where to start. Don't take it personally and hopefully you will find the gentleman you are looking for who will one day make you want to be called whatever his heart desires Good Luck


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Posted on Fri, Apr 21, 2006 11:55

I know exactly (well, possibly not EXACTLY) what you're saying. The lapse in any kind of properity is terrible. Or, it might just be that the men AND women who do that are lacking some social and/or intellectual prowess. It would be good if, while children are young, they were instructed in the simple art of conversation. Also a number of "men" really need to learn how to be respectful towards a woman.


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Posted on Thu, Apr 20, 2006 10:33

The men who've commented here are all inherently silly. Being called "baby" by someone we are NOT close to only makes us feel irked at a guy's presumptuousness. I, personally, don't even like being called "beautiful" by a guy who doesn't know me, as beauty is relative and not solely based on one's appearance. I work in retail and hate it when guys come in the store where i work and call me "baby" or, worst of all "shawty." It implies a level of familiarity they haven't earned, much like you said.


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Posted on Tue, Apr 04, 2006 00:23

Hey babes! Any of you women want to cyber? Give me an email. I don't care what you look like. Thanks a lot, Matt :)


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Posted on Mon, Apr 03, 2006 22:58

I think this all comes back to an issue of courtesy. I'm with you. I don't want to be called honey, baby, pumpkin, sweet thing, sugar, love or any of that the first time I speak with someone. I'm not even sure about "hey beautiful". Though I'm with the whole guys are socially inept theory. So I guess the solution is to see what they're all about and be honest if how they talk to you bothers you. Blogs are for thinking, venting, and saying what you feel. Keep it up Toketee. Just maybe you'll give some of the socially inept ones a clue then you can both get past the nonsense. ;)


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Posted on Mon, Apr 03, 2006 19:27

Toketee, I'll tell you one thing I can always count on, and that is, that I can always count on your posts being solid, and always ringing true, and interesting... You are so well read and articulate, you make me stop, read and think. I may not always agree, but that stands for anybodies stuff I read.(But to be honest, I'm usually right on track with your take on things). I do respect your sense of humor,and not just that, but you don't sugarcoat everything. Yeah yeah yeah, blah blah blah, It's more than obvious that you are stunningly gorgeous, but luckily I don't want to get in your pants, so this means I can have a decent non-Hi Baby rapport with ya. (LOL) Have fun blogging... Cheers, VeniVici


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Posted on Mon, Apr 03, 2006 18:24

Whooooooaaaaaaa Nelly !!!!! Being annoyed beyond descriptive words means simply what it says... "Annoyed" beyond words that would 'in that moment' come to me. It does not mean that I am,or was, worked up, have my panties in a bind, am frothing at the mouth, convulsing, or even experiencing nightmares over this. It's NOT that big a deal. Part of the purpose of "Blogs" is being able to rant and rave those daily ups and downs... You know... blah blah blah + logs = Blogs... Most people call them Journals, or diaries, etc. The modern cyber world came up with the term blogs. This is why my comment about being called "Hey Baby" is NOT in the Forum. I was very much aware that it was a reactionary statement and not something that I might think the very next day. That's one of the joys of bloging! Our blogs get to be filled with nonesense, or inspirational thoughts, or venting from some stressful situation. Which was the case on this particular day. I had opened up the 28th email from some guy I didnt know, or barely knew, and it was basically the same message over and over... "Hey baby, your cute, drop me a line and maybe we can get together for some fun on the side... btw, what size are you?" Well, call my psycho, but I'd heard enough of it that day, which resulted in the need to do a bit of blogging. So while in that particular moment, taking a chill pill may have been appropriate, I'm in no way sorry for the post. I doubt that I am alone in thinking that it's nice to be spoken to like a lady sometimes too, and not always like the local bar fly. On most days I tolerate the "hey baby..." thing just fine. On that day, it was more than I cared to keep my mouth shut over. ... and No, FunGuy... I would not consider "Hi Beautiful" as disrespectful at all. Nor do I appreciate your written statement of "Okay ladies, according to Toketee, it's disrespectful to use any kind of 'pet name' so please don't write to us guys with 'Hey handsome' or any of those negative terms of disrespect!!!"........ That's putting words in my mouth I did not say. Furthermore, I most certainly would not say that "hey Handsome" is in any way negative or disrespectful. I do however find this all very amusing. I'm not at all offended by anyones comments, your all very much entitled to your opinions as much as I am to mine. Thank you FunGuy for the compliment,... and Venivici, keep up the good postings, it keeps spice in otherwise dull boards.


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Posted on Mon, Apr 03, 2006 07:25

In my opinion, just my humble opinion, I think that getting all worked up over some guy saying, Hi babe( or baby), is (for me) extreme. The idea that it "annoys you beyond descriptive words" is hard for me to wrap my mind around. Trust me, the hi baby thing is not meant to impress us, but rather, it's probably that many men looking for love online have never written love notes, or dating salutations. They're clueless. I can't hold that against them. There are waaaayyyyyy worst attributes than a dorky salutation. Yes, some crafty sleezy guys are manipulative to get sex,and will say anything to get it, but the hi baby thing isn't their hook...I promise you. However, on the flip side, I'm glad that you posted this in your blog because now the men you encounter (hopefully) won't bug you with hi baby's anymore. Cheers then!


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Posted on Mon, Apr 03, 2006 03:18

I have never doubted that there are genuine people out there. Nor did I ever think it necc. to post in my profile that it would be nice to be treated like a lady, and not some chick in a bar. Just to make myself clear, I'm speaking specifically of the first message, or even the second when your barely past a greeting and just starting to ask questions and get to know one another. I dont know, call me strange, I just think pet names have their place and a first contact is not one of them.


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Posted on Sun, Apr 02, 2006 07:00

Outta Salutations! Sometimes it's just difficult to approach someone. There are no rules! it's scary for guys as well as Ladies. Yes....admittedly there are the cyber curb crawler types but there are some genuine people. Make some suggestion how would you like to be approached? Put it in your profile. Relax.......You know we women are the evolved species!


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Posted on Sun, Apr 02, 2006 03:41

Hello Blog, have a nice day


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