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worriedwasper
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Posted on Fri, Sep 08, 2006 14:01

I have always dreamed of meeting a man who could make me laugh. I was married 16 years to a guy who hated joking and laughter. Now 4 years post divorce I still have to beleave that he is out there. The funny man I would love to be friends with......maybe more.


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Posted on Wed, Sep 12, 2007 14:59

Isn't it funny how many of us love a sense of humor. And someone who smiles a lot - with their whole face and not just their mouth - and has the smile lines to prove it. Ah yes. Lovely. I would not be interested in a stand-up comedian - someone who hides from the serious stuff behind comedy. But I do love my guy's sense of humor and he does love to make me laugh, and I like to do the same for him. Not quite gut-busting like Amuse's fella, but really nice frequent laughter. Also, a slow fuse is good. I don't like to be around people who are quick to anger or who get angry a lot. Those vibes are really uncomfortable for me. And its important to me to be with someone who is laid back and relaxed most of the time as opposed to someone who is high-strung, nervous, or has big OCD issues. Those kinds of people make me anxious and I can't spend much time with them because of it. But then I know more women like this than men.


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Posted on Wed, Sep 12, 2007 12:55

They have to have a smart and playful side to them - and it usually shows up first as a mischevious spark in their eye. Usually intellect is quite prevalent in those who know how to keep playfulness at their finger tips. My attention is fully focused on them if they are wise enough to pick up that I am the person in the room who will toss the ball back if they throw it to me.


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Posted on Wed, Sep 12, 2007 09:55

i like a direct "knowing" eye to eye contact. touching and endearments are a big plus too


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Posted on Wed, Sep 12, 2007 09:23

Worried - I agree humor is essential. I love to laugh especially those laughs that make your stomach muscles spasm and hurt. I am lucky the man I have found has a wonderful sense of humor. We sit on the phone and giggle and laugh about everything. Keep looking, he is out there for you.


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Posted on Wed, Sep 12, 2007 07:58

Heya worriedwasper... isn't it amazing how many people take laughing and having a general feeling of happiness for granted? I have been told before (and even asked why) that I laugh too much. I giggle constantly, they say... but I'd rather have a giggly disposition and be regarded as silly and maybe even 'light-headed' than b*tchy. Hence, the name AmuseMe. I tend to gravitate towards people now who smile and laugh often. Laughter truly is a spirit refresher. "Honeybuns" keeps me in stitches more often than not... Literally I ache with the exertion of gut busting roars of laughter. To me having someone you can laugh with is priceless. Here's hoping someone makes you laugh til you cry.


In your rocking-chair, by your window dreaming, shall you long, alone. In your rocking-chair, by your window, shall you dream such happiness as you may never feel. –Theodore Dreiser

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Posted on Wed, Sep 12, 2007 06:46

It's a three way toss up for me. Humor, intelligence and a sense of playfulness. I guess the next one is does the person like themselves. That's vital and as someone else says UPBEAT. One of lifes greatest lessons is that we actually choose are own mental state. I know what I've choosen, but some folks out there... well in the words of Yoda "have NOT choosen wisely"


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Posted on Fri, Sep 15, 2006 22:13

The first thing....hmmm Online I'd say its a clear, unposed, smiling photo followed by a detailed profile that really lets me know who it is I am viewing. In person - it would be friendliness, an aura of confidence, and that look that says there is some mutual attraction going on here. :) Then when he opens his mouth, it would be intelligence, gentleness, humor.


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Posted on Mon, Sep 11, 2006 06:25

Eyes, Hair, balance within the body. I could care less about a woman being large so long as she's balanced. thats physically. Dont forget your attitude will make or break you.


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Posted on Sun, Sep 10, 2006 19:46

I agree a sense of humor is very important. I need to see that special sparkle in his eyes.


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Posted on Sun, Sep 10, 2006 11:49

First thing I look for is his smile....some smile so easy it makes you smile back...I shy away from men that look stern or look like they forced a smile. Also I read the profile and shy away from anyone talking about drama or baggage...lol. I like to read happy upbeat profiles.....


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