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Posted on Tue, Sep 05, 2006 08:30

I read the blogs regularly and sometimes post my comments. However, I feel compelled to write today because I am truly saddened by the many women who lack self esteem and exude desperation on this website. There are women on here advertising thoughts of self loathing and neediness to an extent I just cannot understand. Women are on this network saying they cannot get a date because they are too big. I say this is a website for large people, if you cannot make a connection maybe the issue is far deeper than outward appearance. I am concerned that there are predators on this site looking for those women who are so down on themselves that they will fall for almost anything... Let's learn to love ourselves before we seek others to make us whole. And if you don't love yourself fake it, you will be surprised at the different kind of attention you will get and how it will help build your self esteem.


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Posted on Wed, Sep 06, 2006 15:54

"...and if you don't love yourself, fake it. You will be surprised at the different attention you get and how it will boost your self esteem..." Thank you for your pep talk. Doing this a few hours a day, a few days a week will work wonders. Better results than lipo, Weight Watchers, and Jenny Craig could ever give!!


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Posted on Wed, Sep 06, 2006 12:45

I agree with you it makes me sad to read that someone is down on them self. sometimes I post on these to maybe help pick up the spirit of these ladies, but it is a turnoff to me that they think so little of themselves. I have to wonder sometimes if they do this for att. my ex did this, she would put down on herself to get what she wanted from me. What she needed to do was just say I love you and she could have had the world. If you tell me you are Ms It and don't need my input to know this and I will be more likely to give you a 2nd look.


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Posted on Wed, Sep 06, 2006 10:43

I agree. I'm one of those people who hate when others fish for a compliments, its makes me very stubborn and contrary. So I refuse to give in and tell them what they want to hear. All women are insecure and get lonely. It doesn't matter what you look like. My best friend is constantly complaining about being lonely and only getting losers, but I can see how her underlying issues affect her relationships and potential relationships. I'm sure its the same for all of us on this site, we just can't see it happening to us because we make our size/looks the issue. First of all you should ask yourself, are you here to really find someone, or are you just looking for someone to tell you how great you are without the dangers of actually having a real relationship? Are you really ready to love yourself enough let someone in? Next you should ask, do you love yourself enough to respect yourself? Because if you aren't ready for those things, you need to work on a lot before you can meet your match. You need to be able to let people in, but you need to be able to let them go too if it doesn't work out or it you feel that person doesn't respect you. I've decided that I'm going to try and not let chances pass me by anymore. I've made stupid mistakes too many times and regretted not trying because I was too insecure. Trying and failing in the game of love until I find the right person has got to be better than just wishing and hoping.


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Posted on Wed, Sep 06, 2006 10:42

I agree. I'm one of those people who hate when others fish for a compliments, its makes me very stubborn and contrary. So I refuse to give in and tell them what they want to hear. All women are insecure and get lonely. It doesn't matter what you look like. My best friend is constantly complaining about being lonely and only getting losers, but I can see how her underlying issues affect her relationships and potential relationships. I'm sure its the same for all of us on this site, we just can't see it happening to us because we make our size/looks the issue. First of all you should ask yourself, are you here to really find someone, or are you just looking for someone to tell you how great you are without the dangers of actually having a real relationship? Are you really ready to love yourself enough let someone in? Next you should ask, do you love yourself enough to respect yourself? Because if you aren't ready for those things, you need to work on a lot before you can meet your match. You need to be able to let people in, but you need to be able to let them go too if it doesn't work out or it you feel that person doesn't respect you. I've decided that I'm going to try and not let chances pass me by anymore. I've made stupid mistakes too many times and regretted not trying because I was too insecure. Trying and failing in the game of love until I find the right person has got to be better than just wishing and hoping.


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Posted on Wed, Sep 06, 2006 01:34

I've got to agree with you. Those "Please tell me what you think" and "Am I pretty?" posts disturb me a little.... espeically with the comments like "My God you are so amazingly beautiful, I would love to be with you, I would do anything to meet you, I think you are my sould mate" blah blah blah... that is scary... People preying on others insecurities is wrong. I'm very very insecure, but I am also increadibly cynical and distrusting LOL which works in my favour because I dont belive people who dribble all over me. I honestly don't think have a few random people compliment you on a site like this would do anything for your self esteem. A quick fix, maybe.


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