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Maybe we need too Posted on Oct 17, 2009 at 05:30 PM
We all want that new relationship, right? Reading blogs and profiles I've noticed something. Everyone seems to want that perfect mate that will conform to what we want/need. I've never seen a profile-including my own-that says how willing we would be to change something about ourselves just to be with someone. Maybe we need to act like we did in high school. Remember how we bent over backwards to try to please that one special person. Remember how instantly we would try to change to make that person accept us. Maybe we are to old to remember what we did to be with someone years ago. I totally understand how things have changed over the years and how we have grown and how we all know what we want in a relationship. And I'm sure alot of us were hurt before and we are trying to avoid that pain again but... So, I guess we need to take a step back and ask if some of the things that are a definite must in a relationship isn't just us being stubborn. Granted some things we want can't be changed but there are probably things that we want that could be changed. Who's gonna go first?
Have ya ever had that one? Posted on Oct 04, 2009 at 09:20 PM
Have ya ever had that one date/relationship that you will never regret having. I have. The circumstances by which we met weren't ideal, but the relationship that followed was utterly amazing. I had the most fun, bar none, that I have ever had in a relationship. I had just gotten out of a 12 year relationship with my ex so it was so unexpected to find something so special this quick. I haven't seen this girl for two and a half years now but hardly a week goes by that I dont think about her. Do I miss the relationship? yes If I reconnected with her would it be the same? I doubt it but for that nine months I had with her I wouldn't trade it for anything. plus she moved about 2500 miles away lol
IF ITS MEANT TO HAPPEN BLAH BLAH BLAH Posted on Sep 28, 2009 at 04:20 AM
I know that this is a dating site but I'm wondering if there is sometimes to much emphasis on 'finding' the one. This is a generalizing statement that is not just directed at this site. We all hear the statement "If its meant to happen it will" blah blah blah. How true is that statement? I believe that this statement holds less meaning the older we get. I know in my own case, being high school sweethearts, there was alot of stuff that I didn't know about myself and now being older and wiser:) any new relationship will be so much different. Anyway, back to my original question. How true is and does anyone believe that "If it is meant to happen it will"?
Sometimes men make me mad Posted on Sep 21, 2009 at 06:39 PM
Lol i'm a guy. After reading alot of blogs and working in factories i have noticed something. GUYS, if u dont want women to pigeon hole us as a 'normal' guy then quit acting like what they are saying. Quit saying how much guys need head. Quit saying how you cant live without sex. Quit including 'great sex partner' in what u need in a woman. Quit saying how masculine and manly you are. Quit assuming that telling a woman about the size of your xxxx is gonna make her fall in love with you. Quit thinking that you are God's gift to anyone. Now this a guys perspective on 'guys.'
I Think Society has Problems-Does That Mean I'm Getting Old? Posted on Sep 16, 2009 at 07:47 AM
In a recent conversation with my brother, we started talking about our kids and how they are growing up in a society that is so much different than ours was. Since we both have children, his son is 15 mine is 7, the topic of how narcissistic views are becoming more prevalent in younger school age kids became a large part of the conversation. I feel that constant praise and rewards without an equal balance of "negativity" or instruction contributes to the growth of narcissism in a child. I've noticed how much harder it is for kids (my son included) to cope with criticism. My belief is that this is the primary reason that causes some to react in violence-as is evident in recent school shootings. I'm not saying that every child will end up killing, but in these cases it happened. The actual definition of narcissism is an excessive preoccupation with self and a lack of empathy for others. Real-life narcissists desperately need others to validate their own worth. It is also not about being liked, but is more important to be admired. I can remember being in school and wanting friends because they liked me not because of the good grade that I got on the spelling test. Networking sites have become a simple way to self-promote without actually having to prove your worth. Right now I can tell you that I am a 34yo male wearing blue shorts-you have to believe me and I don't have to prove it. Once the cornerstone of proof is removed, truth becomes objective. I want alot of responses PLZ!!
Not a true blog but I just wanted to brag Posted on Sep 08, 2009 at 08:59 PM
I'm not talking about anything serious here just bragging. My son turned seven in april. Last summer I bought him a set of golf clubs, this summer he started playing golf. We go out golfing on the weekends/days that I have him. Last week he drove a golf ball over 135 yards off the tee and is consistently hitting over a hundred yards with his five iron. I think thats pretty good for a kid thats not even 71/2 yet. If I keep my fingers crossed I might be able to retire early. lol
Does anybody understand what i'm saying? Posted on Aug 30, 2009 at 10:03 PM
Ok, heres the situation. I have been seperated from my ex for 3+ years and divorced for a litle over two. We were high school sweethearts and were together for almost twelve years. We have a son (perfect i might add) who is seven. I so miss the company, attention, and everything that forms a relationship. First thing, my ex is a very judgemental person always has been. When I get in another relationship how can I protect the feelings of my new mate, because it is inevitable that my ex will begin her derogatory comments about this person. I can hear it now comments about weight, intelligence, lack of fashion sense, and etc... Maybe this won't bother the new person but it will affect me alot. Is this normal and how have those of you who have dealt with it done so? Second thing-Breaking the news of someone else in your life to a child. It almost kills me to think that anything that i do might affect my son in a negative way. It's almost as if i would want to pass on a very solid new relationship for fear of having to 'justify' it to my son. If you know something that might help please let me know.
HA HA Posted on Aug 27, 2009 at 03:13 PM
Three men decided to apply for jobs as FBI agents. After the physical and psychological testing, the instructor had one more test. The first man was given a gun and told to kill his wife, who was sitting alone in the next room. After a few seconds alone with her he realized that he loved her too much and gave the gun back to the instructor, thus failing the test. The second man made it a few minutes before turning in the gun and failing the test. The third man walked into the room and the instructor heard a loud bang and some scuffling. When the man came out of the room the instructor inquired about what had happened. The man replied that some idiot had loaded the gun with blanks and that he had to finish his wife off with a chair. *if this offends you switch the man and woman* lol