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What If? Posted on Jan 07, 2007 at 11:04 PM
I wish I could take credit for this as it's just great, but I can't, and I don't know who originally wrote it. What If? What if fat was healthy because fat people had some cushioning and some reserve food stores to live on, and skinny people were said to be putting themselves at risk, and stigmatized for making this stupid health decision? What if people went up to skinny girls in the street and said "Oh, you'd be beautiful if you'd just gain weight!" Or "You're thin, but you're beautiful on the inside!" Or looked at me like I was in some way sick and disgusting? What if all clothes below size 10 came in girly pastels, with the reasoning that small women are underdeveloped and childish? What if they were called `minus sizes'? What if thin people had to go to special stores to buy clothes, because none of the regular stores wanted to stock clothes for them, saying that they're disgusting and their patrons wouldn't want to look at them? What if all models were a size 16 or above, but every once in a while you'd see a "minus size" model in a size 8 cut to make her look larger? What if "too fat" wasn't the greatest thing, because it was acknowledged to not be terribly healthy, but the models who were "too fat" still got all the modeling jobs, and they were told that they might want to lose a little weight but nobody took it seriously? And meantime "too fat" was infinitely better than "too skinny"? What if thin people were depicted in the media as obsessed with exercise and starving themselves, and thus not sexually interested? And fat people were depicted as able to enjoy their food, and their lovers, with relish? What if a TV character as popular as Friends' Monica was depicted as once having been thin, not even unhealthily so, and she was the butt of jokes for that? What if X percent of the American population was labeled "underweight" ? What if food commercials focused not on low-fat, but high in nutrients to gain weight? What if people said "I don't understand what's wrong with skinny people. All they have to do is eat! It's not that difficult. They must be pretty stupid not to figure that out."? What if there were no labels saying "Low Fat" but instead they said "High Fat"? What if magazines ran stories on "How to Maximize the Glory of your Curves"? What if 7-year-old girls, copying their moms, asked their friends "Does this make me look too skinny?" What if magazines ran bogus ads for weight gain powder? And the ads said "Mary gained 25 pounds in 8 weeks combining a high-nutrient diet, exercise to gain muscle mass, and Product X"? And they showed a picture of Mary wearing baggy clothes to make her look skinny and waifish, while in the "After" picture she was trim and tan? And women looked at Mary, who didn't need to gain weight to begin with, and say "If she's skinny, I must be a stick" and started gorging themselves? What if thin people had to pay more for clothes and underwear and almost no pretty bras came in anything under a size 40? What if there was an operation to enlarge the size of one's stomach or inject fat under the skin? What if middle-aged women were admired because they had put on some weight after age 30 and young women were simply `too thin'? What if kids made jokes like "Your mama's so thin, she blew away when I flapped my arms"? What if people talked to thin people slowly on the assumption that they were like children? What if thin people had to learn to be witty, because else they would be utterly ignored by the opposite sex? What if studies showed that thin could also be healthy, not just fat,but the mass media only paid lip service to them? This would be ridiculous. Then why is the reverse still OK? ?Author Unknown
Master Cleanse Posted on Jan 07, 2007 at 11:02 PM
As this new year starts, in an effort to be healthier, three friends and I are going to be doing Stanley Burroughs Master Cleanse Diet (sometimes referred to as the Lemonaide Diet) for 10 days starting on January 14th. We are doing this to allow our digestive systems to rest, giving our bodies energy to utilize towards cleansing itself out, to give us increased energy, cleanse our bodies of toxins and waste, and to help us break some bad health habits we have developed. If anyone wants to join us in our endeavors to cleanse our bodies, please feel free to. Although people do lose weight on this diet, which is really a liquid fast with added nutrients, the weight loss is primarily from cleaning and detoxifying the body, not from losing fat. However, once you have spent 10 days cleaning the inside of your body-from cells to organs, hopefully you will be more alert and careful about what you put into your body once you end the diet and resume eating foods again. The contents of this blog are not to be considered medical advice. Always check with your personal doctor before starting any diet or modifying any health or fitness routine.
THINGS WE CAN LEARN FROM A DOG... Posted on Jan 01, 2007 at 11:38 PM
THINGS WE CAN LEARN FROM A DOG... 1. Never pass up the opportunity to go for a joyride. 2. Allow the experience of fresh air and the wind in your face to be pure ecstasy. 3. When loved ones come home, always run to greet them. 4. When it's in your best interest, practice obedience. 5. Let others know when they've invaded your territory. 6. Take naps and stretch before rising. 7. Run, romp and play daily. 8. Eat with gusto and enthusiasm. 9. Never pretend to be something you're not. 10. If what you want lies buried, dig until you find it. 11. When someone is having a bad day, be silent, sit close by and nuzzle them gently. 12. Thrive on attention and let people touch you. 13. Avoid biting when a simple growl will do. 14. On hot days, drink lots of water and lie under a shady tree. 15. When you're happy, dance around and wag your entire body. 16. No matter how often you're scolded, don't buy into the guilt thing and right back and make friends. 17....and be loyal.
New Years Resolutions Posted on Dec 31, 2006 at 12:03 AM
Make a resolution every year but don't succeed? Don't give up hope! New Year's Resolution For The Disillusioned Failed in business......................... 1831 Lost election for legislature.............. 1832 Failed again in business................... 1834 Sweetheart died............................ 1835 Nervous breakdown.......................... 1836 Lost second political race................. 1838 Defeated for Congress...................... 1843 Defeated for Congress...................... 1846 Defeated for Congress...................... 1848 Defeated for U.S. Senate..................... 1855 Defeated for Vice President................ 1856 Defeated for U.S. Senate..................... 1858 Elected President.......................... 1860 ... Abraham Lincoln
New Years Toasts Posted on Dec 31, 2006 at 12:01 AM
Wishing everyone a healthy,happy and love filled 2007! May you live to be a hundred years - with one extra year to repent! May the Lord keep you in the palm of His hand, and never close his fist too tight! May you live as long as you want and never want as long as you live! May the best day of your past be the worst day of your future! A toast to your coffin. May it be of 100 year old oak and may we plant the seed together tomorrow! Here's to a long life and a merry one. A quick death and an easy one. A pretty girl and an honest one. A cold beer-and another one! May your troubles be less, And your blessings be more. And nothing but happiness come through your door. May your neighbors respect you, Trouble neglect you, The angels protect you, And heaven accept you. Merry met, and merry part, I drink to thee with all my heart. And of course, the most famous of all Irish toasts? May the road rise to meet you. May the wind be always at your back. May the sun shine warm upon your face. And rains fall soft upon your fields. And until we meet again, May God hold you in the hollow of His hand! Every year it comes around Resolutions can be found Have a vision, have a dream It's easier than it seems Avoid the worry, avoid the fear Time to get yourself in gear --Michael Varma, CTM Here's to your health this New Year's night Wishing your future is wealthy and bright --Michael Varma, CTM
Calling All Guys! Posted on Dec 22, 2006 at 02:37 AM
The Flamingo Hotel and Casino will be home for a gathering of the largest mulit-day get together of BBW's around-the BBW Vegas Bash- August 7th-12th 2007! Guys, start getting the idea in your heads about going as they are only accepting 1,000 reservations and are expecting them to go fast! Which means you have to plan ahead and not wait until the last minute. Help Lazy Afternoons out there! Although I am sure he will be quite busy trying to accomodate all the lucious and wanton ladies while he's filming Lazy Does Vegas, there are only so many hours in a day, and only one Lazy! I'll keep y'all posted as I find out more!
Giving for Christmas/Consumer Christmas Syndrome Posted on Dec 18, 2006 at 01:29 AM
Many people will soon be celebrating the Christmas holiday and give gifts to others in honor of the birth of Christ Jesus. While I believe we are to always give to others (the word give is used more times in the Holy Bible than the words love, hope or faith), I don't believe we are supposed to go into debt in order to do so or condone greediness or support materialism. There are numerous other ways of giving to those you love and care about, by giving them gifts from your heart or giving them gifts that won't stress your finances. Give a gift of a service that you provide. Make coupons to give others or write a nice note expressing your intent. Make it personal and something you know they would like.Write someone a short poem. Run an errand for an elderly neighbor or relative, give your spouse a quiet night alone while you watch the children. Babysit for your sister or brother. Cook a meal for a friend-male or female.Give a gift of washing someone's car-once or several times. Give a coupon to make a cake for a friend for the next bake sale they have to supply a cake for. Or a cake for a special occaission. Give a coupon good for doing laundry, or housework. Give a coupon for a homecooked candlelight romantic dinner. Or one for cleaning the garage, or mowing the lawn, or a picnic for 2 or 4 in the summer. Or one to teach someone to cook a favorite recipe, or a coupon to plant a garden, or shovel snow from their sidewalk and driveway. Or one to clean their gutters or write a letter for someone who has difficulty writing. And be sure to ask them when they would like the service performed. If they don't give a time, be sure to follow up at a later date to provide the service. For a teen or child one could give a coupon for a slumber party with drinks and popcorn. Or a coupon good for an extra hour added to their curfew time, a free room cleaning, or getting to sleep in on a day they usually have to get up and do chores. Other ideas are a coupon good for a movie rental, game rental or a long distance phone call of so many minutes. Or make a gift-homemade cookies,cakes,breads,cheeseball with nuts,or fudge. Make heating pads out of tube socks filled with rice, then secured the end with a knot. Just pop in the microwave for 1-2 minutes and you have a great heating pad that will conform to just about anywhere. Make bath salts or homemade playdough for kids. There's all sorts of inexpensive homemade gifts one can make. Give to strangers as well as those you know. Give encouragement and motivation.Give compliments.Give smiles and good cheer.Visit some elderly folks in a nursing home.Make them postcards out of the fronts of old cards to bring them. Some elderly folks have no family to visit them and really enjoy the company. Write a letter to a missionary Send a card to a soldier overseas. But the very best thing I think anyone can give to others as well as receive, is one that is free-the gift of love. Let others know you care, and thank them just for being. I wish everyone a safe,joyful, healthy and loving holiday season no matter what holiday you are celebrating or even if you are not celebrating at all.
Various Ways to Give for the Holidays Posted on Dec 08, 2006 at 11:10 AM
I received this from a friend of mine who rides with the Patriot Guard. (See more about the PG and their mission statement at the end of this). Minus 10 Tomorrow With the wind chill reaching minus 10 tomorrow morning at 0600 I will be leaving for the Bronx. 1 woman paid the ultimate price for the freedom we enjoy everyday. Although they will break this mission up into sections I have decided that I will do the entire mission in these frigid temperatures. It is my way of saying thank you to Sgt Dunn, who was killed in action while serving in Iraq. On Sunday I will be riding the motorcycle for a t*y run where we will deliver the t*ys to a childrens hospital in NYC. We will bring the toys right to the children. I can't wait to see their smiles. Tuesday I will be going to Conn to escort the Wreaths Across America to possibly Ground Zero before they reach their final destination of Arlington National Cemetary where at 12 noon they ask every one for a moment of silence as wreaths are placed for all branchs of the service across America and the Tomb of the Unknown Solider Thursday I will be at the National Cemetary on Long island for the wreath laying, and the moment of silence. I am living alone and will not do much for Christmas, these little rides are my way of giving to someone I don't know, my way of taking the commercial mindset and throwing it out the window, forgetting about what I am getting for Christmas, and doing something for someone I never met, someone that did so much for me without even knowing my name. This is going to be the best holiday season for me in many years, I feel so sad at some of these events, but when I stop and think of what I have and why I do what I do I feel so warm inside. Remember the veterans in your life. Happy Holidays ********************************** Patriot Guard Riders Mission Statement The Patriot Guard Riders is a diverse amalgamation of riders from across the nation. We have one thing in common besides motorcycles. We have an unwavering respect for those who risk their very lives for America?s freedom and security. If you share this respect, please join us. We don?t care what you ride, what your political views are, or whether you?re a "hawk" or a "dove". It is not a requirement that you be a veteran. It doesn't matter where you?re from or what your income is. You don?t even have to ride. The only prerequisite is Respect. Our main mission is to attend the funeral services of fallen American heroes as invited guests of the family. Each mission we undertake has two basic objectives. 1. Show our sincere respect for our fallen heroes, their families, and their communities. 2. Shield the mourning family and friends from interruptions created by any protestor or group of protestors. We accomplish the latter through strictly legal and non-violent means.
Do Girls Really Like Bad Boys? Posted on Dec 05, 2006 at 08:05 AM
Do Girls Really Like Bad Boys? I have been pondering this question for some time as I have had several guys tell me in the past that the ladies don't like them because they are nice, sweet,kind,gentle,tender,etc. My response has always been that while some women do like 'bad boys', some women do honestly like nice guys. I have been giving this much thought lately, because although I do really enjoy the company of a nice guy, and love the way they treat me, I also seem to be attracted to 'bad boys'. Why is this I wondered? I know I don't always like the way I am treated by a 'bad boy'-surely that isn't the reason I like their company. So what attracts me, and other women, to 'bad boys'? I think it is a combination of several characteristics that attract women to 'bad boys'. Often times 'bad boys' seem more exciting, they seem to have have a vitality for life. They often seek excitement, are enthusiastic and passionate about doing things. They are very confident and carry themselves well, are assertive,and have an element of charm that is actually very intriguing. Some women like adventure, and 'bad boys' are adventurous. 'Bad boys' are usually flirtatious,often witty, fun loving, bold, know how to make interesting conversation,and aren't always 'busy' with work leaving little time for his woman. 'Bad boys' can be more difficult to 'catch', and develop the elusive touch. Some women like the 'chase', the uncertainty, the surprise and suspense of a 'bad boy'. Some women want to help 'bad boys' become nice guys! They want to 'fix' whatever it is in their life that is making them act and behave the way they do. They start out with the 'bad boy' with a goal in mind of changing him. Some women like the 'power' a 'bad boy' often has, and many women love power. Some 'bad boys' treat women poorly and some women have low self esteem and self worth; they think they deserve to be treated badly, or prefer to be treated badly than to be alone. So, is it true that women don't like good guys? I have never heard a woman say she left a man because he was a 'good guy' (although I have heard men say the same about a woman). There are numerous reasons she may decide to end a relationship with a good guy, just as there are for a 'bad boy'. Perhaps it's the way he treated someone else, or he's not ready for the same level of commitment she is. Perhaps she just finds herself not really physically attracted to him or the differences between them were such that she thought it would cause problems somewhere down the road. There are endless possibilities other than just because he was 'a nice guy.' She probably stayed around as long as she did because she really like the 'nice guy'. Can a nice guy also be a 'bad boy'? Most definately so! Every woman will find her 'bad boy.' Different women have different levels of 'bad boy' they like. He may be a computer geek, a teacher, or a bank robber, or he may even be you!
Nintendo Wii Posted on Dec 05, 2006 at 08:04 AM
Wow! They've made me into a! I spent Sunday afternoon playing on a Nintendo Wii and had a blast! I have to give Nintendo a big thumbs up for this system, as I am not a gamer (although have bought them for my kids in the past) but it's interactive controller has ME looking for a system! I think they have produced a product that many "nonconsumers' of game systems will want!
My Favorite Quotes! Posted on Dec 05, 2006 at 08:03 AM
Helen Keller: Everything has its wonders, even darkness and silence, and I learn, whatever state I may be in, therein to be content. H. Jackson Brown, Jr.: Our character is what we do when we think no one is looking Unknown: Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results. Unknown: We are all equally insane, some of us just hide it better than others! Unknown: Even wicked evil people have a purpose. They serve to remind us of what we must never allow ourselves to do or be. Charles Dickens: Reflect upon your blessings, of which every man has plenty, not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some. Zig Ziglar: Of all the attitudes we can acquire, surely the attitude of gratitude is the most important and by far the most life-changing. Garth Brooks: You aren't wealthy until you have something money can't buy. Anonymous: A word of encouragement during a failure is worth more than an hour of praise after success. Leo Buscaglia: Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.
Insecure? Low self-esteem? Posted on Nov 24, 2006 at 12:05 PM
I heard a great song yesterday that I wanted to share that was sung by a group of men and women recovering from addictions (Voices of Recovery) by Kirk Franklin called "Imagine Me". Apparently when he was a young teenager he'd overheard his mother saying she really had not wanted him but wanted an abortion, and this is of course, affected how he perceived himself growing up. ********************************* Imagine me loving what I see when the mirror looks at me cause I, I imagine me. In a place, of no insecurities and I'm finally happy cause I imagine me. Letting go of all of the ones who hurt me cause they never did deserve me, can you imagine me. Saying no to thoughts that try to control me, remembering all you told me, Lord can you imagine me? Over what my momma said, and healed from what my daddy did and I wanna live and not read that page again. (Chorus) Imagine me, being free, trusting you totally, finally I can imagine me, I admit it was hard to see you being in love with someone like me, finally I can imagine me. Imagine me Being strong and not letting people break me down, you won't get that joy this time around. Can you imagine me? In a world, in a world nobody has to live afraid, because of your love, it's gone away, can you imagine me. Letting go of my past and glad I have another chance and not hard to dance cause I don't have to read that page again. (Repeat Chorus 2x?s) Kirk talks: This song is dedicated to people like me, those that struggle with insecurities, acceptance and even self esteem, you never felt good enough, you never felt pretty enough but imagine God whispering in your ear letting you know that everything that has happened is now..Gone, Gone, Its? Gone, All Gone Kirk?s remarks ( Um It?s All Gone. Every Sin, Every Mistake, Every Failure Its? All Gone! Depression Gone By Faith It?s Gone Low Self Esteem, Halleluiah Its Gone, All Gone, It?s Gone All My Scars All My Pain It?s In The Past , Its? Yesterday Its? All Gone( Can?t Believe Its? Gone) What Your Mother Did, What Our Father Did, Halleluiah (Its? Gone All Gone Oh Whoa)) Oh na-na-na Oh na-na-na-na-na-na Oh na-na-na-na-na-na
Challenge! Posted on Nov 10, 2006 at 02:41 AM
Okay..I have a challenge for everyone! Let's see what random acts of kindness we can do. Pay the toll for the person in the car behind you...let the car waiting to come into traffic go in front of you. Stop and help someone with what they are doing. Send a coworker a note thanking them for being nice...or start a bulletin board where all can see where you stick thank-you notes to others for the nice things they matter how small they are. Let the person behind you in line at the grocery store go before you. Change a flat tire on someone's car. Hold the door open for ALL the people coming in the store for several minutes. Find someone you know who may be having a rough time or better yet-a stranger-and give them a card with some money in it and wish them well. Invite a homelss person into a downtown cafe for breakfast with you. Smile at everyone you walk by on the street and say hello. Get a bouquet of flowers at the grocery store and give them to someone. "If you light a lamp for somebody, it will also brighten your path." ~Buddhist saying "There is hunger for ordinary bread, and there is hunger for love, for kindness, for thoughtfulness, and this is the great poverty that makes people suffer so much." ~Mother Teresa "Kindness is the light that dissolves all walls between souls, families, and nations." ~Paramahansa Yogananda What random act of kindness did you do?
I Won't Grow Up! Posted on Nov 09, 2006 at 01:13 AM
This is for Scott and the rest of us that refuse to grow up! Musical: Peter Pan Song: I Won't Grow Up PETER PAN: Are you ready for today's lesson? ALL: Yes, Peter! PETER PAN: Listen to your teacher. Repeat after me: I won't grow up, (I won't grow up) I don't want to go to school. (I don't want to go to school) Just to learn to be a parrot, (Just to learn to be a parrot) And recite a silly rule. (And recite a silly rule) If growing up means It would be beneath my dignity to climb a tree, I'll never grow up, never grow up, never grow up Not me! Not I, Not me! Not me! I won't grow up, (I won't grow up) I don't want to wear a tie. (I don't want to wear a tie) And a serious expression (And a serious expression) In the middle of July. (In the middle of July) And if it means I must prepare To shoulder burdens with a worried air, I'll never grow up, never grow up, never grow up Not me, Not I, Not me! So there! Never gonna be a man, I won't! Like to see somebody try And make me. Anyone who wants to try And make me turn into a man, Catch me if you can. I won't grow up. Not a penny will I pinch. I will never grow a mustache, Or a fraction of an inch. 'Cause growing up is awfuller Than all the awful things that ever were. I'll never grow up, never grow up, never grow up, No sir, Not I, Not me, So there! I won't grow up! (I won't grow up) I will never even try (I will never even try) I will do what Peter tells me (I will do what Peter tells me) And I'll never ask him why (And I'll never ask him why) We won't grow up! (We won't grow up) We will never grow a day (We will never grow a day) And if someone tries to make it (And if someone tries to make it) We will simply run away (We will simply run away) I won't grow up! (I won't grow up) No, I promise that I won't (No, I promise that I won't) I will stay a boy forever (I will stay a boy forever) And be banished if I don't! (And be banished if I don't) And Never Land will always be The home of beauty and joy And neverty I'll never grow up, never grow up, never grow up Not me! Not me! Not me! Not me! No sir! Not me!
Tattoo Posted on Nov 03, 2006 at 11:18 PM
I have been thinking of getting a tattoo (and a bike too!) Anyone have any creative unique ideas for one? A friend sent me this one, but I just don't know if it's quite right for me....
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The Dating/Humor Controversy Posted on Oct 28, 2006 at 07:56 PM
The initial thoughts that came to mind when I read the post regarding "dating adventures" was of two different stories I heard from men-one from a guy I met on this website, another also from a website for larger than normal folks. Both were extremely derogatory towards very large women,one also regarded someome being ugly. I was appalled when I heard them. I guess because I am not your average bear, nor a real large one, they both assumed I would find these stories acceptable. I did not. I was shocked, and didn't want to see anything similar to these two stories posted here when I saw the blog inviting folks to post about "good,bad or ugly" dating adventures. I live in a fairly small city, and several years ago met and dated "John" whom I met on a "normal" website, and to this day we remain good friends. I joined this website,and started corresponding with "Pete" (before I posted a picture). After just a few emails it occurred to me that there were numerous similarities between Pete and John, so I asked John if he was by any chance on this website, and when I did he laughed and we both realized we had been corresponding again with each other, this time on a completely different website. So I personally know that if I could end up communicating with someone here I met elsewhere; they could also read what I posted about a date with them as well. I really do love to laugh! I couldn't cope working with life and death daily if I couldn't see humor in life. My best friend and former coworker of many years is a therapist who believes in incorporating laughter into therapy and he does so in life all the time. It's difficult to be around someone like that for a quarter of your life and it not to rub off! However, I feel that laughter and humor doesn't need to be at the expense of somebody else who didn't ask for it. Laughing at others doesn't allow the person to choose to be the butt of a joke. We can laugh at ourselves, and our own foibles making ourselves the butt of the joke. I am the worlds biggest klutz. Having said that, I allow, and invite you to laugh with me and post as many klutz jokes as you wish and put my name in them if you so desire. My coworkers laugh with me all the time-I have given them my permission to do so. I laugh hysterically with them sometimes until we are all crying. I am so klutzy someone put a mop, going straight across from a bucket to a chair so I wouldn't slip on the wet floor. But alas,I wasn't looking that way when walking down the hall, my focus was on other matters and in another direction, and I tripped over the mop handle and fell anyway! Now that's klutzy! (You can's ok..I gave you permission!) I have much compassion and admiration for people, regardless of the way they act or express their issues.I don't like to see others harmed if possible. I am not trying to make anyone feel bad here and don't mean to imply that anyone was trying to harm anyone. I don't know what anyone's intent would be in hurting others, but sometimes we inadvertantly hurt others without meaning to. My purpose however, was to try to prevent someone from feeling hurt or humiliated. I know if either of the stories I was told were posted here, some people would feel hurt. I personally don't think it's a good idea to invite people to start talking negatively about others. No matter who we are, we all act out our problems and our past in different ways. What is really "normal"? Who defines what "normal" is, and what "normal behavior is or is not?" Some people are drug addicts, some over-exercise or are extreme religious fanatics, others have control issues, drug addiction, or alcoholism. These people have problems that are manifested in the way they act. Some people are depressed and sad, some are nervous and anxious;some people have physical illnesses which are a result of problems they have not dealt with. Other people have problems that manifest in other ways-anorexia, bulemia,or food addictions. The major difference is that some are readily visable to the naked eye while others are observed. Some people are overweight because of medical problems and a genetic tendancy, others eat because of emotional issues or stress, while others can't eat because of emotional issues. There is no difference between all these people. These are all people who have problems or issues-some large, some small, some major, some minor that have not been addressed. Most people don't like to face their issues, so the real issue usually gets covered up and people act out in ways that are unhealthy for them. Does that make it alright to laugh at these people because of the way they acted on a date, or looked, or dressed? I have met people in various stages-recovering drug addicts,recovering alcoholics,people who have learned to overcome control issues,depression, anxiety,obsessions, people who have overcome anorexia and gained weight, and those who have lost weight. Some of them expressed fear that they were slowly killing themselves. Many expressed feelings of low self worth,low self esteem, that they didn't "fit in", that they weren't "normal" , that others made fun of them, that they were mocked, sad, depressed or anxious. Some of these people slit their own wrists, intentionally took drug overdoses or had attempted to mutilate themselves or take their own life in some way. I met people who cried deeply, for themselves, for life in general, but never met one who thought it was funny that they had these problems. None of them laughed. Some people really do take things to heart. Some of us posting here have reached a place in our lives where we won't allow ourselves or others to make us feel inferior or bad about ourselves. Some don't think that the opinions of others is important. But not all people are that strong, some people are really sensitive. The people posting here are a small percentage of the people reading these blogs. I know some people reading this will think it's hogwash. I know I am more sensitive to the feelings of others because I listened intently to people expressing their feelings for many years. And that is what motivates me to attempt to stop situations that I know may cause others unintentional pain. I honestly don't think I am any better than the next person; I am quite aware that I have many faults, and sincerely apologize if I inadvertantly came across as haughty or being judgemental of anyone, because that was never my intent. My sole purpose was, and is, a desire to prevent postings that may cause the feelings of others to be hurt and to encourage people to be more thoughtful of others. Perhaps I should have worded my post differently. All I know for sure is what was the intent of my heart. I hope that people here, on a website where it is inferred that people are accepting of others who don't fit the "norm" for size, would be more sentient of others feelings than out in the rest of the world. I do agree,humor does help us make it through some really bad times. Several weeks in the aftermaths of hurricanes Katrina and Rita some volunteers from another state I worked with had me laughing continuously, and it was absolutely wonderful. These folks didn't do any more than anyone else I worked with, but dealing with people for weeks that were full of grief and sadness, and seeing total devastation was playing a toll on me, their laughter and joy was a tremendous lift to my spirit. It's times like that where humor really keeps me from openly weeping at the sometimes cruel faces of life and death. That's my opinion, and I'm sticking to it! Please feel free to send me and post all the klutz jokes ya want!
I'm a Klutz! Posted on Oct 28, 2006 at 07:22 PM
One day, Wanda walked in with bandages over both of her ears. It was common for her to have little nicks and scratches (as a matter of fact, it was uncommon for her not to have at least one bandage somewhere on her hands), but this was much more than usual. Trying to at least let her have someone to talk to, the boss turned to her. "Bad day, Wanda? What happened?" "Yes, a very bad day. I was ironing my blouse, when the phone rang. I had to iron the phone, I mean answer the iron... You know what I mean." "Yes, certainly. I can understand doing that. But I see bandages on both of your ears." "Hey, I had to call the hospital, didn't I?"
Blogs Posted on Oct 28, 2006 at 07:20 PM
A blog (web log) is a place to tell others about things going on in your life, express your thoughts and opinions, and the ones here on Large Friends have a comment section. Per Wikipedia: "Comments are a way to provide discussion on blog entries. Readers can leave a comment on a post, which can correct errors or contain their opinion on the post or the post's subject." From the numerous blogs I have read, it is quite 'normal' to leave an opinion in the comment section of a blog, even if the blogger doesn't specifically solicit opinions-either positive or negative ones. The writer of the blog has the option to either KEEP or DELETE comments and opinions of others as they desire. If for some reason the writer of a blog here doesn't have that option, then that should be addressed with the wonderful people in Customer Service.
Guys-Is this true? Posted on Oct 17, 2006 at 12:22 PM
I have an intensely inquisitive mind and am always trying to see things from different perspectives. I just read the following comment written by a man in another blog (about not reading profiles) and wondered-is this how most guys think? Do men just look at pictures first, wink, and then if they get a response go back and read a profile? Is that how men think? Is that possibly why so many men seem to say very little in their profiles-because they themselves don't read what they say? I honestly don't understand why some guys don't write anything about themselves or just one sentence on their profile. Is this true? Is this how men look at profiles or is this man in the minority here? Latindancer21 wrote: "Men are usaully more visual creatures --- for the most part if they are attracted to your physical appearance they can overlook the small details. But usaully you can count on a wink first --- you wink back --- if you wink back he should check your profile to get the whole picture before the emails start etc... If you cant get past his physical appearance then his wink wast that hard --- if he had invested the time to go over your profile with a fine toother comb and then been rejected it would probably be more discouraging"
Customer Service and Blog area Posted on Oct 15, 2006 at 12:43 AM
Dear Customer Service: I want to thank-you for this great web site that you have available for us to use. It's wonderful to have a place where size acceptance is the norm, and I appreciate it. I also appreciate the fact that you are open to suggestions from us. I have been enjoying this blog area a lot lately, and wondered if you would be so kind as to make it available for us to be able to post on and read immediately (as can be done in the forums)rather than have to wait for 24 hours or more at a time to read comments by others. There seems to be the option for each "blog" writer to delete inappropriate messages written in their blog if they desire. As I have not tried it as of yet, I am not sure if it works or not. Is it possible to open the blogs to us to use, and then if for some reason people start to misuse them, then restrict the access again to posts that have been proofread as is currently being done? I think more people would be online reading, writing and posting, and possibly joining so they could meet someone else that was online, if we had quicker access time to the blogs that are posted. Thanks again for a great web site! Regards, Wanda