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  • When is it just out there to see who is "in to you" and who is not? Maybe the question is when do you say "I"m not into you"? then move on? I'm not sure if it's me or them, but so many just "fade into the woodwork". My question is How do you stop seeing someone without fading into the woodwork? What are some of the things that can be said? Have we not evolved enough to deal with someone else not being into us? What have you to say?
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Long distance - never thought I'd be doing it Posted on Mar 18, 2008 at 08:34 AM
Never in a million years would I have thought I'd be interested in a man that lived far far away. BUT, I could be wrong ! Actually I AM WRONG. A guy, from this website, lives in Washington State, I'm in Florida. He is moving to PA on April 1st, so the time zone and the miles will be more manageable. Same time zone, approximately 16 hours away. Now my other questions as there are a few on here that are doing it with success. Do you use your webcams and phone? or just the webcam and IM? How are you doing it? How are you learning about each other? How are you making the miles evaporate? Thanks, Natalie
What do women want - the answer to the aged old question Posted on Feb 18, 2008 at 06:03 AM
Young King Arthur was ambushed and imprisoned by the monarch of a neighboring kingdom. The monarch could have killed him but was moved by Arthur's youth and ideals. So, the monarch offered him his freedom, as long as he could answer a very difficult question. Arthur would have a year to figure out the answer and, if after a year, he still had no answer, he would be put to death. The question?....What do women really want? Such a question would perplex even the most knowledgeable man, and to young Arthur, it seemed an impossible query. But, since it was better than death, he accepted the monarch's proposition to have an answer by year's end. He returned to his kingdom and began to poll everyone: the princesses, the priests, the wise men and even the court jester. He spoke with everyone, but no one could give him a satisfactory answer. Many people advised him to consult the old witch, for only she would have the answer. But the price would be high; as the witch was famous throughout the kingdom for the exorbitant prices she charged. The last day of the year arrived and Arthur had no choice but to talk to the witch. She agreed to answer the question, but he would have to agree to her price first. The old witch wanted to marry Sir Lancelot, the most noble of the Knights of the Round Table and Arthur's closest friend! Young Arthur was horrified. She was hunchbacked and hideous, had only one tooth, smelled like sewage, made obscene noises, etc. He had never encountered such a repugnant creature in all his life. He refused to force his friend to marry her and endure such a terrible burden; but Lancelot, learning of the proposal, spoke with Arthur. He said nothing was too big of a sacrifice compared to Arthur's life and the preservation of the Round Table. Hence, a wedding was proclaimed and the witch answered Arthur's question thus: What a woman really wants, she to be in charge of her own life. Everyone in the kingdom instantly knew that the witch had uttered a great truth and that Arthur's life would be spared. And so it was, the neighboring monarch granted Arthur his freedom and Lancelot and the witch had a wonderful wedding. The honeymoon hour approached and Lancelot, steeling himself for a horrific experience, entered the bedroom. But, what a sight awaited him. The most beautiful woman he had ever seen lay before him on the bed. The astounded Lancelot asked what had happened The beauty replied that since he had been so kind to her when she appeared as a witch, she would henceforth, be her horrible deformed self only half the time and the beautiful maiden the other half. Which would he prefer? Beautiful during the day....or night? Lancelot pondered the predicament. During the day, a beautiful woman to show off to his friends, but at night, in the privacy of his castle, an old witch? Or, would he prefer having a hideous witch during the day, but by night, a beautiful woman for him to enjoy wondrous intimate moments? What would YOU do? What Lancelot chose is below. BUT...make YOUR choice before you scroll down below. OKAY? "Noble Lancelot said that he would allow HER to make the choice herself". "Upon hearing this, she announced that she would be beautiful all the time because he had respected her enough to let her be in charge of her own life. "Now....what is the moral to this story? ">Scroll down The moral is..... If you don't let a woman have her own way.... Things are going to get ugly
once upon a time... Posted on Feb 16, 2008 at 05:37 AM
''THE WORLD 'S SHORTEST FAIRY TALE!" Once upon a time, a guy asked a girl "Will you marry me?" The girl said:"NO!" And the girl lived happily ever-after and went shopping, dancing, camping, drank martinis, always had a clean house, never had to cook, did whatever she wanted, never argued, didn't get fat, traveled more, had many lovers, didn't save money, and had all the hot water to herself. She went to the theater, never watched sports, never wore friggin' lacy lingerie that went up her butt, had high self esteem, never cried or yelled, felt and looked fabulous in sweat pants and was pleasant all the time. The End
A heart for everyone Posted on Feb 16, 2008 at 05:23 AM
Give this heart to everyone you don't want to lose. Nisi32132
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Get a mate or Get a dog? Posted on Feb 13, 2008 at 09:45 AM
I was wondering if getting a dog would be easier than finding a mate. What do you think? Nat
The Mirror has Two Faces - the movie Posted on Feb 13, 2008 at 08:54 AM
Over the weekend I stumbled across the movie The Mirror Has Two faces, Barbar Streisand and Jeff Bridges are two college professors who date then marry. The premise of the marriage is non-sexual. To get along - be friends, confidants,mates as it would be after the sex waned out of the relationship. If you have seen the movie you know how it ended, if not rent it. :-) It really got me thinking about the foundation of a relationship and if the movie held more then the reality to a really good relationship. Should we look outside of the physical attraction? Ignore that "spark" that drives us - over 50- baby boomers? Or make note of the spark and work around it for an undetermined amount of time. Can a relationship sustain itself without sex? Natalie
Randy Pausch - his Last Lecture- life -living-dealing Posted on Feb 12, 2008 at 08:41 AM
Randy Pausch Reprising his 'last lecture" Do a search on google or youtube for this must see video. If you have trouble email me and I'll send you the link I have. It really hits home when it comes to living - life - death and dealing with it all. Natalie
Responding to Winks, smiles or flirts Posted on Feb 08, 2008 at 01:05 PM
I decided to respond to winks, if they "winker" was within the general guidelines of my desires. ( no 30 or 40 year olds, no one too darn far away ) Nothing has changed much but I have noticed that the guys that I'm contacting seem eager to get to know more about me. Right now I'm emailing three guys. My experiment is interesting as I really never wanted to bother with winks, I wanted a letter, but it seems that guys might not know how to start and the winks are easy or safe. I tend to get long emails after first contact. Has anyone else tried this? Curious Nat
Just to let you know I'll be here but you need to watch out Posted on Feb 05, 2008 at 07:54 AM
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Perspective - how do you see things? Posted on Jan 19, 2008 at 07:48 AM
One day, the father of a very wealthy family took his son on a trip to the country with the express purpose of showing him how poor people live. They spent a couple of days and nights on the farm of what would be considered a very poor family On their return from their trip, the father asked his son, 'How was the trip?' 'It was great, Dad.' 'Did you see how poor people live?' the father asked. 'Oh yeah,' said the son. 'So, tell me, what did you learn from the trip?' asked the father. The son answered: 'I saw that we have one dog and they had four. We have a pool that reaches to the middle of our garden and they have a creek that has no end. We have imported lanterns in our garden and they have the stars at night. Our patio reaches to the front yard and they have the whole horizon. We have a small piece of land to live on and they have fields that go beyond our sight. We have servants who serve us, but they serve others. We buy our food, but they grow theirs. We have walls around our property to protect us, they have friends to protect them.' The boy's father was speechless. Then his son added, 'Thanks Dad for showing me how poor we are.' Isn't perspective a wonderful thing? Makes you wonder what would happen if we all gave thanks for everything we have, instead of worrying about what we don't have. Appreciate every single thing you have, especially your friends! Pass this on to friends and acquaintances and help them refresh their perspective and appreciation.
solution to a man's mid life crisis Posted on Jan 19, 2008 at 06:58 AM
After being married for 44 years, I took a careful look at my wife one day and said, 'Honey, 44 years ago we had a cheap apartment, a cheap car, slept on a sofa bed and watched a 10-inch black and white TV, but I got to sleep every night with a hot 21year-old gal. Now I have a $500,000.00 home, a $45,000.00 car, nice big bed and plasma screen TV, but I'm sleeping with a 65-year-old woman. It seems to me that you're not holding up your side of things.' My wife is a very reasonable woman. She told me to go out and find a hot 21-year-old gal, and she would make sure that I would once again be living in a cheap apartment, driving a cheap car, sleeping on a sofa bed and watching a 10-inch black and white TV. Aren't older women great? They really know how to solve a mid-life crisis...
New postes NOT bold anymore- why? Posted on Jan 18, 2008 at 05:20 AM
Why are the unread blog replies not bold anymore??? Have the gremlins made a tiny mistake and turned that off??? Can they turn it back on????? I've misses sooo many.... Nat
Warm, soft and comforting Posted on Jan 17, 2008 at 09:23 AM
I'm craving something warm, soft and comforting. Hot chocolate pudding in the pot? Warm brownie mix in the pan? Well what WERE YOU thinking?????? Any other ideas? Nat
Would date a person if Posted on Jan 15, 2008 at 11:51 AM
Hypothetically, ( okay so I was bored and thinking in the car on the way to the periodontist) i know we've danced around this issue a few times in different ways. Now I'm wondering. okay, bored. Just suppose you choose to discard some weight, not all, just say 20 pounds. Then there is this reply to your profile and new picture. It's someone you've seen on the list of "viewed you" However, he never contacted you. He's now interested and wants to go out. What do you do: Do you now go out with him/her? ( see I know you were wondering how you would know this guy/gal did not contact you "before")
Joke -- New Cereal Box for 2008 Posted on Jan 12, 2008 at 04:21 PM
Whoever put this together if very talented. Has way too much time on his or her hands, but I'm glad. :-) Enjoy Natalie
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No or Little Baggage - HUH?? Posted on Jan 12, 2008 at 08:12 AM
I am reading profiles and I see this over and over, male profiles, " or little baggage" I think I know what they mean. They don't want someone that's hung up on any past relationship, no children dependent on them, no elderly relatives dependent on them, no medical issues, etc.. I don't think there is such a person over the age of 12. We live, we get involved with life, we carry our past with us. Not all of our past equates to the "baggage" in our lives. However, we are what we've lived, this is part of who we are today. Why do these men kid themselves, then I would think they might complain about not finding anyone without baggage. ( just an assumption) I've not read many female profiles, do some of them want "no baggage"? I'm just a realist and it gets frustrating at times to think that anyone can really believe that "no baggage" is reality. [shrugging as I walk away knowing that these guys are not ready to look for a real relationship, they're just playing for now }
Here then gone - poof to some blogs ??? Posted on Jan 11, 2008 at 02:31 PM
Am I the only one that is noticing that some of the blog entries are disappearing? For instance, Big Handsome man, He replied now his blog reply is gone. What's happening? I read his reply to that blog, there was nothing out of order at all. Are the authors taking them down or is LF? Inquiring eyes are blinking Nat
Lose or discard Posted on Jan 05, 2008 at 06:32 PM
Hi, I have had an epiphany that I wanted to share. Why after almost 59 years it just came to me, well anyway... Usually when I lose something I anticipate finding it again. For instance, I thought I lose the charger to my bluetooth. Well I did find it in my luggage, not before buying a new one though. While the word discard, to me, means I'm getting rid of it. I don't expect to find it again or own it again or ever have it again. So, the next time I want to discard some weight I don't expect to have it return. Nisi
Responsiblity - do you take on what's not yours? Posted on Jan 05, 2008 at 03:26 PM
I had a situation come up- it got me thinking about who's really responsible to get someone to an end result. This incident involved plans that fell apart which required finding a new ride. I found myself in a dilemma, do I drive over an hour out of my way? then back again, to pick up and drop off? or do I give the responsibility back to the rightful owner? That begged my intra-spection of just what responsibility to I own? Should I be responsible for finding a ride for this person because her original plans fell through? or Should I help with a solution? or what? Do you "own" more responsibility than is rightfully yours? my inquiring mind wants to know Nat32132
New Year short cuts - or goof proofing Posted on Dec 31, 2007 at 06:12 PM
I take these goof proof steps each new year. 1] I write the year on about 20 checks. 2] I write all the birthdays on my new calender 3] I used to buy all the birthday cards I needed for a few months, however I got lazy. I would attach them to the calender ( in a plastic zip lock stapled to the calender) Anyone else have any year beginning hints? Nat