Blog description: When is it just out there to see who is "in to you" and who is not?
Maybe the question is when do you say "I"m not into you"? then move on?
I'm not sure if it's me or them, but so many just "fade into the woodwork".
My question is How do you stop seeing someone without fading into the woodwork?
What are some of the things that can be said?
Have we not evolved enough to deal with someone else not being into us?
What have you to say?
My blog address: http://LargeFriends.com/blog/Nisi32132Copy
Never in a million years would I have thought I'd be interested in a man that lived far far away. BUT, I could be wrong ! Actually I AM WRONG.
A guy, from this website, lives in Washington State, I'm in Florida. He is moving to PA on April 1st, so the time zone and the miles will be more manageable. Same time zone, approximately 16 hours away.
Now my other questions as there are a few on here that are doing it with success.
Do you use your webcams and phone? or just the webcam and IM?
How are you doing it?
How are you learning about each other?
How are you making the miles evaporate?
''THE WORLD 'S SHORTEST FAIRY TALE!"
Once upon a time, a guy asked a girl "Will you marry me?" The girl
said:"NO!" And the girl lived happily ever-after and went shopping,
dancing, camping, drank martinis, always had a clean house, never had to
cook, did whatever she wanted, never argued, didn't get fat, traveled
more, had many lovers, didn't save money, and had all the hot water to
herself. She went to the theater, never watched sports, never wore
friggin' lacy lingerie that went up her butt, had high self esteem,
never cried or yelled, felt and looked fabulous in sweat pants and was
pleasant all the time. The End
Young King Arthur was ambushed and imprisoned by the monarch of a neighboring kingdom. The monarch could have killed him but was moved by Arthur's youth and ideals. So, the monarch offered him his freedom, as long as he could answer a very difficult question. Arthur would have a year to figure out the answer and, if after a year, he still had no answer, he would be put to death.
The question?....What do women really want? Such a question would perplex even the most knowledgeable man, and to young Arthur, it seemed an impossible query. But, since it was better than death, he accepted the monarch's proposition to have an answer by year's end.
He returned to his kingdom and began to poll everyone: the princesses, the priests, the wise men and even the court jester. He spoke with everyone, but no one could give him a satisfactory answer.
Many people advised him to consult the old witch, for only she would have the answer.
But the price would be high; as the witch was famous throughout the kingdom for the exorbitant prices she charged.
The last day of the year arrived and Arthur had no choice but to talk to the witch. She agreed to answer the question, but he would have to agree to her price first.
The old witch wanted to marry Sir Lancelot, the most noble of the Knights of the Round Table and Arthur's closest friend!
Young Arthur was horrified. She was hunchbacked and hideous, had only one tooth, smelled like sewage, made obscene noises, etc. He had never encountered such a repugnant creature in all his life.
He refused to force his friend to marry her and endure such a terrible burden; but Lancelot, learning of the proposal, spoke with Arthur.
He said nothing was too big of a sacrifice compared to Arthur's life and the preservation of the Round Table.
Hence, a wedding was proclaimed and the witch answered Arthur's question thus:
What a woman really wants, she answered....is to be in charge of her own life.
Everyone in the kingdom instantly knew that the witch had uttered a great truth and that Arthur's life would be spared.
And so it was, the neighboring monarch granted Arthur his freedom and Lancelot and the witch had a wonderful wedding.
The honeymoon hour approached and Lancelot, steeling himself for a horrific experience, entered the bedroom. But, what a sight awaited him. The most beautiful woman he had ever seen lay before him on the bed. The astounded Lancelot asked what had happened
The beauty replied that since he had been so kind to her when she appeared as a witch, she would henceforth, be her horrible deformed self only half the time and the beautiful maiden the other half.
Which would he prefer? Beautiful during the day....or night?
Lancelot pondered the predicament. During the day, a beautiful woman to show off to his friends, but at night, in the privacy of his castle, an old witch? Or, would he prefer having a hideous witch during the day, but by night, a beautiful woman for him to enjoy wondrous intimate moments?
What would YOU do?
What Lancelot chose is below. BUT...make YOUR choice before you scroll down below. OKAY?
"Noble Lancelot said that he would allow HER to make the choice herself".
"Upon hearing this, she announced that she would be beautiful all the time because he had respected her enough to let her be in charge of her own life.
"Now....what is the moral to this story?
The moral is.....
If you don't let a woman have her own way....
Things are going to get ugly
Over the weekend I stumbled across the movie The Mirror Has Two faces, Barbar Streisand and Jeff Bridges are two college professors who date then marry. The premise of the marriage is non-sexual. To get along - be friends, confidants,mates as it would be after the sex waned out of the relationship. If you have seen the movie you know how it ended, if not rent it. :-)
It really got me thinking about the foundation of a relationship and if the movie held more then the reality to a really good relationship. Should we look outside of the physical attraction? Ignore that "spark" that drives us - over 50- baby boomers? Or make note of the spark and work around it for an undetermined amount of time.
Can a relationship sustain itself without sex?
Randy Pausch Reprising his 'last lecture"
Do a search on google or youtube for this must see video.
If you have trouble email me and I'll send you the link I have.
It really hits home when it comes to living - life - death and dealing with it all.
I decided to respond to winks, if they "winker" was within the general guidelines of my desires. ( no 30 or 40 year olds, no one too darn far away )
Nothing has changed much but I have noticed that the guys that I'm contacting seem eager to get to know more about me. Right now I'm emailing three guys.
My experiment is interesting as I really never wanted to bother with winks, I wanted a letter, but it seems that guys might not know how to start and the winks are easy or safe. I tend to get long emails after first contact.
Has anyone else tried this?
One day, the father of a very wealthy family took his son on a trip to the
country with the express purpose of showing him how poor people live.
They spent a couple of days and nights on the farm of what would be
considered a very poor family
On their return from their trip, the father asked his son, 'How was the
'It was great, Dad.'
'Did you see how poor people live?' the father asked.
'Oh yeah,' said the son.
'So, tell me, what did you learn from the trip?' asked the father.
The son answered:
'I saw that we have one dog and they had four.
We have a pool that reaches to the middle of our garden and they have a
creek that has no end.
We have imported lanterns in our garden and they have the stars at night.
Our patio reaches to the front yard and they have the whole horizon.
We have a small piece of land to live on and they have fields that go
beyond our sight.
We have servants who serve us, but they serve others.
We buy our food, but they grow theirs.
We have walls around our property to protect us, they have friends to
The boy's father was speechless.
Then his son added, 'Thanks Dad for showing me how poor we are.'
Isn't perspective a wonderful thing? Makes you wonder what would happen if
we all gave thanks for everything we have, instead of worrying about what
we don't have.
Appreciate every single thing you have, especially your friends!
Pass this on to friends and acquaintances and help them refresh their
perspective and appreciation.
After being married for 44 years, I took a careful look at my wife
one day and said, 'Honey, 44 years ago we had a cheap apartment, a
cheap car, slept on a sofa bed and watched a 10-inch black and white
TV, but I got to sleep every night with a hot 21year-old gal.
Now I have a $500,000.00 home, a $45,000.00 car, nice big bed and
plasma screen TV, but I'm sleeping with a 65-year-old woman. It
seems to me that you're not holding up your side of things.'
My wife is a very reasonable woman. She told me to go out and find a hot
21-year-old gal, and she would make sure that I would once again be
living in a cheap apartment, driving a cheap car, sleeping on a sofa bed and
watching a 10-inch black and white TV.
Aren't older women great? They really know how to solve a mid-life
Hypothetically, ( okay so I was bored and thinking in the car on the way to the periodontist) i know we've danced around this issue a few times in different ways. Now I'm wondering. okay, bored.
Just suppose you choose to discard some weight, not all, just say 20 pounds.
Then there is this reply to your profile and new picture. It's someone you've seen on the list of "viewed you" However, he never contacted you. He's now interested and wants to go out.
What do you do: Do you now go out with him/her?
( see I know you were wondering how you would know this guy/gal did not contact you "before")
I am reading profiles and I see this over and over, male profiles, "...no or little baggage"
I think I know what they mean. They don't want someone that's hung up on any past relationship, no children dependent on them, no elderly relatives dependent on them, no medical issues, etc..
I don't think there is such a person over the age of 12.
We live, we get involved with life, we carry our past with us. Not all of our past equates to the "baggage" in our lives.
However, we are what we've lived, this is part of who we are today. Why do these men kid themselves, then I would think they might complain about not finding anyone without baggage. ( just an assumption)
I've not read many female profiles, do some of them want "no baggage"?
I'm just a realist and it gets frustrating at times to think that anyone can really believe that "no baggage" is reality.
[shrugging as I walk away knowing that these guys are not ready to look for a real relationship, they're just playing for now }
Am I the only one that is noticing that some of the blog entries are disappearing?
For instance, Big Handsome man, He replied now his blog reply is gone.
What's happening? I read his reply to that blog, there was nothing out of order at all.
Are the authors taking them down or is LF?
Inquiring eyes are blinking
Hi, I have had an epiphany that I wanted to share. Why after almost 59 years it just came to me, well anyway...
Usually when I lose something I anticipate finding it again. For instance, I thought I lose the charger to my bluetooth. Well I did find it in my luggage, not before buying a new one though.
While the word discard, to me, means I'm getting rid of it. I don't expect to find it again or own it again or ever have it again.
So, the next time I want to discard some weight I don't expect to have it return.
I had a situation come up- it got me thinking about who's really responsible to get someone to an end result.
This incident involved plans that fell apart which required finding a new ride.
I found myself in a dilemma, do I drive over an hour out of my way? then back again, to pick up and drop off? or do I give the responsibility back to the rightful owner?
That begged my intra-spection of just what responsibility to I own?
Should I be responsible for finding a ride for this person because her original plans fell through? or Should I help with a solution? or what?
Do you "own" more responsibility than is rightfully yours?
my inquiring mind wants to know
There is a movie coming out, January 11st 2008 everywhere. google it to see the previews.
The premise is to make a list and do things that you've not done before you kick the bucket.
Well what are those things you want to before you kick the bucket?
I don't think you need to care when you kick the bucket because you don't know that now do you?
You need a bucket list every year from now on. Yes, you do, just ask me I'll tell you !
Okay, now what is your bucket list?
It can be for one day, one hour, one week, one month at a time, after all it's your list.
The main issue is to write it and then do it ! Right?
YES, just ask me !!!
p.s. I love you :-) ( yeah saw that movie today also, wow a great movie too - bring tissues )