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Wish2Bthin
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Posted on Tue, Mar 27, 2007 06:16

I wish I could say that I want a guy to like me for what I look like, but I wouldn?t be telling the truth of the matter. I'm fat, and regardless of what most of you will think, it's not good to be fat. You and I will probably live short lives, leaving behind people that we love, and that is pretty greedy/wrong if we think live fast/fat to die young is the sole purpose of being. Also, I don't think it's healthy to be with someone equally or as fat as yourself (size may vary). Being with someone who can motivate you to become who you really want to be is important. It means that person wants you to live for as long as your supposed to, not "Hey let's both gargle some butter, swallow it, and clog our arteries together it will be soooooo hot, we are totally living on the edge." Are we good examples for our youth living the way we do? Back to the matter at hand....... I'm not happy with myself, and probably won't be until I lose about 40 lbs. For some of you 40lbs is like a pinky toe and wouldn't make too much of a difference. But what would make a difference? And is anyone else willing to try to live a healthier life? Rather than just saying, "Hey I'm fat, only getting fatter, and you are supposed to love my doughy belly that not even I like, but somehow you should." Am I wrong for thinking this? Does everyone else here really believe they are happy with themselves? Is it not all an illusion, a painted on smiling face when inside you are damaged/depressed goods. Love to hear comments. Sorry, here is a REAL picture of me when I was bloated from my period last month.

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Posted on Fri, Apr 06, 2007 20:39

Oh, you are one twisted b*tch.


In your rocking-chair, by your window dreaming, shall you long, alone. In your rocking-chair, by your window, shall you dream such happiness as you may never feel. –Theodore Dreiser

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Posted on Fri, Apr 06, 2007 11:28

Wish2bthin certainly knows how to push buttons. But it seems that "CRY4ATTN" would be a more appropriate nic.


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Posted on Tue, Apr 03, 2007 05:26

Perseverance ladies.. I try to keep us ALL in mind when I write (thanks for liking me), and I know that it takes strong women to face down, daily, the cool, smug, relentless attitude society has pressed upon us. We don't need this persons' bullsh*t or inferiority complex.


In your rocking-chair, by your window dreaming, shall you long, alone. In your rocking-chair, by your window, shall you dream such happiness as you may never feel. –Theodore Dreiser

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Posted on Tue, Apr 03, 2007 02:40

Just because your unhappy doesn't mean we all are...I for one am very happy with the whole package of ME......Get a life and grow the heck up..


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Posted on Mon, Apr 02, 2007 18:33

I'm confused by your reply statement. One minute you're stating you don't like being overweight "like us" and then the next you are "better than us." Make up your mind. At my lowest I've never felt disgusted with myself like your statement. To tell the truth the only time I'm ever really depressed about my size is when people like you have nothing better to do than point out that one thing about me and make it sound like the end of the world that my jean size is not a 2. And I still don't think you are who you say you are, because depressed FAT people don't say the things you do. Not that I have met ever depressed fat person but check out some of the blogs and forums. Unhappy people still don't use the terms you do. BTW I'm joining the Amuseme fan club...LOL


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Posted on Mon, Apr 02, 2007 17:42

Amuseme, I have been on several blogs that you have made comments on and I must say...You are wonderful! Wish2, maybe we are combative with our responses, but really, what did you think would happen? Did you really think you could put down a group of people and we would just sit back and take it. Because you are unhappy with you means I have to be unhappy with me. No, it doesn't that. I have a better self image than you do; I don't deny I'm fat, that would be crazy. I won't hate myself because I am overweight. People like you who hate themselves or their circumstances often end up downing a bottle of sleeping pills to feel better and that I can do without. If / when I decide to do something about my weight, I will. Until thin (get it, thin/then) I'll be happy.


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Posted on Mon, Apr 02, 2007 12:31

Hey! It knows how to use a thesaurus! Listen, iwish, we are all "fervid" with anger towards you because you made insulting, degrading, ignorant statements. We don't like people like you. You are no different than anyone else who wants us to be disgusted with ourselves. For the most part I feel wonderful about myself, large ass included... is it a forced state of mind? Only some days. Once in a while some mentally disturbed individual like yourself wants me to be miserable like they are, and as much as I hate to admit it, it works for a few hours. But eventually I fall back into my normal "happy to be me" attitude, and I just get really pissed of at people like you who try to ruin my day. BTW - I really think you should see a therapist about your depression. I doubt you will live longer than me, your attitude reeks suicidal tendencies.


In your rocking-chair, by your window dreaming, shall you long, alone. In your rocking-chair, by your window, shall you dream such happiness as you may never feel. –Theodore Dreiser

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Posted on Mon, Apr 02, 2007 03:42

well darlin' I think alot of the attitude has to do whether you have been fat all your life or if this is a new and exciting experience for you. I myself have been fat all my life so have learned to deal with it. As a child the harassment was almost unbearable but I did not become a psychopath(I don't think).No I am not always happy about my weight but also know I am the only one who can get rid of it.It is matter of self-perception. Your picture and joke about that being you bloated from your period didnot help your cause. Do you still wonder why people get hostile? Oh well I know this is a waste of time but sometimes you just gotta get it off your chest or hips or tummy or those flabby things on our triceps we need to work on.


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Posted on Fri, Mar 30, 2007 10:01

You folks are a bit hostile, such pugnacity. It was a simple question. Are you really happy with yourself? I think you've all blown this out of proportion. By saying I want to lose weight to live a healthier life, makes you women fervid with anger. I think being obese is tolerated if you have problems with your thyroid. But if it's just a personal weakness, I have no sympathy. Like I said before, I'm fat myself and "Wish2Bthin"... is my screen name because it's not easy to be healthy and wishing it is in some ways the only realistic option. I'm fat too, but I'm not in denial about being sad for it. I don't conspicuously use my tears to salt my deep fried french fries while watching Opera, but I'll bet some of you do. I was merely taking a survey on if I was the only unhappy fat person, and a lot of you are not telling the truth I believe. oh well I will out live most of you anyway.


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Posted on Thu, Mar 29, 2007 04:50

Amuseme - you are my heroine! Honest, no BS, no sarcasm. I love your posts and I love your manner of expression. I would have wanted to respond to Wish with this sort of educational response, however, I was too pissed and have not yet learned to temper my anger before posting. But I swear, your posts here are "the bomb". Humor, honesty and a healthy dose of "in your face" when required. I can learn from you! :) Rock on, Sister!


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Posted on Thu, Mar 29, 2007 04:41

Birdy, I agree. The yeast infection ? was totally bogus and definately the work of an adolescent mind. This is just the same sort of crap in a different package. This is obviously a lonely person with nothing better to do than pick at others in order to try to make itself feel better. That's right, I said "ITself". I don't even know if this is a woman. Sounds like a teenaged boy. Anyway, it doesn't take a psych major to see that this is a very lonely, angry person who is too afraid to even vent his/her/it's anger in a direct way. He/she/it feels the need to hide behind a false screen name and pretend to be asking "caring" questions. My god/dess, Wish - if you feel that badly about your life, lose your damn forty pounds or kill yourself. Stop trying to take everyone else down with you. With that being said, HAVE A GREAT DAY, EVERYONE!!! :) (OK, PMS moment has passed, everyone - chat amongst yourselves, there's nothing to see here... ) LOL


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Posted on Thu, Mar 29, 2007 00:33

Wish2Bthin You're really not a nice person are you .... and not even brave enough to show a real picture of yourself. I hope you're getting off on your bizarre fat-hating questions about nasty yeast infections and over weight people, but it looks like you've been rumbled. Oh yes, we may be fat but we're not stupid, and we can see right through you and your shallow ignorant ways! I hope you find what you're looking for ... but I doubt you'll find it here!


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Posted on Wed, Mar 28, 2007 23:29

Your issues have nothing to do with your weight. Yes, I am a BIG BLACK BEAUTIFUL WOMAN, with a handsome man that is much smaller than me, but loves every inch of my big butt. He loves me, because I love me. For the most part I am very healthy. I don't have high blood pressure, I am not a diabetic, I don't have high cholesterol, my heart is sound. Not all fat people are unhealthy, but you can make yourself sick by hating yourself - that is your choice. If you need someone in your life to motivate you to lose weight; then you are going to need them after the weight is gone to motivate you for whatever it is you want to do next. I doubt from what I have read that you would be happy once the weight is gone. I think a pimple or a cold could stop you in your tracks and give you reason to hate yourself yet again. If you don't like who you are, then YOU and only YOU need to take charge and do something about it. Don't wait on someone to come into your life and motivate you; you are wasting time. I've lost several people in my life recently (none of them needed to lose weight) all of them unhealthy. Your size will not always determine how long you are on this earth, but your attitude can determine how you enjoy the time you have here. I hope you find whatever it is you need in life to be happy; because everyone deserves to be happy.


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Posted on Wed, Mar 28, 2007 20:07

Wish2Bthin I think you are being a snot. I may have over 100 pounds to lose to be near my "ideal weight" but then again being built the way I am I don't shoot for a number on a scale, it means nothing, but what society thinks you should be. I may be fat by many standards but I excercise three or more times a week, I don't always eat healthy, but whats the point of eating that rabbit food, when none of us know when our number is up. Just because I am fat doesn't mean I am shortening my lifespan. I had a grandfather die a while back that was in great health according to the standards, but he wasn't getting enough of something and kicked off, now my grandmother is in the hospital and she weighs 92 pounds. BUt a neighbor of mine is as wide as she is tall, she is in her eighties and still going strong. I think I would rather be fat and sassy rather than skinny and sickly. I probably should lose 100 but if I lost 40, like AMUSEME pointed out THAT IS SALVATION!!! That the difference from special order clothes and buying in a store (admitted it is still a plus size store, but I didn't have to order it special) I may not be 400 pounds, but when you try to lose the weight and lose 40 that is encouragement in the least, you are worried about only losing 40 pounds? Why don't you just freaking be happy that you only have the much to lose to make yourself not mind seeing yourself without apparel. I don't mind myself now and I am FAR FAR from perfect. People like you make me madder than a wet hen. Okay. Now I am done ranting. Tear it apart all you like but it doesn't change a darn thing. RED


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Posted on Wed, Mar 28, 2007 17:45

Who are you? When I read your yeast infection blog I had my doubts that you were really a adult BBW. Now I'm sure you are not who you portray yourself to be. I'm thinking you are some skinny, immature person playing around on the net with nothing better to do than pick at large people. I've heard large people come down on themselves but never use words like you have. On the other hand, I've heard skinny people say this type of crap day in and day out. So again I ask you... who are you?


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Posted on Wed, Mar 28, 2007 14:53

Hey, there's some positive thinking! Way to motivate, Wish2Bthin! I mean, you really inspire one to live a leaner, healthier life! You want me to hate myself? Is that what you think I should do??Hating myself is part of the reason I got so FAT to bein with. It wasn't until I started to LOVE MYSELF that I started to lose weight. You know what? Don't like those extra 40? GO JOGGING and GET RID OF IT. I am SO SICK of hearing people with *LITTLE* extra weight whining about how freakin *FAT* they are and how unhealthy it is and how miserable they are and how other BBW's should be just as miserable as they are!! Go jogging and be thankful that you don't have to hear your stomach slap your thighs mid-motion! Go to a gym and be thankful that the people you exercise with aren't compelled to stare at you with wide-eyed disgust because they have to watch you try and move your huge butt to the latest tai-bo technoesque underground rave beat! Die of embarassment, just ONE TIME because the thinner person on the treadmill beside your own is snickering because they can hear your skin flap while you trot. Live ONE day in my shoes and THEN lets see if you have the gall to write such a statement as this. I doubt it. Oh, and by the way, 40 pounds to a 400 pounder is NOT a pinky toe. It's the difference between getting INTO the booth at a restaurant and having to ask a waiter to find a chair so you can sit at the end of the table. It's the difference between one airplane ticket and two. It's the difference between struggling to wipe one's own a$$ or not. It's getting a seat belt on instead of trying to explain to the officer that pulled you over for not wearing one that you can't get your's around yourself. 40 pounds to a 400 pounder is SALVATION. It's FREEDOM. It's LIFE.


In your rocking-chair, by your window dreaming, shall you long, alone. In your rocking-chair, by your window, shall you dream such happiness as you may never feel. –Theodore Dreiser

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Posted on Wed, Mar 28, 2007 03:52

my word girl you keep saying how unhappy you are with your self! isn't it about time to do something about it. You can't wait for someone to come along and make you go for a walk..I know I am still waiting,lol.Gosh the only one who can change us is ourselves. I also don't believe couples who are overweight sit around and say things like let's gargle butter.They may just be comfortable with each other and not feel the need to criticize and cajole into exercising or watch what the other one is eating. Granted, to be concerned about the health of a loved one is important, but you can't obsess about it.There are other things about some people that they need to change which have nothing to do about weight. I know few "healthy" weight people who could use personality transplants. Sure there are times I am not happy about my weight but for the most part I am ok with it. I still walk,dance and work.


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