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Posted on Thu, Apr 29, 2010 12:47

OK, so here I am writing this blog and all I can think of is "is finding someone like me even truly possible?"

I read urban dictionary's definition of "BBW" yesterday and cried so hard it wasn't even funny.  Don't read it.  It won't help self esteem at all.

Why is it that people don't look at bigger people as actually human but rather as "they" or "it".  I'm still human.  I have feelings, needs, and wants.

How do you find a guy that is willing to do that and not be completely horrible or out of the running? *sigh* i know I'm probably just complaining but does anyone in this world feel like this?



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Posted on Sat, May 01, 2010 15:11

Sorry they took the link out of my comment :-( Ill try and post it again. Dimensions Magazine Dot Com with no caps or spaces in the bottom left hand corner of the page they have links to some really good articals.


We rock at dawn on the front line like a bolt right out of the blue! The sky's alight with the guitar bite, heads will roll and rock tonight!! For those about to rock, we salute you!!! \m/ ~____~ \m/

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Posted on Fri, Apr 30, 2010 13:28

White, its just a label...peel it off and define yourself the way you wanna feel! Drive your life gurl! Elaine


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Posted on Fri, Apr 30, 2010 06:31

Whitetexasrose, I understand completely where you are coming from. There is a lot of fat discrimination going on. Just because a person is big that does not mean that they do not have any feelings. I have some smaller family members who treat me less than human because of my size. I though you were suppose to love someone regardless of size. There is such a prejudice of size because people fear becoming that way themselves. We all live in this complex but rather simple world. Where there are various types of people. You would think by now that we would have no prejudice. Fat discrimination is the new racism.........


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Posted on Fri, Apr 30, 2010 02:34

thank you all for your comments.

Each of you are right.

Thank you naught for the reminder not to slip into the poor me state.  I think I was starting to do that and I don't want to.  Thank you for the reminder.



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Posted on Thu, Apr 29, 2010 21:52

I think all the PC terms out there are rather irritating. Why do we have to talk in circles and be so afraid of adjectives? They describe what we are; they don't define *who* we are. When did Fat become a dirty word? I have no problems defining myself as a fat chick. I make the other fat chicks at work cringe because I don't mind calling myself "Fat Girl" when I need to (i.e. "Fat Girl's gotta eat. Can we take a break now?") Sure, I know women who need to use "BBW" to make themselves feel less fat or more attractive. But, what they don't realize is that label doesn't make them more attractive; it's the observable confidence boost that makes them attractive. If "fat" makes you cringe, then you should cringe if someone calls you "brunette/blonde/redhead" because it's just a descriptor. It's not a definition. Finding guys/gals isn't dependent on your size. Finding a mate is dependent on accepting who you are, acknowledging your flaws, and playing up your assets. Finding an acceptable mate depends on believing (and I mean truly believing) that you are a hell of a catch for the right person who DESERVES you in all your fabulousity and all your FLABulousity. If you truly believe that you deserve a mate worthy of your best and you never settle for less, you'll be beating them off with a stick. Trust me. Please don't fall into the Poor Me trap. Fat people, ugly people, skinny people, pimply people, short people, (etc. etc. etc.) too often want to enmesh themselves in the Poor Me role. They want to fall into the all-too-easy victim mentality. [Nobody loves me. Everybody hates me. I'm gonna eat some worms.] Falling into that trap will forever keep attracting users, manipulators, bullies, and jackazzes, which will make you feel worse, which will keep you in the victim role, which will keep attracting....{I'm sure you get the point here} Look at your fat and embrace it or lose it because if you want to find someone like you, make sure you like who you are first or you'll continue to be miserable. Oh, and urban dictionary is as great a reference as the toilet stall wall.


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Posted on Thu, Apr 29, 2010 21:52

I hate to say the perceived notion if you dont have a 2% body fat and a size 0 waist that you are a Sub human and not fit to live is a crock of horse fritters!Dont feel bad us larger guys as well get discriminated aginst . If they are soo narrow minded to look at the vessel and not see what is inside, then it is my humble opinion the can go soil them selves . Vinagar placed in a Swaravoski Crystal goblet still is bitter and not refreshing. Cool spring water from a Bama jelly jar is any not less refreshing because the vessel it is in.It is what is inside matters. Remember Rule # 1 of B sci fi movies : If you meet a smoking hot alien chick , be careful she just might be a monster in side!


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Posted on Thu, Apr 29, 2010 19:26

Well, surprisingly there are a lot of positive responses to the term BBW there. Don't let other peoples opinion hurt you. Why let them? You will never know anyone that posted negative comments on that site... and it's their loss for being so nasty and closed minded! You are who you are.. fat and all. Be proud, carry it well and always put on your makeup. :)


In your rocking-chair, by your window dreaming, shall you long, alone. In your rocking-chair, by your window, shall you dream such happiness as you may never feel. –Theodore Dreiser

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Posted on Thu, Apr 29, 2010 18:57

There are guys out there but you have to weed them out on the internet even more so since they are strangers. Actions speak louder than words, don't be naive but don't judge until given reason. Enjoy the blogs - it's give and take. Try to view this as a source of entertainment. Happy blogging and enjoying the sites.


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Posted on Thu, Apr 29, 2010 13:41

I know how you feel Completely. In high school I had lots of Gal friends but no girl friends cuz i was the fat guy. its like I was an alien and girls were afraid to be with me or they might 'catch mt fatness' lol I personally love big women as much or more than slimmer women. Here is an awesome website I found that talks about a lot of this stuff it REALLY helped me out. It's kinda adult oriented but it has awesome awesome articles from women about how they love big men and men on how they love big women and everything in between. It for 'FAs' or 'Fat Admirers' and it touched my heart and renewed my hope. Hope this helps.


We rock at dawn on the front line like a bolt right out of the blue! The sky's alight with the guitar bite, heads will roll and rock tonight!! For those about to rock, we salute you!!! \m/ ~____~ \m/

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