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Posted on Tue, Dec 05, 2006 08:05

Do Girls Really Like Bad Boys? I have been pondering this question for some time as I have had several guys tell me in the past that the ladies don't like them because they are nice, sweet,kind,gentle,tender,etc. My response has always been that while some women do like 'bad boys', some women do honestly like nice guys. I have been giving this much thought lately, because although I do really enjoy the company of a nice guy, and love the way they treat me, I also seem to be attracted to 'bad boys'. Why is this I wondered? I know I don't always like the way I am treated by a 'bad boy'-surely that isn't the reason I like their company. So what attracts me, and other women, to 'bad boys'? I think it is a combination of several characteristics that attract women to 'bad boys'. Often times 'bad boys' seem more exciting, they seem to have have a vitality for life. They often seek excitement, are enthusiastic and passionate about doing things. They are very confident and carry themselves well, are assertive,and have an element of charm that is actually very intriguing. Some women like adventure, and 'bad boys' are adventurous. 'Bad boys' are usually flirtatious,often witty, fun loving, bold, know how to make interesting conversation,and aren't always 'busy' with work leaving little time for his woman. 'Bad boys' can be more difficult to 'catch', and develop the elusive touch. Some women like the 'chase', the uncertainty, the surprise and suspense of a 'bad boy'. Some women want to help 'bad boys' become nice guys! They want to 'fix' whatever it is in their life that is making them act and behave the way they do. They start out with the 'bad boy' with a goal in mind of changing him. Some women like the 'power' a 'bad boy' often has, and many women love power. Some 'bad boys' treat women poorly and some women have low self esteem and self worth; they think they deserve to be treated badly, or prefer to be treated badly than to be alone. So, is it true that women don't like good guys? I have never heard a woman say she left a man because he was a 'good guy' (although I have heard men say the same about a woman). There are numerous reasons she may decide to end a relationship with a good guy, just as there are for a 'bad boy'. Perhaps it's the way he treated someone else, or he's not ready for the same level of commitment she is. Perhaps she just finds herself not really physically attracted to him or the differences between them were such that she thought it would cause problems somewhere down the road. There are endless possibilities other than just because he was 'a nice guy.' She probably stayed around as long as she did because she really like the 'nice guy'. Can a nice guy also be a 'bad boy'? Most definately so! Every woman will find her 'bad boy.' Different women have different levels of 'bad boy' they like. He may be a computer geek, a teacher, or a bank robber, or he may even be you!


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Posted on Thu, Mar 22, 2007 12:36

YOU KNOW I HAVE REALLY BEEN THINKING ABOUT THIS A LOT AND I HAVE A FEW QUESTIONS FOR THE LADIES WHO HAVE COMMENTED ON THIS SUBJECT..... #1 SAY YOU AND YOUR "GOOD BOY" ARE OUT ON A DATE AND SOMEONE MAKES A RUDE COMMENT OR USES EXTREME PROFANITY IN FRONT OF YOU WOULD UR GOOD BOY SAY SOMETHING ANYTHING BECAUSE BEING A "BAD BOY" I KNOW I WOULD OPEN MY BIG MOUTH AND PROBABLY SHOW MY A$$. #2 GOOD BOYS MIGHT BE THE ONE YOU CAN TAKE HOME TO MOM AND DAD,BUT..... BAD BOYS CAN BE TAKEN ANYWHERE #3 I REALIZE THAT GOOD BOYS ARE SOMETIMES A GOOD THING BUT WE BAD BOYS ARE ALWAYS GOOD


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Posted on Thu, Mar 22, 2007 10:15

So LF screwed with my post!


In your rocking-chair, by your window dreaming, shall you long, alone. In your rocking-chair, by your window, shall you dream such happiness as you may never feel. –Theodore Dreiser

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Posted on Thu, Mar 22, 2007 10:09

Buzz babe ... used to be a "bad boy"??? I think you wrote the book on Risqu?. ;-) You personify the exciting and stimulating "bad boy/good man" stereotype. Well, in my opinion! lol


In your rocking-chair, by your window dreaming, shall you long, alone. In your rocking-chair, by your window, shall you dream such happiness as you may never feel. –Theodore Dreiser

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Posted on Wed, Mar 21, 2007 10:25

I think dysires hit the nail on the head when she said the word confidence. What a big word in the world of dating! I am way more attracted to confident guys than non-confident guys. And you can tell by the way they talk, their body language, etc. Any magazine, from FHM to Cosmo will tell you confidence is sexy!


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Posted on Wed, Mar 21, 2007 06:42

I like a guy to have some character, brains, spirit and individuality but not sure I'd want a real "bad boy". That to me implies a philanderer, cheat and liar.


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Posted on Wed, Mar 21, 2007 05:52

lol ladyhawke.. I usually shake and shiver with excited anticipation. ;-)


In your rocking-chair, by your window dreaming, shall you long, alone. In your rocking-chair, by your window, shall you dream such happiness as you may never feel. –Theodore Dreiser

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Posted on Tue, Mar 20, 2007 15:09

Bad Boyz, Bad Boyz what you gonna do, what you gonna do when they come for you!!


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Posted on Tue, Mar 20, 2007 11:34

I used to be the definition of the term "BAD BOY" but i always treated women with respect and admiration that the deserved. Maybe I am the exception to the rule but just because you are slapped with the bad boy label doesn't make you a bad man


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Posted on Wed, Dec 27, 2006 22:56

edgy is good RR--er you volunteering for a mercy relationship? LOL


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Posted on Tue, Dec 26, 2006 22:13

gnosis, I am suddenly thinking of the Unibomber. Why? LOL


In your rocking-chair, by your window dreaming, shall you long, alone. In your rocking-chair, by your window, shall you dream such happiness as you may never feel. –Theodore Dreiser

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Posted on Tue, Dec 26, 2006 22:09

I have to say that "bad boys" have a special charm for women. Why?I don?t know but, on the other side, men always fall in love with the wrong woman (well...only sometimes...). Kisses and Merry Xmas from Spain


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Posted on Thu, Dec 21, 2006 23:58

It's weird that some girls seem to be attracted to that kind of a guy but then again, I think I somewhat fall into the "bad boy" catagory, at least I'm resistant to authority and willing to fight the good fight no matter the cost There's an interesting counterpoint, can the "bad boy" also be the idealist as well, not the typical "bad boy" but the outspoken political agitator?


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Posted on Thu, Dec 21, 2006 22:57

My 2 cents on the bad boy thing, (and it's only MY opinion) is we want someone who is putting up a fight to love us. WE want their attention and fight for it. Then after we get it we work hard at keeping it. It like we are working for the relationship, but then when the bad boy leaves us for something us, we then wish he was the good boy. (at least I do) And...Ben2Go I bet when they are through with those bad boys they think of YOU and what could have been. :(


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Posted on Wed, Dec 20, 2006 11:39

AmuseMe, Tim McGraw in my opinion is a real good man. I was volunteering with the Red Cross at a shelter in the days after Katrina and was very tired from several days of working many hours and having slept very little when I looked up and into the face of this man standing with several other people.My poor exhausted brain recognized the face but I couldn't place it-was he the guy who gave me my drink at a fast food place last week, or who brought me some supplies, or a relative of a friend? The doctor standing next to him said "I'd like you to meet Tim McGraw."... then it clicked who was standing in front of me..lol..We shook hands and I thanked him very much for coming, and he very nicely thanked me for volunteering with the Red Cross. He then proceeded to tour the shelter, spent quite awhile playing with the kids there,and left a check. I don't know about anyone else, but it meant much to me, that within days of the hurricane he took the time not to just give, but to come, see for himself, meet some of the people and refuse any publicity photos while there. It was nice to know while we were sitting here waiting for FEMA, for anybody, to come and help us in this horrible situation, that someone did care. He'll always be a good man in my book!


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Posted on Sun, Dec 17, 2006 16:15

Hey Bizz how about a good woman with an edge..lol-RR-


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Posted on Thu, Dec 14, 2006 22:04

I agree with you, bluegirl2006. I will also add that life is too short and I am too old to jump through hoops and play games with so-called "bad boys". Now that I am in a relationship with a so-called "good guy", I can now relax and be lavished with love and respect. And the best thing about being with my "good guy" is that he is so secure with himself and feels so worthy of being loved that I can lavish love and respect onto him, too.


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Posted on Wed, Dec 13, 2006 08:44

I think that its hard to classify a person (male or female) as bad or good. There are so many different facets to a person than that. Even myself, on one hand, I'm innocent as they come, but on the other I'd shock a sailor. It depends on the context. I would hope that most women aren't out to be with a man who would take away their self respect and treat them badly. I know that there are men out there who aren't bad people, but they can be considered "bad" boys, who are just somewhat immature and self-centered, but they have this boyish, fun charm about them that you can't help but be attracted to them. And then there are good guys who are so good, you begin to wonder if they are for real, do they really take everything so seriously, and you feel a little smothered. I think most men fall into the in-between category. Thats what I always shoot for, but it's hard to distinguish. Some bad boys are wolves in sheeps clothing and some are sheep in wolves clothing. Some nice guys are just shy. I think that one of the most important factors in a relationship is fun. So I want to be with a guy who is fun and funny and willing to do stupid, little kid things or tease me or whatever. I don't take many things very seriously, and I'm always laughing. I want a guy thats not afraid to do that with me, who has the confidence to be himself.


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Posted on Wed, Dec 13, 2006 06:18

Oh, the infamous lyrics of Faith Hill's husband whats-his-name. Joking!!! "I may be a real bad boy - but baby, I'm a real good man."


In your rocking-chair, by your window dreaming, shall you long, alone. In your rocking-chair, by your window, shall you dream such happiness as you may never feel. –Theodore Dreiser

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Posted on Tue, Dec 12, 2006 22:22

hmmm well Robyn...I'd settle for a good bad girl LOL :>P *pfft*


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