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wanda_world
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Posted on Sun, Oct 15, 2006 01:33

Got this response sent to my inbox from a 32 year old guy: I think the fact is that you are not honest about what you want yet. If you can see your self with some one much older then usually you are looking for someone to take care of you (thus a father figure type). If you want to feel like a care free and crazy teenage girl again and live a little on the wild side then you can take on these relationships with a younger man and just enjoy the wildness of it all. It is all in being real and honest with yourself. I have been in relationships with women much older than me, and it was very fun and rewarding to both of us as long as we were honest with each other about both of us wanting to have a care free feeling of living a little on the wild side. You can't be afraid of what others around you might think or say either. Most of the time they are just jealous that they are not able to live that way.


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Posted on Mon, Oct 09, 2006 23:58

as for me it truely is not about age it is more about the person yes when you look for someone who is why older there may not be that little something between then cause the older parson has been there done that or was never into it but it really to me has a lot to do with each person as to if it will work personaly i don't want to date someone 10 years younger then me i have had beeter luck with ladies older them me


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Posted on Mon, Oct 09, 2006 19:34

Age is just a number - a measure really but it does include certain differences with regards to the generation gap, upbringing/parenting, values and day to day differences. I don't think age matters if there is a real attraction/connection but you do need to take into consideration such things as views on dating/living together/marriage , children , division of day to day housework, social life , retirement - the same things you should for any relationship. I married a man 26 years older than I at age 19 and have been married for 24 years - we are separating now - the age difference has grown too vast - it is very hard to sum that up in a short sentence as there are volumes but "better to have loved once than never to have loved" - I have no regrets - we are parting friends - follow your heart! *Smoosh*


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Posted on Sun, Oct 08, 2006 23:27

Personally, as long as they are over the age of consent, at some point it becomes a matter of personal choice. I know what you mean about younger guys, and older ones too. Seems like half of my flirts on another site are men who are 15-20 years older than me. As far as a relationship, I think you're right about the older being more likely to succeed. Most of the time (not all!) the older man will be more likely to have things and attitudes in common with you. Just my opinion


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Posted on Sun, Oct 08, 2006 23:20

this is a really good topic that seems to be on the rise not only in the U.S. but abroad as well. For the last few years, relationships have taken turns that (some) people never thought would happen. Now people are deciding more on what they want than what society wants them to have. No more is it younger women with older men, now older women with younger men has come in the mix of relationships. I do see the problem that some women have with this and it does seem odd to say to yourself "im dating someone my childs age" if you have one, and if not, some may look at it like dating their nephew, etc. But there are other characteristics to look at as well. You may feel a fire that he brings that you have never felt before in a long time, which some yonger men do to older women. Thats why older guys are going for the younger women. They either feel young again, they want society to know what they have beside them to impress friends or the sex is better. 9 times out of ten, its one of those options or all three. Men have the need to conquer! Now with the younger guy, he is not finding what the younger women possess and that is wisdom and maturity. Maturity is really attractive and the younger guys see that in older women. Also older women can teach a younger guy so many things that younger women cant and wisdom plays a big part in that. Another would be that younger girls (most) are not out to settle down, they are wanting to live life and live it to the fullest. so where does this leave the younger guy? and older women know that they can settle down and live it to the fullest while settling down. Im not knocking the younger girls out there, i love you all as well. Just my take on why younger guys go for older women..;).Now dont get me wrong, there are some out there who are just looking to bed an older woman. But that is everywhere in relationships no matter what the age difference is. The good apple from the bad ones, your choosing. There are so many options to weigh when the subject of age difference pops up. Maturity, being committed to the relationship, etc. So just like with any normal relationship, may be unusual at first, but who knows..10 to 20 yrs down the road you may be thankful you took the chance. Im definetly sure there are other couples on here and everywhere else that will tell you its the best thing that has happened to them. Trust your judgement and if it feels good, go for it.


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Posted on Sun, Oct 08, 2006 22:45

A kind gentleman sent me this via email in response to this: I am a 71 year old widowed/divorced male living alone and very lonely. I look frequently at personals for some miracle of finding a companion. However, there is NO way that I would look at anyone more than 12 to 13 years younger than myself because that differance or more would, in my experience not have many of the same interests or values as one of my age. Not only that I have children in their late 40s and again I would NOT date anyone my childrens ages as a matter of principle.


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