Quoting truefriendinme:

Anyone out there feel like all we do in life is wait? I have felt this way for as long as I can remember. I have waited for EVERYTHING! I have waited for the (used to be) man in my life to develop his career, waited to go to school, waited to finish school (to raise the boys), waited for the happiness that I thought came "later" in marraige, waited to leave, waited to go back to school, waited for this to be over! I am tired of waiting! As some of you know, I have been wading through the murky waters of divorce for nearly two and a half years! Yes, my friends, even when you break up, you STILL wind up waiting on them! Over two years and almost 20K later, I finally figure out that no matter what I do, he's not going to let go very easily. He has dragged this out in every manipulative way imaginable and I finally have lost sight of the "EXIT" sign. Somewhere along the way my Tom-Tom pulled a "gone-gone"! LOL! Let's face it, guys. I'm abysmally trapped in the land of never ending settlements! So, I have pulled out the "Big Guns", so to speak. I had one ace in the hole that might wake him up to the idea that he could pay for this a very long time (if you catch my drift). Unfortunately, I think he is so far gone and so scared of relinquishing any bit of control that he won't realize it till it's too late. But, hey, what should I care? I do. And I don't. It's a draw. But, all in all, I'm glad I finally at least ASKED for what I deserve. I atleast stood up for me, for once. I put my foot down in such a way that ther is NO mistaking whose it is or how pi$$ed off I am. I have given up practically my entire life pre-divorce, and it still wasn't good enough. So...now I've decided that NO-- it's NOT good enough. I was willing to settle for so much less than what was deserved, and he just HAD to complain once more-- to make even MORE adjustments. So, now the whole deal is OFF. I am now taking not only the bacon, but the pan to fry it in, too! I suppose a judge will make the final decision, but I am glad I asked. At the very least, I showed I'm not afraid of all the intimidation and threats. It gets old after a while, you know? I just got so sick of all the "fineggling" and I just said "screw it all!" Then I decided that I have to look out for the one person everyone else has decided is meaningless: me.

Anyone out there feel like all we do in life is wait? I have felt this way for as long as I can remember. I have waited for EVERYTHING! I have waited for the (used to be) man in my life to develop his career, waited to go to school, waited to finish school (to raise the boys), waited for the happiness that I thought came "later" in marraige, waited to leave, waited to go back to school, waited for this to be over! I am tired of waiting! As some of you know, I have been wading through the murky waters of divorce for nearly two and a half years! Yes, my friends, even when you break up, you STILL wind up waiting on them! Over two years and almost 20K later, I finally figure out that no matter what I do, he's not going to let go very easily. He has dragged this out in every manipulative way imaginable and I finally have lost sight of the "EXIT" sign. Somewhere along the way my Tom-Tom pulled a "gone-gone"! LOL! Let's face it, guys. I'm abysmally trapped in the land of never ending settlements! So, I have pulled out the "Big Guns", so to speak. I had one ace in the hole that might wake him up to the idea that he could pay for this a very long time (if you catch my drift). Unfortunately, I think he is so far gone and so scared of relinquishing any bit of control that he won't realize it till it's too late. But, hey, what should I care? I do. And I don't. It's a draw. But, all in all, I'm glad I finally at least ASKED for what I deserve. I atleast stood up for me, for once. I put my foot down in such a way that ther is NO mistaking whose it is or how pi$$ed off I am. I have given up practically my entire life pre-divorce, and it still wasn't good enough. So...now I've decided that NO-- it's NOT good enough. I was willing to settle for so much less than what was deserved, and he just HAD to complain once more-- to make even MORE adjustments. So, now the whole deal is OFF. I am now taking not only the bacon, but the pan to fry it in, too! I suppose a judge will make the final decision, but I am glad I asked. At the very least, I showed I'm not afraid of all the intimidation and threats. It gets old after a while, you know? I just got so sick of all the "fineggling" and I just said "screw it all!" Then I decided that I have to look out for the one person everyone else has decided is meaningless: me.