Hey Guys! I have been gone for quite a whle now. No, I have not been dating, I've just been submerged in what I would like to refer to as "life". However, it feels more and more like simply "existing". Lately, I think about dating and missing the male-side of life. While I like being alone (my "quiet time), I miss the companionship. I miss someone making me feel that "way". I have not dated anyone since the separation/divorce (almost final-- THANKK GOD!) more...
Hey Guys! I have been gone for quite a whle now. No, I have not been dating, I've just been submerged in what I would like to refer to as "life". However, it feels more and more like simply "existing". Lately, I think about dating and missing the male-side of life. While I like being alone (my "quiet time), I miss the companionship. I miss someone making me feel that "way". I have not dated anyone since the separation/divorce (almost final-- THANKK GOD!) in Nov. '06. I think the women will understand what I mean more, but men might, too. I'm just in that place, wanting companionship but not wanting committment. Scared to date for fear I might go too far, too fast, but in a way really *needing* to. I think maybe the interaction is the most important thing right now, but I can't make myself do it. What do you think?--TrueFriendInMe less...
Quoting: Originally posted by one2one Hi True :) I think you're just right on the edge of something a whole lot better than the last couple years. It will come when you're ready for it, and when it does, I think you can trust yourself more than you think you can. Hugs :)
I think that too,you NEVER know what/who is just around the corner. Go on to, You Tube, type in "Things Can Only Get Better" by D'ream...that song always cheers me up...that's MY song.xxx
Hi True :) I think you're just right on the edge of something a whole lot better than the last couple years. It will come when you're ready for it, and when it does, I think you can trust yourself more than you think you can. Hugs :)
truefriendinme Am I going to have to your town to get you to smile? I know that right now you feel like life has rode you hard and put you wet. I know it is hard to stay posative when life keeps kicking you in the teeth, But you get up and fight back. If no one else will pamper you ,YOU pamper you. Because you deserve It. So here is a big HUG. and a soft kiss on the cheek.Hopefully it will bring a smile to you face.
Quoting: Originally posted by truefriendinme Thanks guys! And, NoDrama, yeah, I'm gonna stick around a while. I'm at a "low point", as Butterbll pointed out so eloquently (just kidding, honey! LOL!). I'm hoping this will make me a little bit more optomistic about the "gotta- get-here- some-freakin'-day- because- it-really-can't-get- much -worse" high points that we are all supposed to encounter but are truly elusive to me right now.--True
Quoting: Originally posted by truefriendinme Thanks guys! And, NoDrama, yeah, I'm gonna stick around a while. I'm at a "low point", as Butterbll pointed out so eloquently (just kidding, honey! LOL!). I'm hoping this will make me a little bit more optomistic about the "gotta- get-here- some-freakin'-day- because- it-really-can't-get- much -worse" high points that we are all supposed to encounter but are truly elusive to me right now.--True
You're such a pretty girl,with a VERY sexy mouth,with lips that are screaming out "KISS ME." And eyes that NO man could resist,for too long, b4 offering you their heart,to do with as you please. Here's a BIG KISSSSSS,from me,and EVERY OTHER BBW lover out here,who's looking at you...and feeling what i'm feeling,when they look upon thee. less...
Heya True! We gotta do something about that picture babydoll. You look too SAD! I am in that place with you, and I am sure I am not the only one here, too. Cept I keep dating all the wrong guys. Don't feel bad about not wanting a commitment! You are in the PRIME of your life honey! You don't have to be in a committed relationship in order to let someone in, be comfortable with and fulfilling your "desires" all at the same time. I'm not suggesting you go out and make it with strangers, more...
Heya True! We gotta do something about that picture babydoll. You look too SAD! I am in that place with you, and I am sure I am not the only one here, too. Cept I keep dating all the wrong guys. Don't feel bad about not wanting a commitment! You are in the PRIME of your life honey! You don't have to be in a committed relationship in order to let someone in, be comfortable with and fulfilling your "desires" all at the same time. I'm not suggesting you go out and make it with strangers, but you don't have to wait til you've decided the guys marriage material before you roll a few rounds with him, do you?
Take it easy, have fun, grab life with both hands while you are still able to. Seriously.
Thanks guys! And, NoDrama, yeah, I'm gonna stick around a while. I'm at a "low point", as Butterbll pointed out so eloquently (just kidding, honey! LOL!). I'm hoping this will make me a little bit more optomistic about the "gotta- get-here- some-freakin'-day- because- it-really-can't-get- much -worse" high points that we are all supposed to encounter but are truly elusive to me right now.--True
Awww hugs True. Honestly, the next time I go to Charlie Town to visit family I want to look you up...if you don't mind. I know the feeling you are talking about. You might have inspired me to write a blog on my "crazy" life and ask what I should do out something. I hope you hang around the blog world for a while.
After the pain of love gone wrong it can be really hard to want to expose ourselves to potentially more pain.
It can take time to heal and to be willing to open up to someone else again.
One thing that has helped me in dealing and being open to love/dating is asking myself a question.
What have I learned from this and how have I contributed to what has happened?
Now I dont mean in a blame them look how bad they are way. I mean look at yourself and how you have in what ever way been more...
After the pain of love gone wrong it can be really hard to want to expose ourselves to potentially more pain.
It can take time to heal and to be willing to open up to someone else again.
One thing that has helped me in dealing and being open to love/dating is asking myself a question.
What have I learned from this and how have I contributed to what has happened?
Now I dont mean in a blame them look how bad they are way. I mean look at yourself and how you have in what ever way been part of it.
Sometimes it could be that you accepted things that you knew you should not have. Other times it may be that you expected love with out giving it. These have been some of my answers, and I'm not saying they are yours.
I think that hurt and pain can make us feel like victims, like we had no control over the outcome, when in fact this is usually not true.
The answers dont always come straight away, but if you really want to know, they will come, and with them will come a renewal of strength and control.
Give it a try, it just might help.
Good luck xxx less...
Hang in there!The feeling of being in limbo does pass.
It does get better,with the passage of time.Or at least in my case.I know what you mean that some times you just need to be held or just have someone of the oppisite gender pay atttention to you.It is because of the low points in our lives , that the high points are soo much sweeeter.
True,
I know exactly what you are feeling. My divorce is final August 12th and I had my first date two weeks ago....actually someone I met on here. It was really scary for me but I "needed" some male companionship. I'm glad I took that first step into the dating world again. Next time it will be even easier.
I say give it a try...if you are too uncomfortable or not ready then you can wait until you are. Good luck.
I have felt as you do, only my thing was a rocky break up. It made me angry, bitter, lack faith in love and men. Yet I am a woman after all and I can have a great job, supportive friends and family and all the pleasantries a comfortable life should, however there will forever be a void of where a man should be. We can only do so much on our own. Sometimes it does feel as if we are robots just going through the motions and supposedly living.
I have felt as you do, only my thing was a rocky break up. It made me angry, bitter, lack faith in love and men. Yet I am a woman after all and I can have a great job, supportive friends and family and all the pleasantries a comfortable life should, however there will forever be a void of where a man should be. We can only do so much on our own. Sometimes it does feel as if we are robots just going through the motions and supposedly living.
I think if you started a friendship with a man, nothing serious or uncomfortable too fast. Just someone to start out as a person to talk to then share feelings and such with...then in time it could eveolve to a relationship. At least then you would already have a foundation established and it would help your comfort level.
There are a lot of me on this site who are looking for women to be friends with or hang out with and have that " let's see where this goes " attitude. I think that is great. Sometimes without the pressure of a romatic relationship looming above your head you can actually have a better time together as you won't be stressing !
