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Posted on Tue, Aug 22, 2006 14:43

Hello everyone, I was listening to a talk radio station today and the topic was interracial dating. Someone say they would date outside their race and some is against it. I know this is a toughy subject what's you're take on this topic? for me it would be hard because I don't like the problems that goes along with it but if someone else dates outside their race I cool with it. I think every race has beauty in it.


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Posted on Thu, Feb 01, 2007 20:18

I'm Cuban American and have always been very attracted to caucasian men. I don't know exactly why, but I think it's because white guys are stereotypically categorized as "good boys" which I'm very attracted to. I have also been raised in an area of Florida where the majority of people are white. I try to not limit myself to only white guys, but I'm not as satisfied with hispanic or black men. I think from now on I will to try to do what makes me happy.


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Posted on Tue, Dec 12, 2006 18:40

i really don't think race should be a factor for dating or getting to know someone. i've been attracted to all skin colors...and not b/c of their skin color...but b/c of his personality. realistically, yes...i think it will have an affect on the relationship b/c OTHER people have problems with it. But, as long as either family is ok with it...it's no biggie, I think. :)


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Posted on Mon, Dec 11, 2006 15:02

Hi...I'm new to this site, but this topic is near and dear to my heart...being raised in a multi cultural family where bi-racial would be an understatment, I'm often asked (since I look "white") why I prefer to date only "black" men...it's my preference, who I'm comfortable with, and who I'm attracted to. I believe there will be a day, maybe not in my generation, but there will come a time when racism will be abolished globally. Having lived a life of not being accepted because my skin is too light to be considered "black" and mistaken sometimes for Hispanic or to get asked, "what are you?" when people see me with my children or my family, it's difficult to describe how to deal with it sometimes... You can look at my pictures and see who I am, but do you really know me? Am I being as judgemental as you are because I choose man over woman, I choose "black" man over "white" man routinely...it's a preference, not a requirement, because if there is ANYTHING I've learned over the years, you don't choose WHO you love, it is what it is... Thanks for listening, and reading this testimony of acceptance for being who I am and the choices I make as I seek the one I'm hoping to find...it won't matter his skin color, it will only matter his heart and it's match to my own...I'm attracted to ALL men who are honest and sincere and can capture my attention by just being who they are...laughter usually works wonders too! Have a great day!


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Posted on Thu, Dec 07, 2006 09:53

I look at it that we all come from the human race. And it doesn't matter if we are green,orange,purple, magenta,Portuguese,Italian,Irish,German,Tongan,Japanese,fat,skinny,chunky,tall,short,etc. It's what is inside a person that counts. We are all people who deserve to be treated with respect and dignity. Shallow people see the outside only of a person. It truly is the gestalt of the physical,emotional,spiritual and sensual that makes a person attractive and beautiful.


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Posted on Thu, Dec 07, 2006 05:16

As a young woman I vowed to never limit my friends, dates, lovers to one race or religion. There are so many interesting people in this world to meet. My dates have come from many places and I don't feel nervous or insecure being out with people I choose to be around. Labeling ourselves in reference to our race, color or religion says absolutely nothing about who we are or what we like.


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Posted on Mon, Dec 04, 2006 19:47

it is really sad that in this day and age there are still people who say "i don't really see you as black, white, mexican, etc." not acknowledging a person's race, color, heritage is to practically deny their very existence! you are robbing a person of their culture! c'mon peeps, get real! don't fool yourself and cop to that. you are lying to yourself if you do. to establish a rapport with any living creature is to acknowledge its existence. to some, this may seem like a trivial issue, but it is NO way trivial. i'm just saying use a lil' common sense and acknowledge the fact that a person is different than you. once people get past this, dating someone of a different culture won't be so hard. that's my word


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Posted on Mon, Dec 04, 2006 00:39

I have dated white men before and it was a great experience. I plan on keeping my options open to men of any race because sometimes Mr. Right may come in any color. I think some black women choose not to date outside their race because it maybe a slap in the face to black men. Once we learn that love has no color the better off we will be.


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Posted on Fri, Dec 01, 2006 15:20

Hi Thommie, I've dated interracially for the last six years. I believe that people are people (no matter what colour). I like to get to know a person from the inside/out. I love dating Black men...however, it seems that White men (for whatever reason) seem to ask me out more than Black men. Once I get to know a person I never conciously think about the color of their skin. The only thing that matters is our level of respect for one another and how we feel about each other. When you find the "right" person, you'll see what I mean. And as far as other people staring (they seldom do), but for those that do stare, I could care less! Best of luck sistah. Anne


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Posted on Sat, Nov 25, 2006 20:28

Depends on preference and circumstances. i have children with my late white husband and i would like them to have both cultures so i have continued dating white guys, but if someone from my own colour who fits what i look for in a man comes along then i would go for it.


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Posted on Sat, Nov 25, 2006 01:10

Hi Everyone, I am an Australian woman that has always dated black men , I see it as the heart does not see colour it only sees love and whether that person you fall in love be black, white, green, purple, or orange with polka dont worry about what other people think, if your in love that is all that matters. I have a very beautiful bi-raccial daughter who is growing up as a very strong and individual person. I believe you cant help who you love so love and be happy .... peace :)


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Posted on Fri, Nov 24, 2006 08:03

Well what can i say here.... I have dated: black, white, men from Afganistan, Eqypt, Carribean, Croatian, Isrealie, South African.... the list goes on. I dont really care where he is from I am more interested in his personality. I only see the outside for the first 10 minutes after that I am looking into his eyes to see his soul. That what I find sexy. With that said i do like darker men. Something to be said about lovely dark skin against my own. But I do not limit myself to his skin color.


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Posted on Thu, Nov 23, 2006 19:37

I think that this is a good thing because it makes people have to think outside the box.


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Posted on Fri, Nov 17, 2006 07:14

Hello from Terry in NJ why are all the good looking BBW so far away I live in Delran NJ if you are looking I`m here


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Posted on Thu, Nov 16, 2006 09:11

This is a subject close to my heart. I, like hotreadhead have ONLY dated black men since i was 15.I have 2 bi-racial children with a west-indian man i was with for 8 years. Yes, i do think is personal prefrence.Honestly it agravates me when i am called a racist beacuse of my prefrance(useually by white men).I see it as.. you prefer women... well I prefer black men.I live in a large city of montreal(VERY multi-cultural) so I do not get stares much(anymore) now that I am older. When I was in my early 20's I got MAJOR attitude from alot(not all)of black women, with the u stealing are men crap. Anyway..you love who you want to love. No one has to life with your life but you.So, do what make you feel happy.


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Posted on Tue, Nov 14, 2006 11:54

It really is a personal preference for reason's only known to the individual(s) involved - smile.... I have dated and been married interracially my whole adult life - I have one beautiful multi-ethnic son - I don't limit myself totally, however.... I have to admit there is just something about a black man that attracts me in so many ways - smile....


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Posted on Tue, Nov 14, 2006 09:15

I have friends who point out how I was teased at school about my race and they say "I want to avoid that with my children I refuse to date out side my race and git involved, have children, and deal with racism." What they don't understand is that through that kind of thinking their just doing exactly what racist people want. I think interracial dating is a personal thing and that it should be about a persons preference and what they are attracted to... just like some people prefer BBW's well some people prefer people of another race. People shouldn't make excuses... you like what you like but if you avoid it for a stupid reason like the one my friends say then you might miss out on something amazing. The way I see it... I have a preference (my boyfriend is way whiter than me), but like all preferences it might be something I am attracted to but it's not a deciding factor in anything (you shouldn't date or not date someone based on color a alone). If it wasn't for interracial dating this mixed baby wouldn't have been born... neither would her mother or even her father. Everyone is a little mixed whether they know it or not so stupid reasons like my friends have are no reason at all. After all the ones teasing me where stupid bully's anyways... if it wasn't my race they picked on it would have been something else (like my weight).


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Posted on Tue, Nov 14, 2006 08:40

Hello Thommie, I have never dated outside of my race, or should I say the Hispanic race, because I have a little of many ethnicities tied up inside me. The thing is I have always been attracted to black men, I think that there is something very appealing to them. I would easily date them, but where I grew up there was mainly anglo and hispanic, so I was never faced with this option. Now that I live where there are many, well I don't think my bf would be to happy if I chose to!!! :) I know that there are many misconceptions about dating outside of your own race but is it really important what is on the outside? We as BBW already have issues to deal with so I don't think we should add on something else. Love the person that you are with for what he or she is, and for how he/she treats you. Leave the rest aside!!! take care Rosy


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Posted on Sat, Nov 11, 2006 08:06

I have never dated someone out of my race except once. And I think it is what alot of other people are saying on this blog. It has just never happened, I am by no means racist I just have not been asked out by too many out of my race. The one experience was a pleasant one and I sure would do it again. KISSY


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Posted on Mon, Nov 06, 2006 12:53

you go jjigl, everybody aint able. i'm glad he's handling for you. lucky lady.


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