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Posted on Wed, Aug 01, 2007 16:09

I know this is nothing new to anyone but I have just had my heartbroke...bad. The first time from an online relationship and actually the first time in years. I forgot how bad it hurts. Any words of wisdom on how to move on? I know time will heal the wound but I really thought this guy might be the one.


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Posted on Sat, Oct 13, 2007 00:17


Re: Petersh55 write: Of course you may need to get rid of a fair bit of anger but try and take it out on soft inanimate objects like cushions or pillows rather than friends or Pets . Ummm.. should I hide my Chihuahua? (just kidding!) I'm sorry. Really, and truly sorry. It makes me scared b/c I am planning on meeting someone I met here at the end of this month. He is planning a trip here, and will be staying a few days (in a local hotel). So, this really makes me wonder why we do this to ourselves?! I hope you feel better about all this sooner than later. Hugs--True


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Posted on Fri, Oct 12, 2007 22:40

I forgot about this blog that I started and just now looking at the date of this blog I have to smile. I met my guy 5 days later. It is interesting how life works out.


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Posted on Fri, Oct 12, 2007 09:24

That which is sharp, and cuts us: Makes us bleed. That which is hot; That, Shall burn our flesh. That task which taxes us body and spirit: will test us Body and Spirit. But what we survive: Makes Us Stronger!!


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Posted on Tue, Aug 07, 2007 21:23

Actually I took Bitterman's advice last weekend. I think this weekend I will focus my frustrations into a healthy activity - workout. lol I have let my workout routine slip since I started back to college last year and I need to get back into it. It is a great stress reliever and I can feel I need to get the tension out of my body. So I think I will try to refocus my energy into something good for me. lol


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Posted on Tue, Aug 07, 2007 20:59

Re: staceynkansas write: I'm feeling better - slightly. lol This guy and I have decided to be friends and remain in contact. It is hard to let him go. Being out of the dating world for 15 years makes it hard right now. I don't know how to read guys or understand what they want. I have a great guy friend and a couple of brothers that I can bounce questions off of. It has been interesting to say the least. I don't regret getting to know this guy, I learned alot about myself and others. And he let me down nicely and the rejection wasn't as bad as it could have been. lol I wish this was easier.

At least you had the oppty to get to know each other, sometimes people just jump into a relationship and then find out after the fact it wasn't what they were looking for. I have friends who have done that and then complain about it and I just sit there with the "I told you so" look. In fact, I knew my hubby for a month before we got married...LOL. Thankfully other than kid issues, life was pretty good between us. I am glad you are feeling better, even if it's only a tad bit better!!! Perhaps engage in bitterman's advice this weekend, eh? he he he


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Posted on Tue, Aug 07, 2007 20:12

Re: CoverGirl write: How long were you in the relationship??

We had been communicating 7 months. He lives in another state and he haven't had the chance to meet face to face but we talked daily and shared alot with each other.


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Posted on Tue, Aug 07, 2007 20:08

I'm feeling better - slightly. lol This guy and I have decided to be friends and remain in contact. It is hard to let him go. Being out of the dating world for 15 years makes it hard right now. I don't know how to read guys or understand what they want. I have a great guy friend and a couple of brothers that I can bounce questions off of. It has been interesting to say the least. I don't regret getting to know this guy, I learned alot about myself and others. And he let me down nicely and the rejection wasn't as bad as it could have been. lol I wish this was easier.


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Posted on Tue, Aug 07, 2007 19:54

Re: staceynkansas write: This one was bad. I have been living in solitude relationship-wise for years and ventured back out recently. I've been rejected before years ago but this one was a stinger. I think partly because I have been sheltering myself for so long but also I really thought this was going to work out. So hearing others dealing with this makes me not feel so alone. lol

It is especially difficult if you have not been in the "dating" scene for a while. I know it was weird for me. I wasn't sure I liked it either. LOL. I hope you are feeling better. Even if it's just a eensy, weensy bit.


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Posted on Sun, Aug 05, 2007 21:15

This one was bad. I have been living in solitude relationship-wise for years and ventured back out recently. I've been rejected before years ago but this one was a stinger. I think partly because I have been sheltering myself for so long but also I really thought this was going to work out. So hearing others dealing with this makes me not feel so alone. lol


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Posted on Sun, Aug 05, 2007 19:59

Re: honeybiscuit write: Awww Stacy - I am sorry - I hate to hear that happened to you. You are such a catch too! Depending on the situation sometimes I date my way through to distract me and help remind me that there are lots of fish in the sea. Or if that is just too much a brief break from dating and just hanging out with friends and groups works well. Hanging out on the boards and asking those questions that pop up as a result and getting the support and feedback of the peanut gallery can be helpful too. Sugar Lady - yeah I have noticed that there are some wolves in sheep's clothing too. And that there's some pretty shameless trolling by a few. Burned and learned. Still smarts though.

God, it seems to be in the water lately. I've had my moment as well. It was a while back but still, the feelings still piss me off a little. A little too vulnerable after hubby died and not thinking very clearly, let's just say I was ripe for making poor decisions.


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Posted on Sun, Aug 05, 2007 17:06

Re: bitterman405 write: My advice to you is... drink heavily. And after that....EFFEM!! EFFEM right in the EEFIN POOPER!!! Tell him to go EFF HIMSELF!! THAT EFFIN EFF!!! And let him know that he EFFED UP! Or you could just have another cocktail

I vote for both, another cocktail and EFFEM...


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Posted on Sun, Aug 05, 2007 00:30

Awww Stacy - I am sorry - I hate to hear that happened to you. You are such a catch too! Depending on the situation sometimes I date my way through to distract me and help remind me that there are lots of fish in the sea. Or if that is just too much a brief break from dating and just hanging out with friends and groups works well. Hanging out on the boards and asking those questions that pop up as a result and getting the support and feedback of the peanut gallery can be helpful too. Sugar Lady - yeah I have noticed that there are some wolves in sheep's clothing too. And that there's some pretty shameless trolling by a few. Burned and learned. Still smarts though.


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Posted on Sat, Aug 04, 2007 22:08

Re: bitterman405 write: My advice to you is... drink heavily.

I went out with one of my best friends today and we got pedicures and then went out for margaritas. lol


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Posted on Sat, Aug 04, 2007 18:09

sorry to hear about your heart break...have been there myself....just lucky nobody gave me a water tower and high powered rifle for Christmas that year, but seriously, time allowed me to distance myself from the situation...hang in there and don't lose faith...many potholes in life's highway


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Posted on Sat, Aug 04, 2007 08:03

I send hugs out to everyone hurting right now. I know the feeling just like you. I cried a lot in between the bouts of anger and cussing. Lots and lots of cussing LOL. Blogging and friends helped me out of the fog, but don't come out until you are ready because it hurts worse the 2nd time around from the same pain. Everyone here knows you can make it past this and we are all here if you need us. *another hug* One for the road. *smile*

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Posted on Fri, Aug 03, 2007 19:59

Thanks everyone for your encouragement and wisdom. It still hurts and I still have utter sadness but I know it will pass someday. But it does help knowing others have been through it and understand.


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Posted on Thu, Aug 02, 2007 19:36

Guess we all understand Stacey so my heart goes out to you. You have to go thru the stages of anger, hurt, dull pain in order to heal and move on. Time is a healer but it doesn't make it easy. Indulge in yourself and try not to spend too much time alone. Take care..


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Posted on Thu, Aug 02, 2007 19:06

Re: Timothy5 write: Footnote** Wiydechild ... you should hire out your talents... very practical advice, and nicely put, too.!

LOL, many thanks.


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Posted on Thu, Aug 02, 2007 19:03

Re: staceynkansas write: Thanks for the encouragement, guys. Nisi32132, thanks for reminding me that I won't curl up and die. And Wyldechild, I like the thought of reinvesting in myself. Everyone goes through this and it is nice to be reminded of that. And I think it is time for a girls nite out. lol

Always remember the most important person is...YOU!!!


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