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bbwchina
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Posted on Fri, Jan 11, 2008 06:07

Thank you Blue, that was MY first thought exactly!!! I have evolved into the woman I am today and I am happy with ME! I won't say I wouldn't like to be society's VERSION of beautiful, but I feel that I am beautiful both inside and out; HOWEVER, I want a man to love me, ALL of me and to be PROUD to state to others that he finds me beautiful. I would be so hurt if I could only be told that I am beautiful behind closed doors!! And thank goodness there are MEN out there who have NO problem letting their peers know that he sees beauty in more than a stick figure!!! *LOL*


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Posted on Thu, Jan 10, 2008 16:58

I agree with both you and with Nisi. With one exception. You say you cannot speak your attraction for BBWs because of societal pressures of the stereotypical beauty and a fear of being judged for admiring a body type outside the norm. You, my friend, are perpetuating the stereotype that big is bad. And by not speaking out you allow your peers in your immediate vicinity to believe you feel as they do. And yet you wonder why BBWs dislike parts of their bodies? How can any BBW believe you are sincere when you tell her she is beautiful, when you won't tell the world she is beautiful? Food for thought...


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Posted on Thu, Jan 10, 2008 16:10

Hi Soundguy, Very nicely put with a great deal of thought. Society is reality and is very hard on one's self esteem. You have to love yourself before you can love someone else.


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Posted on Thu, Jan 10, 2008 05:22

Hi Soundguy, Yes, you are right in your assessment. We were all blasted by the societal "image" of a woman. This has changed over the decades, from the reubenesque look(SP?) to the twiggy look. However, the fact that a site like this, there are others, exists and is a success, for some, is a statement to our beauty. The movie/play hairspray, Queen Latifa, Nikki Blonski,( sorry if I got her last name wrong), They are a great testament to our moving out into the world. There is also a photographic book, done by Leonard Nimoy all full figured. Yes there is a long way to go and as you stated, each one of us has to take the responsibility to feel beautiful, act beautiful and be beautiful in our own right first and foremost. Then and only then will we be seen as the beautiful women that we are. I also agree that we tend to not believe a man when he says he loves us for who and what we are. He loves the frame and the picture ! The same goes for the BHM here, they are also subject to the same societal pressures as we are and they have feelings and doubts and insecurity issues as well. Just my 2.5 cents Natalie


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