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Posted on Mon, Jul 10, 2006 15:37

I have a question. Why is there a stigma if a thin / athletic man happens to be sexually attracted to a BBW ? AM I the only one who seems to notice this ? If I am having dinner out with a BBW, we get stares, and odd looks all evening. I just think it's wrong. Any opinion / comments / input would be welcome.....


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Posted on Mon, Jun 18, 2007 22:37

I whole-heartedly agree with the stigma attached with dating/loving a BBW. Most men feel that a skinny girl is the best match because she is thin. There are so many thin women out in this world that hate themselves. I for one love myself and my size-most people would kill to feel that way.

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Posted on Tue, May 22, 2007 17:20

Just like everything else in this world when it comes to the opinions of others it all boils down to confidence and panash with which you go through life. I have a hard time fathoming letting the ignorant unthinking masses pressure me or make decisions for me. But then I stepped off the main path a long time ago...

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Posted on Mon, May 21, 2007 23:43

I think a thin man with a BBW is still umcomfortable for some people. American society has trained us that if you are not the "norm" then you are less than. Meaning a man or woman of size should not be desired by the athlethic man orf woman. I believe that a person should be comfortable with who they are and the rest be damned. Hell you only live once. I have found that no matter what a mans physical attributes are it is the inside that truly counts. Like some of the ladies said before me, nobody wants a bone but a dog and even he wants some meat sometimes! You keep loving us!


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Posted on Mon, May 21, 2007 20:22

Ok, so kudos to the question you posed... but this blog doesn't change the fact that you're profile is suspect. If you can prove me wrong, I will humbly as you to accept my apologies. I never question when a good looking guy likes a BBW. Certainly enough criticism comes with social interaction... what spikes my dander is when someone comes onto these sites to prey on trusting (and more times than not) gullibile women. I don't begrudge you for being something you have yet to prove.


In your rocking-chair, by your window dreaming, shall you long, alone. In your rocking-chair, by your window, shall you dream such happiness as you may never feel. –Theodore Dreiser

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Posted on Sat, Aug 05, 2006 14:27

I think the problem is that the people have lost their own identity..they are brain washed by media. They expect from others to tell what is good what is bad, what is ugly and what is beauty. Have you ever seen a BBW model in TV? No..just skinny models. The people just think that being big is a malformation..it is out of normal. But I think the world would be very dull and boring without us....big people.


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Posted on Sun, Jul 30, 2006 11:28

Your point is very well stated, CrazyNCali. Thank you for your input. Please feel free to expand on your comments. I would enjoy hearing more of what you have to say. Ciao, QM


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Posted on Sun, Jul 30, 2006 09:39

Hey QM, You sparked a good discussion. It took me years to finally realize no diet or surgery would make me fit into what society thinks I should be. Our differences make us, us. Life would be boring if we were all the same. Size 2 or size 20, we need to be OK with who are, and not let the numbers on a scale dictate how we live. I wonder if many get the meaning behind your name :) And a Master of it? Hmmm...did you earn different belt colors like in Karate until you got to your current status? That would sure make one dating issue way easier, lol. Take care!


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Posted on Sat, Jul 29, 2006 13:46

Sounds like the gals here have their heads on straight! Did you ever stop to think that Maybe the two of you make quite a striking couple? When I go out in public - I look like a million bucks - dressed nice and put together. I get lots of stares and complements. If I was to pay attention to everyone's negative stuff I would never leave the house and have a life! Lord knows we only get one chance at it! If anyone knows any better please let me know :) If you are truly a BBW/BBM lover then you would not care what people think. Life is too short not to be happy. If you truly enjoy someone's company and find them attractive both outside and inside and it is two sided then you are the lucky one. You may never see those close minded people again of you give them power to make your decisions then you are the one who will lose out. They most likely will never know what their actions caused. This is not directed to anyone in specifically. I am posting this as my opinion. I am too new here to be specific LOL! Chrissy


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Posted on Wed, Jul 19, 2006 07:27

This subject makes me think of someone I dated who didn't think anything about what I looked like. I met his family, we worked at the same place and everyone knew we were dating, we did all the dating things and he didn't care nor did anyone else. We went out to dinner and other places like a normal couple. That's what we were. To be honest, I don't ever remember getting "the look" from anyone. Though we should have because the poor thing was 6'1 and maybe 150 lbs and I'm a larger size woman. He was the sweetest, most charming person I ever dated. We dated for years. We were just on different paths in life. I don't really see people give the "look" when a average size male is with a larger woman unless they are Juvenal boys but I do know, have met and talked to guys who are afraid of getting the look. The look doesn't kill. Our lives are not based on what others want or like. If you are with a person who thinks the world of you, who is good to you and you enjoy being with that person whether its at home, in a restaurant, at the park, at the movies, or where ever. Just be happy because there are some miserable average men with or dating a Miss USA look a-like who cheat, manipulate, and drain their bank accounts. They should be looking for a good woman not a arm accessory.


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Posted on Tue, Jul 18, 2006 20:29

i get it at work. if i notice a pretty girl who happens to have some nice curves.and she is not skinny. guys will give me the bizz. i just tell them big girls need loveing to :-). a lot of guys think that 10 pounds that some think is over weight is undesirable. but they dont get to be in the arms of a woman. maybe i just cant help to notice if she has a nice round curvey behind.after they notice i dont mind any comments from them. most turn to watch also.soooooooo girls if you have a nice round booty. shake for us guys who will be watching !!!!!!!!!


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Posted on Tue, Jul 18, 2006 20:27

The unpopular opinion here lol I think it is you who is imagining people are staring because you are the thin guy with the fat chic.The stigma is more on your mind,than the people surrounding you having dinner.


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Posted on Tue, Jul 18, 2006 13:26

curiousgagirl, First , thank you for the compliment on my user name. Having said that, I have to question your comments and your motives. You are certainly welcome to your opinions, and your welcome to freely express them in this forum. However, statements like " you deserve that consideration at least. " And, " determine if I want to spend part of my time in FL meeting up with you. " Seem petty, arrogant, and self indulgent on your part. You must be quite the insecure type, and you have my sympathies...You are more than welcome to start a blog of your own, where you will be free to blow your own horn to your hearts content. Should you choose to do so, please be assured that I shall be happy to post a comment or two... Perhaps, I may even quote you... For instance " when I'm down there and you're good, really really good...I might even post nice things about you here. " On second thought, I won't post a comment like that at all. You see, I am confident enough and feel strong enough about myself and my wants, needs, and desires, that I don't have to slander others to feel good about myself....... QM


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Posted on Mon, Jul 17, 2006 01:18

I could not agree with you any more on the stigma! OBVIOUSLY he wants to be with her! so get over yourself. Each person has their own tastes, why can't people accept that.


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Posted on Sun, Jul 16, 2006 16:56

please, dear lady, do come for a visit. I can promise you a time you will not soon forget. There is much to do here, if you have the right companion......


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Posted on Sun, Jul 16, 2006 16:55

I enjoyed reading your comments. You are welcome to have me " lean over the table and plant a juicy kiss on your lips " anytime.


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Posted on Sun, Jul 16, 2006 16:54

Thank you for your kind input. I would enjoy chatting sometime...


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Posted on Sun, Jul 16, 2006 16:53

Thank you kindly for your warm remarks. If you ever find yourself in Ft. Lauderdale, Please, stop by and say hello. all the best, QM


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Posted on Sun, Jul 16, 2006 12:56

My guess is that companionship means participating together in activities of same interest, not just sex. If you weigh 280 lbs, mountain climbing,er... hiking, tennis, running, ...aerobic activites, even some kinds of dancing are not easy.


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Posted on Wed, Jul 12, 2006 15:42

I think there is a stigma anytime a more fit, slim person is romantically attached to a "person of size". I think it is because society equates slim, fit, and athletic with being beautiful and the ideal body type. Society thinks that a person who is slim, fit and athletic may be that way because they value physical activity and are conscious of what they eat and are committed to working out. Society equates being overweight with being lazy, and not caring about nutrition and working out. Because a person who is fit and a person who is fat seemingly have opposite philosophies about their perspective bodies, society does not think that they belong together. When people see a fit person with a fat person they are being exposed to something that opposes what they have been taught: Fit is beautiful. Fat is ugly. No one is attracted to what is ugly therefore, fit and fat do not belong together. Taking it a step further, people who observe a fit/fat couple may even think that the fit one is only with the fat one because of money: the fat one has a lot of it and buys the fit one what they want; the fat one is taking care of the fit one; and on and on and on. For those who don't know any better, that is what is going on. They cannot believe that someone who is fit would be remotely attracted to anyone who is not. In other words, the observers cannot believe what they are saying and cannot help but stare. I believe that the same kind of thinking applies when a very good looking person is romantically attached to a plain person; when a much younger person is with an older person; and when a couple is not of the same race. Since I am in two of the categories--my sweetie and I are on the same scale of hotness. LOL!!--I am used to the stares. Sometimes I even return the stare with a smile or nod. Not often, but every once in a while. One thing that I refuse to do though, is to let the stares hinder me from having a good time and hinder me from being myself when my honey and I are together.


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