Hi to you all in blogland, just wanted to say you are a great bunch of people and thanks for making me feel welcome. xxx
OK so I was reading a blog here about dishonesty and that made me wonder just what do you consider as cheating?
Clinton said "I did not have sexual relations with that women". Since when is putting your engorged member into someones mouth, not having sex????
I have encountered married guys here who will tell that as they are only talking about it so its not cheati more...
Hi to you all in blogland, just wanted to say you are a great bunch of people and thanks for making me feel welcome. xxx
OK so I was reading a blog here about dishonesty and that made me wonder just what do you consider as cheating?
Clinton said "I did not have sexual relations with that women". Since when is putting your engorged member into someones mouth, not having sex????
I have encountered married guys here who will tell that as they are only talking about it so its not cheating.
So what is cheating? Is it full penetration, or can just kissing and flirting be considered as cheating?
What about some cyber or phone action, is that cheating or just talking? What if your just thinking about sleeping with someone else are you then cheating also?
Would love to know what you call cheating? less...
Quoting: Originally posted by VegasAngel76 I had a man hot for me back in the day and he had a girlfriend. A long term live in girlfriend. Anyway, I felt that was cheating and was not interested in being his accomplace.
In time he wore me down and I gave in to his persistant need to indulge. He was very qood.
Looks like I pulled a Clinton !
Oh, well I'll just burn in hell with the rest of the fun people ! Aries..save me a seat !
I had a man hot for me back in the day and he had a girlfriend. A long term live in girlfriend. Anyway, he begged me and begged me to lick the kitty. I felt that was cheating and was not interested in being his accomplace.
In time he wore me down and I gave in to his persistant need to indulge. He was very qood.
Looks like I pulled a Clinton !
Oh, well I'll just burn in hell with the rest of the fun people ! Aries..save me a seat !
Quoting: Originally posted by AmuseMe Cheating is easily defined:
If you are hiding ANY ACTION with another person from your partner, you are cheating them in your relationship. Your not giving your partner what they've paid for. Your re...
Yes right sex is always sex, lol you do have a way of wording things though. he he xx more...
Quoting: Originally posted by AmuseMe Cheating is easily defined:
If you are hiding ANY ACTION with another person from your partner, you are cheating them in your relationship. Your not giving your partner what they've paid for. Your renig'n on the deal.
As for the real question: When is sex not sex - sex is always sex, else not call it sex. Right? A cigar in a muff is still sex for someone. Giver, receiver, who cares?
There is you and your boss. He delegates, you work. The boss is still working, right? Same principle applies. He may not have been receiving sex, but he damn sure was delegating it!
Yes right sex is always sex, lol you do have a way of wording things though. he he xx less...
Quoting: Originally posted by butterbll There is Emotional cheating and then there is physical cheating..
In a "old fashioned "definition of cheating I feel is doing some thing with someone else other than your committed partner...
So true Butter, there is emotional cheating as well as physical and these should be things shared with your partner not shared around. more...
Quoting: Originally posted by butterbll There is Emotional cheating and then there is physical cheating..
In a "old fashioned "definition of cheating I feel is doing some thing with someone else other than your committed partner.Example If you are having trouble with your wife and you go to another woman for emotional support instead of talking out the problem with your wife. Then there is Physical cheating where you are having a relationship where you hands(or any Other parts of your body) are touching another person besides your partner. with the sole and express desire to achieve sexual release.
So true Butter, there is emotional cheating as well as physical and these should be things shared with your partner not shared around. less...
If you are hiding ANY ACTION with another person from your partner, you are cheating them in your relationship. Your not giving your partner what they've paid for. Your renig'n on the deal.
As for the real question: When is sex not sex - sex is always sex, else not call it sex. Right? A cigar in a muff is still sex for someone. Giver, receiver, who cares?
There is you and your boss. He delegates, you work. The boss is still working, right? Same principle a more...
Cheating is easily defined:
If you are hiding ANY ACTION with another person from your partner, you are cheating them in your relationship. Your not giving your partner what they've paid for. Your renig'n on the deal.
As for the real question: When is sex not sex - sex is always sex, else not call it sex. Right? A cigar in a muff is still sex for someone. Giver, receiver, who cares?
There is you and your boss. He delegates, you work. The boss is still working, right? Same principle applies. He may not have been receiving sex, but he damn sure was delegating it! less...
There is Emotional cheating and then there is physical cheating..
In a "old fashioned "definition of cheating I feel is doing some thing with someone else other than your committed partner.Example If you are having trouble with your wife and you go to another woman for emotional support instead of talking out the problem with your wife. Then there is Physical cheating where you are having a relationship where you hands(or any Other parts of your body) are touching another person b more...
There is Emotional cheating and then there is physical cheating..
In a "old fashioned "definition of cheating I feel is doing some thing with someone else other than your committed partner.Example If you are having trouble with your wife and you go to another woman for emotional support instead of talking out the problem with your wife. Then there is Physical cheating where you are having a relationship where you hands(or any Other parts of your body) are touching another person besides your partner. with the sole and express desire to achieve sexual release. less...
What YOU consider to be/not to be 'cheating',is for YOU to decide!
Cheating,as i see it,is doing something/anything with a person that you SHOULD be doing with YOUR partner! WHY? You got something you want to tell me?xxx
Mmmmmm well actually I have lots to tell YOU, but its not for little ears to hear.
Oh sorry, I forgot you are BIG ears aren't you?? he he xxxx
But lets say hypothetically that You dont think its cheating to have a sex chat with someone else online, and you have one.
Now YOUR partner ...
What YOU consider to be/not to be 'cheating',is for YOU to decide!
Cheating,as i see it,is doing something/anything with a person that you SHOULD be doing with YOUR partner! WHY? You got something you want to tell me?xxx more...
Quoting: Originally posted by ozredhead62
Well Aries I agree with you (this time). he he xx
But lets say hypothetically that You dont think its cheating to have a sex chat with someone else online, and you have one.
Now YOUR partner (and I dont mean your nsa's) does consider this to be cheating.
So you dont feel you have done anything wrong and may not even feel that you need to tell her.
But did YOU cheat?
So you are right here, oh did I say that??? lol
What I really wanted to know is at what point/level do YOU consider it to be cheating?
What YOU consider to be/not to be 'cheating',is for YOU to decide!
Cheating,as i see it,is doing something/anything with a person that you SHOULD be doing with YOUR partner! WHY? You got something you want to tell me?xxx less...
I pretty much think anything you have to hide from your partner is cheating in some way, shape or form. If it's anything physical it's obviously cheating and if you are hiding that you are talking to someone or saying things to this person(like cyber sex or feelings for them) you wouldn't want your partner to know thats cheating in a way too.
Some great comments here thanks for the input.
I think like Truefriendinme mentioned I guess it is important to make sure that you make it quite clear right at the start what your boundaries are.
Quoting: Originally posted by quietnlonely I think cheating is basically all of the above:
flirting - because if the person you're flirting with take you up on it, are you going to turn them down...I think not!
phone sex - the person on th...
Well said quietnlonely.
I agree to me they are all cheating too. more...
Quoting: Originally posted by quietnlonely I think cheating is basically all of the above:
flirting - because if the person you're flirting with take you up on it, are you going to turn them down...I think not!
phone sex - the person on the other end makes you have an orgasm, other than your significant other...I think so!
cyber sex - same as phone sex
fondling - if you touch that person on their genital area, things will happen...whether it's just foreplay or grade school grinding...I think so!
kissing - if your tongue goes in that person mouth and vice versa...eventually things will heat up and something will happen.
paying for a quickie - if you pay for it and have absolutely no feelings for the obvious she-he drag queen or the crack head prostitute...it's still a form of sex.
Well said quietnlonely.
I agree to me they are all cheating too. less...
While I was married - cheating meant one thing, then separated and then divorced - it seemed to be another and now that I have a steady boyfriend - the whole definition gets tangled so I understand the questions. I think flirting is fine and fun but once your thought process starts thinking about engaging in person for sexual play - then that's cheating. Along the same lines - if you can't/won't discuss it with your partner - then you have something to hide. But then we all have different kinds more...
While I was married - cheating meant one thing, then separated and then divorced - it seemed to be another and now that I have a steady boyfriend - the whole definition gets tangled so I understand the questions. I think flirting is fine and fun but once your thought process starts thinking about engaging in person for sexual play - then that's cheating. Along the same lines - if you can't/won't discuss it with your partner - then you have something to hide. But then we all have different kinds of cheating and relationships. Different emotional and physical needs/wants. Guess you have to define those with your partner and not guess and decide that your own acceptable morals rule. For myself - flirting is fine when we both know about it and even hanging out with that person is fine if I am welcome to be there but I have to admit it is much harder when that flirting is with an ex and there has been a relationship. It's especially harder with long distance relationships - takes a lot of trust - :) less...
I think cheating is basically all of the above:
flirting - because if the person you're flirting with take you up on it, are you going to turn them down...I think not!
phone sex - the person on the other end makes you have an orgasm, other than your significant other...I think so!
cyber sex - same as phone sex
fondling - if you touch that person on their genital area, things will happen...whether it's just foreplay or grade school grinding...I think so!
kissing - if your tongue goes in that more...
I think cheating is basically all of the above:
flirting - because if the person you're flirting with take you up on it, are you going to turn them down...I think not!
phone sex - the person on the other end makes you have an orgasm, other than your significant other...I think so!
cyber sex - same as phone sex
fondling - if you touch that person on their genital area, things will happen...whether it's just foreplay or grade school grinding...I think so!
kissing - if your tongue goes in that person mouth and vice versa...eventually things will heat up and something will happen.
paying for a quickie - if you pay for it and have absolutely no feelings for the obvious she-he drag queen or the crack head prostitute...it's still a form of sex. less...
Yes I did!!! LOL
So say hypothetically that I am your partner, girl friend whatever you want to call it.
And I'm at a party and I kiss another man. Is this cheating to you?
I'm not going on a date with him, just making out???
Come on this is not that hard to answer??? he he xxx
I think a lot of things can happen before the I'm going to have a date stage.
And I have to ask with internet dating, and LDR when does the date part happen???
Well,if things got as far as a 'Date' with another person,then cheating IS on their minds...it HAS to be,why else would they want to go on a 'date'? Going for a coffee with a friend,is different,i wouldn't have a problem with that. But there would be HELL to pay,if my partner said... " I'm off out on a date." Oh NO NO NO!
I think a lot of things can happen before the I'm going to have a date stage.
And I have to ask with internet d more...
Quoting: Originally posted by ariesram
Well,if things got as far as a 'Date' with another person,then cheating IS on their minds...it HAS to be,why else would they want to go on a 'date'? Going for a coffee with a friend,is different,i wouldn't have a problem with that. But there would be HELL to pay,if my partner said... " I'm off out on a date." Oh NO NO NO!
I think a lot of things can happen before the I'm going to have a date stage.
And I have to ask with internet dating, and LDR when does the date part happen??? less...
Quoting: Originally posted by prettygirl2006 I believe that you are not cheating until you do the deed, or any other way. I think that if you are in a relationship, flirting online or in person is disrespectful but not cheating. I want to believe that if I was in a relationship I could forgive or could be forgiven for meeting up with someone (like a date.) but only if that is as far as things went. Does that make any sense???
Well,if things got as far as a 'Date' with another perso more...
Quoting: Originally posted by prettygirl2006 I believe that you are not cheating until you do the deed, or any other way. I think that if you are in a relationship, flirting online or in person is disrespectful but not cheating. I want to believe that if I was in a relationship I could forgive or could be forgiven for meeting up with someone (like a date.) but only if that is as far as things went. Does that make any sense???
Well,if things got as far as a 'Date' with another person,then cheating IS on their minds...it HAS to be,why else would they want to go on a 'date'? Going for a coffee with a friend,is different,i wouldn't have a problem with that. But there would be HELL to pay,if my partner said... " I'm off out on a date." Oh NO NO NO! less...
