Every now and again I get someone that has initiated a chat with me on here or on messenger.
Well the chat starts of with how are you which I answer and ask them the same back, so far so good. hey?
Well this is where the conversation then stops, from the other side. Now i wait for the the next message and nothing comes. OK, maybe they are just nervous or something? So I then ask them another question.
Well after doing this about 5 times and only having them respond to my questions (usually only one liners) and not say anything else, I wonder what the hell I'm doing here? lol
They asked to speak to ME, yet I am the one that is making the conversation.
It is not THAT HARD to make conversation!
Just ask questions and share a bit about yourself so the other person finds it easier to ask a questions back!!!!
Is this rocket science? LOL
(Now want to say here that this is just some people. Most are pretty good and I enjoy their chats very much)xxx
You really flatter someone when you want to know abut them and the only way to do this is to ask questions.
Really did wonder why did they call me? If they called me to have me ask about them...
Well as the saying goes....dont call me I'll call you.
Does any body else have this happen to them? How do you handle it?
Am I being too harsh here? :)
Every now and again I get someone that has initiated a chat with me on here or on messenger.
Well the chat starts of with how are you which I answer and ask them the same back, so far so good. hey?
Well this is where the conversation then stops, from the other side. Now i wait for the the next message and nothing comes. OK, maybe they are just nervous or something? So I then ask them another question.
Well after doing this about 5 times and only having them respond to my questions (usually only one liners) and not say anything else, I wonder what the hell I'm doing here? lol
They asked to speak to ME, yet I am the one that is making the conversation.
It is not THAT HARD to make conversation!
Just ask questions and share a bit about yourself so the other person finds it easier to ask a questions back!!!!
Is this rocket science? LOL
(Now want to say here that this is just some people. Most are pretty good and I enjoy their chats very much)xxx
You really flatter someone when you want to know abut them and the only way to do this is to ask questions.
Really did wonder why did they call me? If they called me to have me ask about them...
Well as the saying goes....dont call me I'll call you.
Does any body else have this happen to them? How do you handle it?
Quoting: Originally posted by Qadesh Oz at least you are getting noticed! I on the other hand am not! Granted I am no longer a paying member, but do spend some time on here reading the blogs and joining in every now and then. Who knows what goes on in the mind of others? I would simply ask them why do you want to chat and then have nothing to say? MMM maybe that is why I am not chosen for chats! lol Chin up Oz it seems that you have your share of the lion's den. "wink" Qadesh
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Quoting Qadesh:
Oz at least you are getting noticed! I on the other hand am not! Granted I am no longer a paying member, but do spend some time on here reading the blogs and joining in every now and then. Who knows what goes on in the mind of others? I would simply ask them why do you want to chat and then have nothing to say? MMM maybe that is why I am not chosen for chats! lol Chin up Oz it seems that you have your share of the lion's den. "wink" Qadesh
Quoting: Originally posted by RWGROOT60 The blogs give a glimpse on how people think. It allows me to see who is compassionate and gentle. Who has opinions and shares them. I like chatting in MSN or on here after that glimpse. We don't need to agree with each other, but respect each others opinions.
Oz you are in a select group
Honored to be in that group :) xxx
Quoting RWGROOT60:
The blogs give a glimpse on how people think. It allows me to see who is compassionate and gentle. Who has opinions and shares them. I like chatting in MSN or on here after that glimpse. We don't need to agree with each other, but respect each others opinions.
smin whatever that is you are drinking you either need a whole lot more or a whole lot less - I can't decide which.
Oz is gorgeous - but that isn't really the point. We put photos up for people to get an idea what we look like and who we are. Some are more visually stimulated than others. Oz, like myself, has a face pic up. It's not there to be judged, this isn't a beauty contest for heavens sake, it's simply to say this is who I am.
Your very sharp, rude and totally unnecessary comment actually says a lot more about you than any photo ever could!
Thank you islandgal xxx
Quoting islandgal64:
smin whatever that is you are drinking you either need a whole lot more or a whole lot less - I can't decide which.
Oz is gorgeous - but that isn't really the point. We put photos up for people to get an idea what we look like and who we are. Some are more visually stimulated than others. Oz, like myself, has a face pic up. It's not there to be judged, this isn't a beauty contest for heavens sake, it's simply to say this is who I am.
Your very sharp, rude and totally unnecessary comment actually says a lot more about you than any photo ever could!
Quoting: Originally posted by simplicity7777 smin, i dont know you but please go look in a mirror i would be scared if i looked like that. Actually dont look, glass can be dangerous!!!
You must be talking about the mirror in "Snow White"? lol xxx
Quoting simplicity7777:
smin, i dont know you but please go look in a mirror i would be scared if i looked like that. Actually dont look, glass can be dangerous!!!
You must be talking about the mirror in "Snow White"? lol xxx
Quoting: Originally posted by bigtom77 I know what you are saying Oz. I am going through that with someone right now. She knows I am only looking for friends right now but she did email me first. when I answered her I got a short reply to that one but I wrote another anyway. This went on for a few emails with her never saying more then the min. of response so I thought she wasn't interested anymore. I kelp sending her the chain mails that I sent to everyone else on my list then one day she replied to one of these to ask why I hadn't sent her another email. It is hard to keep up a conversation if you are the only one conversing.
LOL Tom, see you just cant win with us women sometimes. :)
I have had to tell a couple that I did not feel we clicked or had things in common.
How do you tell someone that you think that they cant communicate??
I couldn't, what did you do?
Quoting bigtom77:
I know what you are saying Oz. I am going through that with someone right now. She knows I am only looking for friends right now but she did email me first. when I answered her I got a short reply to that one but I wrote another anyway. This went on for a few emails with her never saying more then the min. of response so I thought she wasn't interested anymore. I kelp sending her the chain mails that I sent to everyone else on my list then one day she replied to one of these to ask why I hadn't sent her another email. It is hard to keep up a conversation if you are the only one conversing.
LOL Tom, see you just cant win with us women sometimes. :)
I have had to tell a couple that I did not feel we clicked or had things in common.
How do you tell someone that you think that they cant communicate??
Quoting: Originally posted by deva115 I have had a few of these incidents but what makes me mad are the guys who expect you to message them every time you are online. I do a lot of work from home and no matter how many times I tell them when I will be online to talk to them, they expect me to drop everything the minute I log on and devote hours to talking to them. These guys are usually the one liners and it is like pulling teeth very painful and very slow. Sometimes I just want to delete Messenger from my system. Any body else have this problem.
Yes I do understand your problem, though I am not at work, I too sometimes have other things that I want to do... like blog. lol
I put myself on as "busy" or "away" and if they try to message me I just ignore them, till I am ready to speak with them.
I guess its like the phone ringing, some people think that you have to answer it just because it rings.....you dont, let the answer machine get it till you are ready.
Good luck xxx
Quoting deva115:
I have had a few of these incidents but what makes me mad are the guys who expect you to message them every time you are online. I do a lot of work from home and no matter how many times I tell them when I will be online to talk to them, they expect me to drop everything the minute I log on and devote hours to talking to them. These guys are usually the one liners and it is like pulling teeth very painful and very slow. Sometimes I just want to delete Messenger from my system. Any body else have this problem.
Yes I do understand your problem, though I am not at work, I too sometimes have other things that I want to do... like blog. lol
I put myself on as "busy" or "away" and if they try to message me I just ignore them, till I am ready to speak with them.
I guess its like the phone ringing, some people think that you have to answer it just because it rings.....you dont, let the answer machine get it till you are ready.
Quoting: Originally posted by Katwoman1968 This has happened to me countless times as well. Sometimes it is a connectivity problem with the internet that I have noticed, as this also happens on my end.
Alot of time cuz I won't talk on cam or about S..X they lose interest. At least i can weed those guys out.
OH Katwoman, I wish they were talking about sex at least they would be having what I call a conversation. LOL
Quoting Katwoman1968:
This has happened to me countless times as well. Sometimes it is a connectivity problem with the internet that I have noticed, as this also happens on my end.
Alot of time cuz I won't talk on cam or about S..X they lose interest. At least i can weed those guys out.
OH Katwoman, I wish they were talking about sex at least they would be having what I call a conversation. LOL
Quoting: Originally posted by smin2u i literally get scared when i see you pic in my face way up close and personal. I dont know ya but there it is....eeeekkk.
Smin2u
You have a right to hold the people you meet to a high standard. I know there are many men who treat the people they meet as sex toys and discard them
That is very disrespectful.
But your post on here is also very disrespectful.
You reap what you sow
I have my faults, but I have never, nor will I ever stoop to your level of slammin someone you admit you don't know
RG
Quoting smin2u:
i literally get scared when i see you pic in my face way up close and personal. I dont know ya but there it is....eeeekkk.
Smin2u
You have a right to hold the people you meet to a high standard. I know there are many men who treat the people they meet as sex toys and discard them
That is very disrespectful.
But your post on here is also very disrespectful.
You reap what you sow
I have my faults, but I have never, nor will I ever stoop to your level of slammin someone you admit you don't know
The blogs give a glimpse on how people think. It allows me to see who is compassionate and gentle. Who has opinions and shares them. I like chatting in MSN or on here after that glimpse. We don't need to agree with each other, but respect each others opinions.
Oz you are in a select group
The blogs give a glimpse on how people think. It allows me to see who is compassionate and gentle. Who has opinions and shares them.
I like chatting in MSN or on here after that glimpse. We don't need to agree with each other, but respect each others opinions.
Quoting: Originally posted by smin2u i literally get scared when i see you pic in my face way up close and personal. I dont know ya but there it is....eeeekkk.
smin whatever that is you are drinking you either need a whole lot more or a whole lot less - I can't decide which.
Oz is gorgeous - but that isn't really the point. We put photos up for people to get an idea what we look like and who we are. Some are more visually stimulated than others. Oz, like myself, has a face pic up. It's not there to be judged, this isn't a beauty contest for heavens sake, it's simply to say this is who I am.
Your very sharp, rude and totally unnecessary comment actually says a lot more about you than any photo ever could!
Quoting smin2u:
i literally get scared when i see you pic in my face way up close and personal. I dont know ya but there it is....eeeekkk.
smin whatever that is you are drinking you either need a whole lot more or a whole lot less - I can't decide which.
Oz is gorgeous - but that isn't really the point. We put photos up for people to get an idea what we look like and who we are. Some are more visually stimulated than others. Oz, like myself, has a face pic up. It's not there to be judged, this isn't a beauty contest for heavens sake, it's simply to say this is who I am.
Your very sharp, rude and totally unnecessary comment actually says a lot more about you than any photo ever could!
I know what you are saying Oz. I am going through that with someone right now. She knows I am only looking for friends right now but she did email me first. when I answered her I got a short reply to that one but I wrote another anyway. This went on for a few emails with her never saying more then the min. of response so I thought she wasn't interested anymore. I kelp sending her the chain mails that I sent to everyone else on my list then one day she replied to one of these to ask why I hadn't sent her another email. It is hard to keep up a conversation if you are the only one conversing.
I know what you are saying Oz. I am going through that with someone right now. She knows I am only looking for friends right now but she did email me first. when I answered her I got a short reply to that one but I wrote another anyway. This went on for a few emails with her never saying more then the min. of response so I thought she wasn't interested anymore. I kelp sending her the chain mails that I sent to everyone else on my list then one day she replied to one of these to ask why I hadn't sent her another email. It is hard to keep up a conversation if you are the only one conversing.
Quoting: Originally posted by smoosh You're not being too harsh at all. I have had the same thing happen and if I'm not being inviting enough (naughty banter) then end of conversation - they initiate but really expect sexual banter. Some at least are obvious and ask if you want to play and I say no thanks - good luck cause of course some do want to talk playtime.
Thanks Smoosh, I did wonder for a moment, but really just getting so tired of it.
Now I dont even get this far with them, I mean there is no conversation going on for it to even get to this point of sexual banter. lol
It is just me asking them questions in an attempt to try and make conversation and waiting for them to join in. ARG
The only question they would have asked me is how was I. Nothing else, NOTHING.
Now despite what people here may think because of the blogs that I have posted, I dont and wont have a discussion about sexual things unless I have gotten to know the person first, and feel there is some long term potential there.
So the guys I am talking about here have no hope of getting any where near that subject at all.
Gee I wish they would ask then I know I have good reason to hang up on them. lol
Quoting smoosh:
You're not being too harsh at all. I have had the same thing happen and if I'm not being inviting enough (naughty banter) then end of conversation - they initiate but really expect sexual banter. Some at least are obvious and ask if you want to play and I say no thanks - good luck cause of course some do want to talk playtime.
Thanks Smoosh, I did wonder for a moment, but really just getting so tired of it.
Now I dont even get this far with them, I mean there is no conversation going on for it to even get to this point of sexual banter. lol
It is just me asking them questions in an attempt to try and make conversation and waiting for them to join in. ARG
The only question they would have asked me is how was I. Nothing else, NOTHING.
Now despite what people here may think because of the blogs that I have posted, I dont and wont have a discussion about sexual things unless I have gotten to know the person first, and feel there is some long term potential there.
So the guys I am talking about here have no hope of getting any where near that subject at all.
Gee I wish they would ask then I know I have good reason to hang up on them. lol
Quoting: Originally posted by Qadesh Oz at least you are getting noticed! I on the other hand am not! Granted I am no longer a paying member, but do spend some time on here reading the blogs and joining in every now and then. Who knows what goes on in the mind of others? I would simply ask them why do you want to chat and then have nothing to say? MMM maybe that is why I am not chosen for chats! lol Chin up Oz it seems that you have your share of the lion's den. "wink" Qadesh
Well Qadesh how can any body miss me here? I am a bit in your face am I not? LOL
I dont think being a paying member has anything to do with it, but it may have to do with the appearance I give that this Lion does not bite? :)
Also really think that so many people read the blogs and I am so all over them, that some feel they know me already.
I'm not complaining about my share of the "lions den" as you say, but if they going to disturb this puddy cat, you had better make it worth the while, or I might just have to bring out the claws. LOL
Come on Qadesh there is room for 2 lions in this den. xx
Quoting Qadesh:
Oz at least you are getting noticed! I on the other hand am not! Granted I am no longer a paying member, but do spend some time on here reading the blogs and joining in every now and then. Who knows what goes on in the mind of others? I would simply ask them why do you want to chat and then have nothing to say? MMM maybe that is why I am not chosen for chats! lol Chin up Oz it seems that you have your share of the lion's den. "wink" Qadesh
Well Qadesh how can any body miss me here? I am a bit in your face am I not? LOL
I dont think being a paying member has anything to do with it, but it may have to do with the appearance I give that this Lion does not bite? :)
Also really think that so many people read the blogs and I am so all over them, that some feel they know me already.
I'm not complaining about my share of the "lions den" as you say, but if they going to disturb this puddy cat, you had better make it worth the while, or I might just have to bring out the claws. LOL
Come on Qadesh there is room for 2 lions in this den. xx
I have had a few of these incidents but what makes me mad are the guys who expect you to message them every time you are online. I do a lot of work from home and no matter how many times I tell them when I will be online to talk to them, they expect me to drop everything the minute I log on and devote hours to talking to them. These guys are usually the one liners and it is like pulling teeth very painful and very slow. Sometimes I just want to delete Messenger from my system. Any body else have this problem.
I have had a few of these incidents but what makes me mad are the guys who expect you to message them every time you are online. I do a lot of work from home and no matter how many times I tell them when I will be online to talk to them, they expect me to drop everything the minute I log on and devote hours to talking to them. These guys are usually the one liners and it is like pulling teeth very painful and very slow. Sometimes I just want to delete Messenger from my system. Any body else have this problem.
Quoting: Originally posted by islandgal64 Oz, I know EXACTLY what you mean - I've had lots of one sided conversations online; it makes you wonder why they hit on you in the first place if they have nothing to say!
I generally come to one of the following conclusions... - they quickly realise I'm not going to talk dirty or cam with them and lose interest - they can't cope with someone responding in real words with proper English and assume I'm a snob because I don't use street talk or text abbreviations (and they are possibly right, lol) - they have contacted several women at the same and are unable to continue with multiple converations - they realise there is probably very little common ground to talk about so just vanish rather than having the manners/balls to say "nice chatting but I don't think this is going to go anywhere" - They are so spoilt and self absorbed it wouldn't occur to them to show any interest in anyone else unless s*x is on the agenda - They are not terribly bright so it's hardly a great loss
Of course there's the occasional instance where they lose the connection but obviously on a chat programme as sophisticated as LF that's a real rarity lol
LOL Islandgal, think we may have been talking to some of the same guys.
Now your not knocking our wonderful piece of technology here are you? he he
Quoting islandgal64:
Oz, I know EXACTLY what you mean - I've had lots of one sided conversations online; it makes you wonder why they hit on you in the first place if they have nothing to say!
I generally come to one of the following conclusions... - they quickly realise I'm not going to talk dirty or cam with them and lose interest - they can't cope with someone responding in real words with proper English and assume I'm a snob because I don't use street talk or text abbreviations (and they are possibly right, lol) - they have contacted several women at the same and are unable to continue with multiple converations - they realise there is probably very little common ground to talk about so just vanish rather than having the manners/balls to say "nice chatting but I don't think this is going to go anywhere" - They are so spoilt and self absorbed it wouldn't occur to them to show any interest in anyone else unless s*x is on the agenda - They are not terribly bright so it's hardly a great loss
Of course there's the occasional instance where they lose the connection but obviously on a chat programme as sophisticated as LF that's a real rarity lol
LOL Islandgal, think we may have been talking to some of the same guys.
Now your not knocking our wonderful piece of technology here are you? he he
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