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Posted on Sat, Jun 05, 2010 16:33

Many of you have had the situation where you meet a man or woman, its all going well but they are just too full on emotionally with where the relationship is at that time. I have a male friend that fell head over heel in love with a woman and did everything to please her. His behaviour was quite out of character, wanting to be with her all the time, doing things for her and telling her he loved her. This was only a couple of months into seeing each other. This seems to have put her off and she now wants a "break". So what are your thoughts of men or women that are like this? Have you had someone that you consider needy, emotionally smothering? Does it excite you, turn you off, scare you? When is the right time to tell someone you love them?


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Posted on Sat, Jun 19, 2010 18:19

Quoting phatgurl71

I think too much of a good thing is just that, too much. While it is nice to hear I love you and occasionally be smothered with love and attention, nobody wants to have someone else up their backside 24/7. Too early in the relationship declarations of I love you signal to me emotionally needy and almost co-dependent type personality, major turn offs & red flags of what's to come. NOT ATTRACTIVE! I think when you feel it is right to tell someone you love them, you should say it. But, as well all know mature, adult love and infatuation are two different things. Can't put a time frame on love and when it's there, the two people feel it. Last relationship I broke off because he became impossible. When we were together he was up and down all night long, snooping into my email/mail/cell phone, trying to isolate me from friends and family. Would get angry and spy on me when I was on my laptop or talking on cell phone, would b%^%^&* at me because he thought I worked too much..and the list goes on and on. The last straw for me was when he began to make me second guess the place I lived in and my home. It was always better at HIS house 60 miles away and bad luck always happened in "Good old Illinois"....I can't tell you how much I wanted to smack him silly when he said that..used to tick me off so bad. Next time, I am not going to rush into anything and I am taking my time...life is meant to be lived and savored, not rushed and frenzied.


Thanks for yiour comment Phatgurl, do like the way you phrase things :) Yes totally agree with you, this sort of behaviour is so unattractive both in females and males and makes me think "stalker" or something. The relationship you had sounded controling though I guess that is where this sort of behaviour goes to, they get so scared of losing you that it turns into control issues to keep you. Guess the thing here is to be able to see and know the difference between attention and flattering attention and something that is no longer balanced. Glad you have moved on from this and hope you find that a balanced loving relationship that you deserve.


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Posted on Mon, Jun 14, 2010 19:21

I think too much of a good thing is just that, too much. While it is nice to hear I love you and occasionally be smothered with love and attention, nobody wants to have someone else up their backside 24/7. Too early in the relationship declarations of I love you signal to me emotionally needy and almost co-dependent type personality, major turn offs & red flags of what's to come. NOT ATTRACTIVE! I think when you feel it is right to tell someone you love them, you should say it. But, as well all know mature, adult love and infatuation are two different things. Can't put a time frame on love and when it's there, the two people feel it. Last relationship I broke off because he became impossible. When we were together he was up and down all night long, snooping into my email/mail/cell phone, trying to isolate me from friends and family. Would get angry and spy on me when I was on my laptop or talking on cell phone, would b%^%^&* at me because he thought I worked too much..and the list goes on and on. The last straw for me was when he began to make me second guess the place I lived in and my home. It was always better at HIS house 60 miles away and bad luck always happened in "Good old Illinois"....I can't tell you how much I wanted to smack him silly when he said that..used to tick me off so bad. Next time, I am not going to rush into anything and I am taking my time...life is meant to be lived and savored, not rushed and frenzied.


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