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Bedroom Golf 155 Views 04/09/10
Bedroom golf... Here are the rules of the game. 1. Each player should furnish his own equipment for play - normally one club and two balls. 2. Play on the course should be approved by the owner of the hole. 3. Unlike outdoor golf, the object is to get the club in the hole and keep the balls out. 4. For most effective play, the club should have a firm shaft. Course owners are permitted to check the shaft stiffness before play. 5. Course owners reserve the right to restrict club length to avoid damage to the hole 6. The object of the game is to take as many strokes as necessary until the course owner is satisfied that play is complete. Failure to do so may result in being denied permission to play the course again. 7. It is considered bad form to begin playing the hole immediately upon arrival at the course. The experienced player will normally take time to admire the entire course with special attention to the well formed bunkers. 8. Players are cautioned not to mention other courses they have played, or are currently playing, to the owner of the course being played. Upset course owners have been known to damage players equipment for this reason. 9. Players are encouraged to bring proper rain gear for their own protection. 10. Players should assure themselves that their match has been properly scheduled, particularly when a new course is being played for the first time. Previous players have been known to become irate if they discover someone else playing on what they considered to be a private course. 11. Players should not assume that a course is in shape for play at all times. Some players may be embarrassed if they find the course to be temporarily under repair. Players are advised to be extremely tactful in this situation. More advanced players will find alternative means of play when this is the case. 12. The course owner is responsible for manicuring and pruning any bush around the hole to allow for improved viewing of, alignment with, and approach to the hole. 13. Players are advised to obtain the course owners permission before attempting to play the back nine. 14. Slow play is encouraged. However players should be prepared to proceed at a quicker pace, at least temporarily at the course owners request. 15. It is considered outstanding performance, time permitting, to play the same hole several times in one match.
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The Rules of Dating? 248 Views 03/01/11
Hi to you all in blog land, its been a while and I have missed you all. Things certainly seem quite on here these days. I have been reading a few books recently and there has been some mention to various dating rules that apparently seem to be know but not stated. Rules like; ****Men should not ring a woman after a day until at least 3 days have passed ****Women must wait for a man to call after the first date and not call him ****Women who give out on a first date are not relationship material ****Men should pay for the first date and women should not even offer ****The 3 date sex rule .. menaing its ok to have sex and not seem easy Now before some of you want to shoot me down, these are some things that I read in a book, Im not saying I agree with them. Thoug I really would love to know if there are any others like this that you may know of, and what you think about them? Are we really going about dating like following these rules?
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Addicted To The Attention 212 Views 06/05/10
After many years on internet dating and having talked to lots of men and women I have come accross several that are what I call "online dating junkies" (could be one myself :O) The internet gives people the oportunity to meet many new people, many that you would not meet in normal social situations. Its exciting meeting someone new, where it initialy seems to click and there seems to be lots potenial for something more. It can be quite a rush getting to know them, and them you and meeting up and going out. Now I dont know about the rest of you but I have never been in a situation where I could have 5 or more people that are interested in me prior to going on the internet. All that attention is overwhelming, flattering and quite addictive. How can a one on one relationship and the attention received ever compete with the likes of internet dating? Does it create a situation of wondering if the other person you have been talking to is better than the one you just met? I know 3 men I have now dated that are drawn into this, cant stop the next contact, even though they say that they want a relationship with one woman, they are drawn back to the numerous others that are out there waiting to tell them they are wonderful.
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Feeling Smothered 131 Views 06/05/10
Many of you have had the situation where you meet a man or woman, its all going well but they are just too full on emotionally with where the relationship is at that time. I have a male friend that fell head over heel in love with a woman and did everything to please her. His behaviour was quite out of character, wanting to be with her all the time, doing things for her and telling her he loved her. This was only a couple of months into seeing each other. This seems to have put her off and she now wants a "break". So what are your thoughts of men or women that are like this? Have you had someone that you consider needy, emotionally smothering? Does it excite you, turn you off, scare you? When is the right time to tell someone you love them?
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Single too long? (Take 2) 133 Views 06/05/10
It has been so long since I have been in a long term "real" relationship that I think I have forgotten what thats all about. For the last 6 years I have dated heaps, met more than I can remember, had a couple of long distance "relationships" but nothing long term, or what I would consider real life (where you are together on a regular basis and do the nornal get to know each other couples thing). In this time I have changed in many ways, how I view myself, what I expect and what I need from within the relationship that it all feels so new. I cant fall on old behviour patterns and really dont want to anyway, though I am now not sure how to procceed. Now I have been lucky and had numerous offers to create something more from men that I considered to be great but each time there was something that just did not seem right enough for me to accept. Each time I just cant see how it would work long term, how the relationship would develop and evolve and just put it down to being the wrong person for me. Now Im wondering if the "issues" were more a problem with me? I used to be what I would now call "needy" but am not anymore. I used to give all, but now see the need to give and take. I feel like I have never had a real relationship before and am lost with how to balance the new me with the old me. I dont think that I am afraid to get into a relationship, and certainly give it enough time to see if I want it to go that way, but none do. Maybe I am being too fussy and expect too much now, I dont know, but I find Im leaning more towards not wanting a relationship at all.
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Disappearing Blog????? 95 Views 06/02/10
Hi all, I did post a blog called "Single too long?" ... didnt I? lol It seems to have vanished along with the comments on there. Must be the Large Friends Gremilins or have I gone mad and just dreamt it?
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Balancing Act 144 Views 05/22/10
Hi there all in blog land, its been a while since I have posted but have been here and reading. I was having a discussion with my girlfriend the other day and she made comment that now she is no longer seeing her man that she has time to concentrate on doing things she likes and needs to handle. Made it sound like she had disappeared while dating this man. Now this friend is really independant and she considers herself a woman that holds her own and takes charge of her life. Though it seems that when in a relationship she loses a lot of this part of herself. Do we do this to ourselves, give up whats important to allow another person into our lives? Do you do this? I have been guilty of this in the past but dont think I am there any more. (I hoep I'm not) Is this a personality flaw? I mean if you give yourself over to their needs and deny your own would you not get resentful over time? Do they then lose interest as the person they were attracted to is no longer there? What does is show about a person that does this? p.s - Damn where is the spell check gone? :P
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First Meeting Was It Good or Bad? 193 Views 02/11/10

So you meet someone online that you like enough to meet and get to know in person, how did you find that first meeting?  Was it as you expected it to be?  Did the person represent themselves truely?  Did you each want to see each other again?

 

I have talked to numerous people in my 3 years of internet dating, both men and women, and one of the most common responses I have is that that first meeting did not go as well as they had hoped.  For one reason or another they were disappointed.  Or even if it went well there were no further dates that resulted from it.

 

How have your first meeting dates been?

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Why do we drift apart? 200 Views 02/06/10

A comment NerdyGuy made on one of the post about "drifting apart" made me wonder about this and why it happens.

 

I have heard this used many times as the reasons relationships break up, but what does it actually mean?  If 2 people loved each other and had lots in common at the start could they change so much that they no longer connect? Is this a natural evolution with relationships and how would you safe gaurd against it?

 

Knowing that I am the sort of person that is into constant personal improvement, love to learn about other people, my work and myself, should I pick a partner that is not so inclined, does that mean that the long future outcome is bleak?  I know you cant change someone, so wont even try to.  Do I need to choose a mirror image of myself or am I destined to have to change my partners on a regular basis because we longer connect? What are your thoughts?

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Just gave up my dream job 121 Views 02/05/10

Ok Im officially insane!!!  lol  I just gave up my dream job, training people that are out of work on confidence, body language and how to present well at an interview.  Love this sort of work, did it in my previous job for 2 years, and the pay was great as well.

 

This job was full time, with a little bit of travel time, not leaving much time for anything else. Had to look at what effect this would have on my 3 boys, as being a single mum would not leave a lot of time for them, actually not a lot of time for anything at all.

 

So I have been thinking about starting my own business for a while now, doing the exact same thing, confidence and body language classess but also adding dating workshops into the mix, and eventually get to that book Im currently writing.  Anyway I have bitten the bullet and there is no turning back now, that is so scary yet exciting in many ways.

 

What I wanted to know was how many of us have faced similar decisions, where for what ever reason you have had a big decision to make, something that had the potenial to be life altering?  What was the outcome? Did you regret making that decision?

 

 

 

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Cant make comment on a blog? 53 Views 02/04/10

Just tried to post a comment on Bridgeports blog "Once Upon A Time" but there is no link to allow me to do this.

 

Is this occuring to anyone else or does this mean I have been blocked???

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Hard Time Accepting Compliments 161 Views 11/24/09

Hi there all yes its me again with another thought to share and would like your opinions on this one.¿ I was talking to a male friend the other day who is also on internet dating sies.¿ He has had some dates recently and commented that every time he gave a woman a compliment that she would knock it back in some way, tell him how he was wrong or devalue it.

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Now my questions is do you do accept complimets or turn around and say something to make it less?¿ Why do we find it so hard to just say "thank you" and accept what has so kindly been given?

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Scared Of Rejection? 334 Views 11/18/09

Wanted to bring up topic¿that I come across in the dating scene quite a lot ....Rejection.

So we are here on a dating site wanting to meet someone but for many their biggest fears are that of being rejected when they do meet someone.¿ I have heard from some that they wont even meet someone till they have had months of talking and have established a connection for the fear of being rejected before the person has gotten to know them.¿ Though of course this can still happen because attraction is far more than the connection you can make chatting on here.

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So is a rejection something personal, that makes one lesser in some way, not worthy?¿ Do we get down on ourselves so much that it actually stops us from being who we are?¿ I know when I first started online dating it was a big issue for me.¿¿I had my fair share of rejection and did take it personally.

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Now I know that rejection is not that of me personally.¿ It may be that our personalities dont match but someone else will find me fabulous.¿ They may not be attracted to my body, but have had others drool¿over it.¿ lol¿ It may be that our goals are different and creating a future just wont work easy.¿¿It can be so any different things sometimes nothing to do with¿me at all.

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I want everyone to remember that rejection is not a rejection of you just a rejection of what sort of relationship the other person sees could be created with you and that does in no way may less of you.¿¿We all are in different places and have different needs, and not everyone is right for each other, but yet is fabulous in their own way.¿ Thanks for letting me share this.¿ ;)

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Another Word For Fat? 329 Views 11/17/09

Hi there all in blog land, I was reading some other blogs and thought that we all¿would have terms for Big Beautiful Women in our parts of the world that are acceptable to use but not all would be the same.

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Here in Australia I think we use the term BBW, Larger or Bigger.¿ Think that the word fat would be considered offensive as would thick or fluffy as babycakes has mentioned.

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What do you personally like to be called and what do you find offensive?

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What about your part of the world?¿ How about everyone that reads this, adds to it, an international poll.¿ :)

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Pheromones And Attraction 165 Views 10/25/09
I had a date recently and we got interesting discussion on the effect of pheromones in sexual attraction. Why are we sometimes instantly sexually attacted to someone, even though they may not be what one considers good looking or even right for you? Do phermones play a part in what we now call chemistry between two people that is out of our control, more a chemistry type of thing. I know that certain scents can turn me on and lucky the man that is wearing them lol, I used to have a perfume that I would wear that would get me excited and feel more desirable. Now this may sound nuts but it did, sadly it is not been made anymore. :( Can dating be just a thing of finding that person with enough good qulities and the right body odour? :)
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Has Adonis Slipped Through My Fingers? 138 Views 10/14/09
Ok had a date earlier this week. Met him on another site that promotes compatability and valies matching. We matched in many ways and got on real well in emails and I liked him , but had not even seen his pic at that stage (he had seen mine). We met at a night club, and I though my knees would buckle. My Adonis had walked in the door. grins Well we chatted and had a few drinks, played pool and enjoyed each others company for 3 hours at which time he left. Now during this time I sensed that there was some interest but his body language kept changing, sometimes showing interest other times just being friendly. Overall I felt that there was chemistry, but I cant be sure if that was just coming from my side? Though I would have thought he would have got out of there earlier if there was not something that interested him to stay? It ended with a had a gret time it was nice meeting you, but no mention of any further contact. Now it had been 4 days and I have not heard from him. Ok sorry, here is my question. lol If he was interested would he have made contact by now? Do men really follow some 4 or 5 day rule about not contacting women? Should I contact him and tell him that I had a great time or just wait for him to make his move? If he is planning to make a move at all? Either way I would like to be friends with him.
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What I Love About Online Dating 117 Views 10/05/09
Ok too mcuh negative stuff recently on these blogs, and I know we are all here to get something positive from it. Wanted to share what I love about my online dating expierience and hope that some will also share some of theirs. -Love all the great men that I have talked to for it taught me to define what I want -Love the profile that I have read that have given me further insight into the minds of men -Love all the men that have sent me a wink or posted a nice comments for it made me feel desirable -Love all the people that read my blogs and put up with me, my views and lectures (lol) for it allowed me to express and understand what was inside me -Love all the men that have stollen a bit of my heart for it showed me just how much I have to give -Love all those that have supported, disagreed and offered advice for you helped me grow -Love all those that have made me laugh though at my age thats a bit dangerous without precausions -Love all the men that I have gotten to kiss ... good for my "tongue tango" research :P -Love all the men that flirted, teased and got my pulse racing for it allowed me to express my desires -Love all the friends I have made for it has shown me that I can be loved -Love all the men and woman who chated on messenger for hours for now Im a fast typist -Love all the dreams you have let me be a part of as I now have faith in my own -Love that you have read down this far for I know you, just like me, and have nothing better do with you time :) Ozred
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The Difference Between Truth And Reality? 112 Views 09/14/09
This blog is about a comment that Azureblue posted on another one of my blogs that I feel deserves to have its own place for discussion. I do believe that what we percieve to be real is our reality and our truth. If we decide that the day is wonderful and we are feeling great, well it is. No one else can shake that unless we let them. If we have been hurt in love and feel that all relationshiops or men/women are bad, well that is true to us. This becomes our reality, and so becomes our Truth. I have seen many people lost and stuck in their own world of truth and reality and it is not until they choose to change how they see things can they change. I have a girl friend who I love dearly, and to her all realtionships are just too much work, not worth the bother. Yet she also in a way would like to have a man in her life. Every time we discuss this and look at ways to get her out and meeting people she reverts back to her thinking, and pulls out to its all too hard. This is her world, her truth and reality. We all have our own truth and reality that we create from our viewpoints, expieriences and decisions. How good my life is .... is only due to what I have created within the framework of my mind and what I believe. Just my 50cents worth ... to coin Nat's phrase :) ************************** Azureblue wrote: Hi oz, I have been reading what some of the great minds in history have to say about reality. Plato said the following: Plato on Truth and Reality And isn't it a bad thing to be deceived about the truth, and a good thing to know what the truth is? For I assume that by knowing the truth you mean knowing things as they really are. (Plato, 380BC) The philosopher is in love with truth, that is, not with the changing world of sensation, which is the object of opinion, but with the unchanging reality which is the object of knowledge. (Plato, 380BC) Truthfulness. He will never willingly tolerate an untruth, but will hate it as much as he loves truth... And is there anything more closely connected with wisdom than truth? (Plato, 380BC) Then may we not fairly plead in reply that our true lover of knowledge naturally strives for truth, and is not content with common opinion, but soars with undimmed and unwearied passion till he grasps the essential nature of things with the mental faculty fitted to do so, that is, with the faculty which is akin to reality, and which approaches and unites with it, and begets intelligence and truth as children, and is only released from travail when it has thus reached knowledge and true life and satisfaction? (Plato, 380BC) What is at issue is the conversion of the mind from the twilight of error to the truth, that climb up into the real world which we shall call true philosophy. (Plato, 380BC) The object of knowledge is what exists and its function to know about reality. (Plato, 380BC) And those whose hearts are fixed on Reality itself deserve the title of Philosophers. (Plato, 380BC) When the mind's eye rests on objects illuminated by truth and reality, it understands and comprehends them, and functions intelligently; but when it turns to the twilight world of change and decay, it can only form opinions, its vision is confused and its beliefs shifting, and it seems to lack intelligence. (Plato, 380BC) 'But surely "blind" is just how you would describe men who have no true knowledge of reality, and no clear standard in their mind to refer to, as a painter refers to his model, and which they can study closely before they start laying down rules about what is fair or right or good where they are needed, or maintaining, as Guardians, any rules that already exist.' 'Yes, blind is just about what they are' (Plato, 380BC) One trait in the philosopher's character we can assume is his love of the knowledge that reveals eternal reality, the realm unaffected by change and decay. He is in love with the whole of that reality, and will not willingly be deprived even of the most insignificant fragment of it - just like the lovers and men of ambition we described earlier on. (Plato, 380BC) I have been reading a lot on this subject, in a desire to understand it. I agree with the experts of old and this is kinda what I get from all I've read. Reality is based on the physical and tangible. The universe exist in reality, following laws of physics, a tangible reality. We as humans have opinions. They are opinions, not realities, except perhaps in our minds. Any civilization that in history has went against the age old concepts of reality, ie, truth....has fallen. Opinions will come and go, changing with time and knowledge, but the reality of truth, will continue. Heres another interesting quote from cuurent times. 'Reality cannot be found except in One single source, because of the interconnection of all things with one another'. When we deduce this most Simple Science Theory of Reality we find that there is only one possible solution: Space must be the substance which exists and matter is formed from waves in Space. The electron is a spherical standing wave in Space.I.e. While there are many minds and material things, they all exist in one common Space (just look around you and think about it). We can then show that the Wave Structure of Matter is the correct solution as it deduces the fundamentals of Physics & Philosophy perfectly (there are no opinions). I realise that there are a lot of 'crackpot' theories about truth and reality on the Internet, but this solution is the most simple one and it is obvious once known (though it takes time for our minds to adjust to new knowledge). Just food for thought! Smiles--azure ***********************************
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Can Passion Be Learned? 149 Views 09/12/09
While responding to another blog this question came to mind. Can you teach someone to be passionate if they are not that way with you from the beginning? Now Im talking about sexually here, as people can be passionate for other things as well. Some definitions of passion on the web are: passion - heat: the trait of being intensely emotional passion - rage: something that is desired intensely; passion - mania: an irrational but irresistible motive for a belief or action passion - a feeling of strong sexual desire passion - love: any object of warm affection or devotion; I have heard many times stories of break ups where one of the main factors has been miss matched libido or lack of similar tastes or interest in this arena. Is paasion about finding that person that brings that part out in you, or if you are passionate are you that way with any partner that you like?
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Open Relationships - Do they work? 313 Views 09/11/09
Hey to all in lovely blog land thought I would put up a topic that may have some varied viewpoints, love to look at things from other peoples views so please give me your thoughts. :) Ok was dating someone recently who told me that he liked an open relationship or what can be termed swinging. Now this clever, articulate and professional man made some interesting points while he was discussing his views and prefences. His ideal relationship was where both parties were open to adding new partners into their sexual activity, ideally long term play friends where a friendship was also established. Now this was only ever done together as a couple and if one did not want to then it was called off. His views were that this eleminated jealousy and cheating in a relationship and actually fostered more caring and confidence as comunicatin was open and honest. Nothing to hide. So can this really work? Do you know of anyone that has a successful open relationship?
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