... and speaking of being embarrassed to be in the same gender, I was really upset by a recent blog that gave a huge list of undesirable qualities in men. In fact, it brought me to tears.
I like men. I always have.
I like ...
1. The way men compliment us and make us feel wanted and beautiful
2. How accepting men are of us and even find some of our faults endearing
3. Being held while I fall asleep at night and feeling safe
4. How sexy men are
5. The way men look, walk, tast more...
... and speaking of being embarrassed to be in the same gender, I was really upset by a recent blog that gave a huge list of undesirable qualities in men. In fact, it brought me to tears.
I like men. I always have.
I like ...
1. The way men compliment us and make us feel wanted and beautiful
2. How accepting men are of us and even find some of our faults endearing
3. Being held while I fall asleep at night and feeling safe
4. How sexy men are
5. The way men look, walk, taste and smell, with or without cologne
6. Their energy, intelligence and humor
7. How men are caring and kind in ways that are entirely different from women
8. The way they will open doors, reach high places, and lift heavy stuff
9. The way they will check our tires or brush the snow off our car before they do their own and leave for work
10. The way they will offer strong arms and broad shoulders to comfort and protect us, and if they can?t think of anything else to do they may even offer to beat people up on our behalf (I am not saying I take them up on the offer, though)
11. The way it is ok to swear or burp in front of them
12. The sounds they make when their testosterone is surging
13. The way a man can turn me on with a look or just by walking across the room
14. How hard men work to get past our defenses
15. How much courage men have
16. When a man asked how your day was he probably really wants to know
17. The little boy still left inside men
18. How often they think of us throughout the day
19. How willing men are to make love when we ask
20. How good it feels to lay down and feel the weight of a man pressing me into the mattress and know that it?s right (when it is) to be there with him
21. Being kissed until I wake up in the morning
22. How fun men are to be with
23. How patient they are
24. How they do know us and see us in ways we don?t know about and make room for what we need without ever telling us
25. Their muscles and the beautiful lines, hills and valleys of their bodies
26. The way a goatee will frame a mans lips so they beg to be kissed or a mustache or beard can be used for pleasure
27. The way men offer to go out in the rain or snow or park the car or drive when we are tired, even if they are too, all to take care of us
28. The way men brag about us to their friends
29. How much they miss us when we?re apart
30. The way men will not bring up old arguments after they are done
31. The way they drop everything to help a friend or stranger
32. The way men refrain talk trash about their friend behind their backs
33. The way they move mountains to be with us or face dragons or walk through fires we don?t even know about, all for our sake less...
I understand your point, Nodrama and had considered the same possibility (that I might be walking a pretty fine line with the first half of that first sentence), but I don't think I actually crossed it.
I wrote about my own feelings and primarily about what came out of that in the end, which was a list of really great qualities that I've seen and experienced in men ... who may be no closer to perfection than we are, but wonderful anyway.
I know all about the other side of things, too ... more...
I understand your point, Nodrama and had considered the same possibility (that I might be walking a pretty fine line with the first half of that first sentence), but I don't think I actually crossed it.
I wrote about my own feelings and primarily about what came out of that in the end, which was a list of really great qualities that I've seen and experienced in men ... who may be no closer to perfection than we are, but wonderful anyway.
I know all about the other side of things, too ... I just don't want to keep revisiting it over and over again.
And I love it that Wylde really got it ... that Blue found a man with all this and more (and how brave are you to have asked him to marry you!? wow ... that was brilliant!). Amuse always makes me laugh and Kat did exactly what I was secretly hoping would happen and added another great one to the list. Thanks Kat :). less...
I agree with NoDrama completely. The blog was first delineated as a "personal" opinion. It was also written in a humorous fashion, not in any way insulting or offensive. Atleast to me.
I also believe that it is NOT "unhealthy" to do so. In fact, many, MANY therapists, psychologists, doctors (and writers, too) will tell you the great benefits (psychologically, emotionally and socially) of writing your feelings down on paper. To do so in such a public way sometimes can more...
I agree with NoDrama completely. The blog was first delineated as a "personal" opinion. It was also written in a humorous fashion, not in any way insulting or offensive. Atleast to me.
I also believe that it is NOT "unhealthy" to do so. In fact, many, MANY therapists, psychologists, doctors (and writers, too) will tell you the great benefits (psychologically, emotionally and socially) of writing your feelings down on paper. To do so in such a public way sometimes can provide the benefit of a support system.
I disagree with your idea of calling out another blogger in a negative manner. You could easily have done this without the school-yard tactics, in a private email or in a comment.
I understand how you would like to uplift men, and not leave them thinking we are all man-haters. However, your best and most mature approach would have been to just post a blog yourself (as you did) but to leave out the veiled insults. Since you claim to want to present a healthy approach I think *that* would have been the most positive way to get your point across, while leaving others their rightful choice to blog at will.
Bearing that in mind, you have every right to post your opinion, jsut as Vegas does. However, do not be upset, angry, intimidated, feel attacked or undermined when others come to her defense. We are all friends here. All of us. And I would HOPE that we can all be adults and not insult one another, whether blatant or not.
After all, this is supposed to be a place for adults to go and "mingle" online. I would like to remind you that it was Vegas' blog. This is not a comment that she wrote on someone else's blog-- it was her own: her own opinion, her own ideas, her own preferences and her own style. So, you chose to call her out in your own blog, breaking your own rule: "It is not ok for you to belittle other people."
I truly hope my post here is taken with the grain of salt that I took Vegas' blog. This site is NOT anything to carry around on your shoulders. It is intended to be for enteratinment purposes.
One2One, don't take things so seriously, really. Life's too short to worry about how others express their (own) opinions. To each his or her own.---True less...
Quoting: Originally posted by smoosh I still haven't met this perfect man but since I'm not perfect - I don't expect too either.
We are still all entitled to our opinion whatever mood we are in.
I don't think anyone wants a perfect world w...
Well...i'm a 'Nobody', and you know what they say...Nobody's Perfect! Thank you...Ariesram, HAS left the building.xxx more...
Quoting: Originally posted by smoosh I still haven't met this perfect man but since I'm not perfect - I don't expect too either.
We are still all entitled to our opinion whatever mood we are in.
I don't think anyone wants a perfect world with clones cause the first people to go will be people who don't fit the ideal.
I'm going to group BBW's into the non-cloning type for the perfect world. Cheers to finding your own "ideal" or concept of "perfect" man - to each our own.
Well...i'm a 'Nobody', and you know what they say...Nobody's Perfect! Thank you...Ariesram, HAS left the building.xxx less...
I still haven't met this perfect man but since I'm not perfect - I don't expect too either.
We are still all entitled to our opinion whatever mood we are in.
I don't think anyone wants a perfect world with clones cause the first people to go will be people who don't fit the ideal.
I'm going to group BBW's into the non-cloning type for the perfect world. Cheers to finding your own "ideal" or concept of "perfect" man - to each our own.
I wasn't going to leave a comment but changed my mind. I liked Vegas' blog (except for the red head part..I love red heads). It was playful and I believe fits her personality. That being said I liked your blog as well, except for the part where I felt you were doing exactly what you excused Vegas of doing.
If you have likes, there are always going to be dislikes...why not put that out there too. I don't believe she did it in a mean, hateful way (as some blogs have in the past).
I wasn't going to leave a comment but changed my mind. I liked Vegas' blog (except for the red head part..I love red heads). It was playful and I believe fits her personality. That being said I liked your blog as well, except for the part where I felt you were doing exactly what you excused Vegas of doing.
If you have likes, there are always going to be dislikes...why not put that out there too. I don't believe she did it in a mean, hateful way (as some blogs have in the past).
To each their own...but don't forget to laugh sometimes. less...
Quoting: Originally posted by VegasAngel76 Booo Hooo ! Shall I give you a tissue ?
Hey if you want the men that blow their nose on the street without a tissue or guys that would rather play video games then spend time with their woman - Y...
My instincts were right on target, and I stand by what I wrote.
It is not ok for you to belittle other people. It's not funny or healthy ... being equal opportunity about it or masquerading that as some kind of helpful, magnanimous gesture with more...
Quoting: Originally posted by VegasAngel76 Booo Hooo ! Shall I give you a tissue ?
Hey if you want the men that blow their nose on the street without a tissue or guys that would rather play video games then spend time with their woman - YOU CAN HAVE THEM !
First off I did say that the list was of the "TYPE" of men I personally don't prefer. Not all men do that, I don't even think half of average men are that nasty. I too love men very much and if I were to write a list of all the things I do like about men it would be 3 times as long as the few undesireable qualities in some men I have come across in life.
Lastly, it is healthy to have a sense of humor about yourself and others. I though the list was funny and if there are men out there that perhaps just don't know the things certain women find unattractive, well, then it will serve as a very informative and educational tool for them to better themselves. I could also write a nice list about female charasteristics that are unattractive like those ladies that sit on the toilet in a public restroom handling their " business" while talking on the phone. Phones today are very sensitive and I think it is very disrespectful to the person on the other end of that phone to have to hear you going to the bathroom. I am sure it could wait the 5 minutes or so until you are out. That's 1 girl gripe. No harm, no foul. We're just exchanging info here and having fun, don't get so worked up.
My instincts were right on target, and I stand by what I wrote.
It is not ok for you to belittle other people. It's not funny or healthy ... being equal opportunity about it or masquerading that as some kind of helpful, magnanimous gesture with a little extra condescension thrown in for good measure doesn't change the fact that it's abusive. less...
We should always look to the positive and what we truly desire in life rather than what we don't want. Sure we all have our moments when men suck, life sucks, work sucks, etc. But if we continuously dwell in that realm, there we will stay.
Quoting: Originally posted by VegasAngel76 Booo Hooo ! Shall I give you a tissue ?
Hey if you want the men that blow their nose on the street without a tissue or guys that would rather play video games then spend time with their woman - Y...
Cellphones in the stalls...that's when you take the extra moment to flush twice... more...
Quoting: Originally posted by VegasAngel76 Booo Hooo ! Shall I give you a tissue ?
Hey if you want the men that blow their nose on the street without a tissue or guys that would rather play video games then spend time with their woman - YOU CAN HAVE THEM !
First off I did say that the list was of the "TYPE" of men I personally don't prefer. Not all men do that, I don't even think half of average men are that nasty. I too love men very much and if I were to write a list of all the things I do like about men it would be 3 times as long as the few undesireable qualities in some men I have come across in life.
Lastly, it is healthy to have a sense of humor about yourself and others. I though the list was funny and if there are men out there that perhaps just don't know the things certain women find unattractive, well, then it will serve as a very informative and educational tool for them to better themselves. I could also write a nice list about female charasteristics that are unattractive like those ladies that sit on the toilet in a public restroom handling their " business" while talking on the phone. Phones today are very sensitive and I think it is very disrespectful to the person on the other end of that phone to have to hear you going to the bathroom. I am sure it could wait the 5 minutes or so until you are out. That's 1 girl gripe. No harm, no foul. We're just exchanging info here and having fun, don't get so worked up.
Cellphones in the stalls...that's when you take the extra moment to flush twice... less...
I think a lot of us are on this site because we do "like/love" men. Sense of humour is key - take everything with a generous splash of it. The blogs are about the good, the bad and the ugly.
Quoting: Originally posted by one2one ... and speaking of being embarrassed to be in the same gender, I was really upset by a recent blog that gave a huge list of undesirable qualities in men. In fact, it brought me to tears.
I like ...
You just described my fiance to a T. He's all that and more and I'm very very lucky. Thanks. :) more...
Quoting: Originally posted by one2one ... and speaking of being embarrassed to be in the same gender, I was really upset by a recent blog that gave a huge list of undesirable qualities in men. In fact, it brought me to tears.
I like men. I always have.
I like ...
1. The way men compliment us and make us feel wanted and beautiful
2. How accepting men are of us and even find some of our faults endearing
3. Being held while I fall asleep at night and feeling safe
4. How sexy men are
5. The way men look, walk, taste and smell, with or without cologne
6. Their energy, intelligence and humor
7. How men are caring and kind in ways that are entirely different from women
8. The way they will open doors, reach high places, and lift heavy stuff
9. The way they will check our tires or brush the snow off our car before they do their own and leave for work
10. The way they will offer strong arms and broad shoulders to comfort and protect us, and if they can?t think of anything else to do they may even offer to beat people up on our behalf (I am not saying I take them up on the offer, though)
11. The way it is ok to swear or burp in front of them
12. The sounds they make when their testosterone is surging
13. The way a man can turn me on with a look or just by walking across the room
14. How hard men work to get past our defenses
15. How much courage men have
16. When a man asked how your day was he probably really wants to know
17. The little boy still left inside men
18. How often they think of us throughout the day
19. How willing men are to make love when we ask
20. How good it feels to lay down and feel the weight of a man pressing me into the mattress and know that it?s right (when it is) to be there with him
21. Being kissed until I wake up in the morning
22. How fun men are to be with
23. How patient they are
24. How they do know us and see us in ways we don?t know about and make room for what we need without ever telling us
25. Their muscles and the beautiful lines, hills and valleys of their bodies
26. The way a goatee will frame a mans lips so they beg to be kissed or a mustache or beard can be used for pleasure
27. The way men offer to go out in the rain or snow or park the car or drive when we are tired, even if they are too, all to take care of us
28. The way men brag about us to their friends
29. How much they miss us when we?re apart
30. The way men will not bring up old arguments after they are done
31. The way they drop everything to help a friend or stranger
32. The way men refrain talk trash about their friend behind their backs
33. The way they move mountains to be with us or face dragons or walk through fires we don?t even know about, all for our sake
You just described my fiance to a T. He's all that and more and I'm very very lucky. Thanks. :) less...
Hey if you want the men that blow their nose on the street without a tissue or guys that would rather play video games then spend time with their woman - YOU CAN HAVE THEM !
First off I did say that the list was of the "TYPE" of men I personally don't prefer. Not all men do that, I don't even think half of average men are that nasty. I too love men very much and if I were to write a list of all the things I do like about men it would be 3 more...
Booo Hooo ! Shall I give you a tissue ?
Hey if you want the men that blow their nose on the street without a tissue or guys that would rather play video games then spend time with their woman - YOU CAN HAVE THEM !
First off I did say that the list was of the "TYPE" of men I personally don't prefer. Not all men do that, I don't even think half of average men are that nasty. I too love men very much and if I were to write a list of all the things I do like about men it would be 3 times as long as the few undesireable qualities in some men I have come across in life.
Lastly, it is healthy to have a sense of humor about yourself and others. I though the list was funny and if there are men out there that perhaps just don't know the things certain women find unattractive, well, then it will serve as a very informative and educational tool for them to better themselves. I could also write a nice list about female charasteristics that are unattractive like those ladies that sit on the toilet in a public restroom handling their " business" while talking on the phone. Phones today are very sensitive and I think it is very disrespectful to the person on the other end of that phone to have to hear you going to the bathroom. I am sure it could wait the 5 minutes or so until you are out. That's 1 girl gripe. No harm, no foul. We're just exchanging info here and having fun, don't get so worked up. less...
