I have been in contact with a few gentlemen. We have been emailing and talking. Now I am interested in getting to know 2 of them. What is your opinion on dating 2 men at the same time...and noooo not on the same date guys! I find it weird for myself but would like to get to know both men better. Does it seem to be "trashy" to date two men at the same time?
I have been in contact with a few gentlemen. We have been emailing and talking. Now I am interested in getting to know 2 of them. What is your opinion on dating 2 men at the same time...and noooo not on the same date guys! I find it weird for myself but would like to get to know both men better. Does it seem to be "trashy" to date two men at the same time?
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I don't think that someone is trashy because they date two people at once. I know that for me, it would be difficult because it would be too distracting. I would also want to know if a man that I was dating was dating someone else while he was dating me. If he was dating someone else, I know that I would not feel comfortable enough to allow myself to see him as a potential mate and I would not be able to really see him as a future partner.
I think that you should ask yourself how you would feel if someone you were interested in dated someone else at the same time that he was dating you. If you are ok with that, then you should go for it, but I think that you should let both men know that you are dating other men.
Good luck to you and I hope that if you decide to be exclusive with one of the men, that he is the one who wants to be exclusive with you.
I don't think that someone is trashy because they date two people at once. I know that for me, it would be difficult because it would be too distracting. I would also want to know if a man that I was dating was dating someone else while he was dating me. If he was dating someone else, I know that I would not feel comfortable enough to allow myself to see him as a potential mate and I would not be able to really see him as a future partner.
I think that you should ask yourself how you would feel if someone you were interested in dated someone else at the same time that he was dating you. If you are ok with that, then you should go for it, but I think that you should let both men know that you are dating other men.
Good luck to you and I hope that if you decide to be exclusive with one of the men, that he is the one who wants to be exclusive with you.
Olivia: I wouldn't feel guilty at all about dating two peeple at once, IF they knew about it. If you mean EXCLUSIVELY dating, that might be a different story altogether. The men in this situation may feel differently about sharing you with another man. Lambchop is right about saving yourself. Personally, I wouldn't get physically involved with either one while dating both. And I wouldn't suggest progressing to a level of emotional or physical attachment, unless you chose only one suitor. Good luck, True
Lambchop... FYI: only two types of the four most common viruses cause 70% of the cancer cases worldwide. Meaning, over HALF of all reported cases stemming from all four of those viruses are NOT from an STD. No offense, but you can't blame someone's cancer on her cheating husband. Genetics, lifestyle and chosen treatment options play a much bigger role in mortality than do developing cancer. I'm not meaning to cause trouble, just posting some useful information. Go to the US Gov't Cancer website for more information. Good luck--True
Olivia: I wouldn't feel guilty at all about dating two peeple at once, IF they knew about it. If you mean EXCLUSIVELY dating, that might be a different story altogether. The men in this situation may feel differently about sharing you with another man. Lambchop is right about saving yourself. Personally, I wouldn't get physically involved with either one while dating both. And I wouldn't suggest progressing to a level of emotional or physical attachment, unless you chose only one suitor. Good luck, True
Lambchop... FYI: only two types of the four most common viruses cause 70% of the cancer cases worldwide. Meaning, over HALF of all reported cases stemming from all four of those viruses are NOT from an STD. No offense, but you can't blame someone's cancer on her cheating husband. Genetics, lifestyle and chosen treatment options play a much bigger role in mortality than do developing cancer. I'm not meaning to cause trouble, just posting some useful information. Go to the US Gov't Cancer website for more information. Good luck--True
I would not hesitate to date 2,4,6,8... however many you need to, in order for you to get a better idea of what you want/don't want... especially if it's been a long time.
One caveat.. I don't know your values set (and don't judge anyway). If you intend to get intimate with them to "check that part out", think twice, thrice, etc..
You've heard of all the diseases. I have a dear friend with stage 4 cervical cancer (from papilloma virus) who has only slept with her now ex-husband (who swore he was coming home, things were going to be different, and that there had never been anyone else). She got pregnant by him and didn't learn about the cervical cancer until it was advanced and she was far along in the pregnancy. This man's inability to keep it zipped -- not to mention his dishonesty -- is most likely going to kill her, and it breaks my heart.
Everyone is going to tell you they're clean, even when they're not. Sometimes they won't even know themselves.
You sound like a very sensitive woman. Sensitive women have a difficult time separating sex from their hearts.. and every time you invest in a 'bum investiment', you tear away a little bit at your heart. Over the long term, you can end up feeling vacant.
Be wise, friend. As you can see, the stakes are high.
I wish you the best-- in luck and in love.
Lambchop
Dear one,
I would not hesitate to date 2,4,6,8... however many you need to, in order for you to get a better idea of what you want/don't want... especially if it's been a long time.
One caveat.. I don't know your values set (and don't judge anyway). If you intend to get intimate with them to "check that part out", think twice, thrice, etc..
You've heard of all the diseases. I have a dear friend with stage 4 cervical cancer (from papilloma virus) who has only slept with her now ex-husband (who swore he was coming home, things were going to be different, and that there had never been anyone else). She got pregnant by him and didn't learn about the cervical cancer until it was advanced and she was far along in the pregnancy. This man's inability to keep it zipped -- not to mention his dishonesty -- is most likely going to kill her, and it breaks my heart.
Everyone is going to tell you they're clean, even when they're not. Sometimes they won't even know themselves.
You sound like a very sensitive woman. Sensitive women have a difficult time separating sex from their hearts.. and every time you invest in a 'bum investiment', you tear away a little bit at your heart. Over the long term, you can end up feeling vacant.
Be wise, friend. As you can see, the stakes are high.
I wish you the best-- in luck and in love.
Lambchop
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Dating two or more men at the same time should not be a problem, but it could be if you become more interested in them. I would recommend telling them up front because it will only become more difficult the longer you wait. It's really the only way to get to know another person beyond the relationship you've already established through correspondence.
Dating two or more men at the same time should not be a problem, but it could be if you become more interested in them. I would recommend telling them up front because it will only become more difficult the longer you wait. It's really the only way to get to know another person beyond the relationship you've already established through correspondence.
I think dating 2 or more at the same time is fine as long as you aren't in a "committed relationship". Once you feel more for one of them it's time to let the other know how you feel. Good luck!
I think dating 2 or more at the same time is fine as long as you aren't in a "committed relationship". Once you feel more for one of them it's time to let the other know how you feel. Good luck!
I think "dating" two men at the same time is fine - you should know by the 3rd date if you should only be dating one and make a choice or start over with new dating material. Make sure the men involved know you are available and dating and not seeing anyone special(exclusive) yet....you have to try before you buy - so to speak. If they are not comfortable - then date one for a few dates and make a decision to move on or not...best of luck and Season's Greetings.
I think "dating" two men at the same time is fine - you should know by the 3rd date if you should only be dating one and make a choice or start over with new dating material. Make sure the men involved know you are available and dating and not seeing anyone special(exclusive) yet....you have to try before you buy - so to speak. If they are not comfortable - then date one for a few dates and make a decision to move on or not...best of luck and Season's Greetings.
Well Im afraid I wont be able to help you out much here, want to know the answer to this one myself. Currently I?am speaking with and like?four men that I would like to know much better.? They are?in different parts of the world with only one being here in Oz. With each I have some sort of connection and can say a degree of emotinal involvement. Like yourself, I am not comfortable with establishing realtionships with more than one man at a time, but this situation just occured. Will be interested what other bloggers?have to say?here.
Well Im afraid I wont be able to help you out much here, want to know the answer to this one myself. Currently I?am speaking with and like?four men that I would like to know much better.? They are?in different parts of the world with only one being here in Oz. With each I have some sort of connection and can say a degree of emotinal involvement. Like yourself, I am not comfortable with establishing realtionships with more than one man at a time, but this situation just occured. Will be interested what other bloggers?have to say?here.
Sleeping with two men at the same time would be trashy... I mean not together the three of you... that's a fantasy... but one after the other.
Dating them is just considering your options. Once you know them better, then you decided on which one to dump and which one to keep... or dump them both... LOL
As long as you're honest and tell them. I wouldn't be surprise that it's a bigger thing for you and they think it's just normal to act that way. After all dating is not a commitment and isn't there a step in dating when you discuss exclusivity... it's not a given in their mind I'm sure.
Sleeping with two men at the same time would be trashy... I mean not together the three of you... that's a fantasy... but one after the other.
Dating them is just considering your options. Once you know them better, then you decided on which one to dump and which one to keep... or dump them both... LOL
As long as you're honest and tell them. I wouldn't be surprise that it's a bigger thing for you and they think it's just normal to act that way. After all dating is not a commitment and isn't there a step in dating when you discuss exclusivity... it's not a given in their mind I'm sure.
What if both guys really fall for you and then you have to decide which one you really want to be with or vice versa? I think you need to settle on getting to know them both first of all and be up front with them and let them know that it's only a date to get to know them. Then narrow your choices down and only Date the one that you really have feelings for and can see yourself being with.
What if both guys really fall for you and then you have to decide which one you really want to be with or vice versa? I think you need to settle on getting to know them both first of all and be up front with them and let them know that it's only a date to get to know them. Then narrow your choices down and only Date the one that you really have feelings for and can see yourself being with.
