As I sit here pondering my future as a dating woman, I have concluded that my past as a dating woman has been sporadic at best. After a 23-year marriage, I was out of practice, that's for sure. But I've been separated for over 7 years and I've still only dated a handful of men (make that 3). I've been up and down on myself so often, I feel like a yo-yo. I've been trying to figure out why it's been so hard to get a date. I'm a pretty terrific woman, if I do say so myself, but I'm 100+ pounds over the posted "ideal weight" - and I'm definitely NOT photogenic, so it's hard to find a flattering picture of me. Are men really that shallow that they don't contact someone who isn't gorgeous? I don't think that I'm picky when it comes to men. I only have two deal-breakers: he has to be at least 5'10" and not smoke - oh, and not married. If anyone out there can give me tips on how to get started on this online dating thing and have success, I'm open to hearing from you.
As I sit here pondering my future as a dating woman, I have concluded that my past as a dating woman has been sporadic at best. After a 23-year marriage, I was out of practice, that's for sure. But I've been separated for over 7 years and I've still only dated a handful of men (make that 3). I've been up and down on myself so often, I feel like a yo-yo. I've been trying to figure out why it's been so hard to get a date. I'm a pretty terrific woman, if I do say so myself, but I'm 100+ pounds over the posted "ideal weight" - and I'm definitely NOT photogenic, so it's hard to find a flattering picture of me. Are men really that shallow that they don't contact someone who isn't gorgeous? I don't think that I'm picky when it comes to men. I only have two deal-breakers: he has to be at least 5'10" and not smoke - oh, and not married. If anyone out there can give me tips on how to get started on this online dating thing and have success, I'm open to hearing from you.
I guess I chose online versus real life because for one thing the qualities I was looking for were hard for me to find in a man living where I do....a very small town...plus I know nearly everyone in my town.
I would say definitely do not give up....it took me years to find my fiance and although it was not on this site but another I am so happy I found the right man for me.
Good Luck...Kat
I guess I chose online versus real life because for one thing the qualities I was looking for were hard for me to find in a man living where I do....a very small town...plus I know nearly everyone in my town.
I would say definitely do not give up....it took me years to find my fiance and although it was not on this site but another I am so happy I found the right man for me.
I don't think that for me, online, is going to me successful. After a few years of looking around (not consistently meeting and/or dating, though), I really feel that I just prefer the normal meet and greet routine. I think I feel more comfortable being able to get a feeling of somoene's "auora" right away. I tend to get a feeling of someone's true intent upon meeting them for the first time, and doing this all online sort of takes the fun out of that! I still blog because I have met some really wonderful people on here, some of whom I'd love to meet one day. However, I don't put much stock into the online dating scene. I prefer to think of it as a social gathering of like minds where I might happen upon someone who could be a potential partner. That way, I don't convince myself that I am destined to meet someone on here! Best wishes to you!--True
I don't think that for me, online, is going to me successful. After a few years of looking around (not consistently meeting and/or dating, though), I really feel that I just prefer the normal meet and greet routine. I think I feel more comfortable being able to get a feeling of somoene's "auora" right away. I tend to get a feeling of someone's true intent upon meeting them for the first time, and doing this all online sort of takes the fun out of that! I still blog because I have met some really wonderful people on here, some of whom I'd love to meet one day. However, I don't put much stock into the online dating scene. I prefer to think of it as a social gathering of like minds where I might happen upon someone who could be a potential partner. That way, I don't convince myself that I am destined to meet someone on here! Best wishes to you!--True
I've had the same thoughts, I'm 721 months old now. I find the men that are still employed and single, want a MUCH younger woman. They don't want to feel OLDER I suppose and who does?? Guys lets face facts though okay? WE ARE OLDER !! The alternative is not what I'm ready for at this time in my life.
I'm also having trouble getting out of the starting gate. I would get an email, then nothing. A wink then nothing after I reply.
Mein my age group are on Viagra to feel younger- more power to you ! Is that the way to get and keep the younger women? I'm looking for a companion to share with, good and bad, soft and hard. I, for one DON"T CARE. It's the romance during the day that counts. The notes, a phone call, a simple hug. That's the romance I"m talking about, not the extravagant stuff leave that for the very special occasions that comes once every ten years or so. Guys, it's not hard to be attentive, you like attention, we like attention. Give us some attention and we will be there for you when the times are hard. :-)
Natalie
I've had the same thoughts, I'm 721 months old now. I find the men that are still employed and single, want a MUCH younger woman. They don't want to feel OLDER I suppose and who does?? Guys lets face facts though okay? WE ARE OLDER !! The alternative is not what I'm ready for at this time in my life.
I'm also having trouble getting out of the starting gate. I would get an email, then nothing. A wink then nothing after I reply.
Mein my age group are on Viagra to feel younger- more power to you ! Is that the way to get and keep the younger women? I'm looking for a companion to share with, good and bad, soft and hard. I, for one DON"T CARE. It's the romance during the day that counts. The notes, a phone call, a simple hug. That's the romance I"m talking about, not the extravagant stuff leave that for the very special occasions that comes once every ten years or so. Guys, it's not hard to be attentive, you like attention, we like attention. Give us some attention and we will be there for you when the times are hard. :-)
In answer to you question are some men so Shallow that they dont contact someone whose is not a mythical"10"? YES some are that shallow that they refuse to see past the cover and refuse to venture past the cover to see what is in side .However there are some that look past the cover to find the treasures inside. From your photos I see rather attractive woman !
In answer to you question are some men so Shallow that they dont contact someone whose is not a mythical"10"? YES some are that shallow that they refuse to see past the cover and refuse to venture past the cover to see what is in side .However there are some that look past the cover to find the treasures inside. From your photos I see rather attractive woman !
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