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more_for_me_to_love
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Posted on Thu, Mar 01, 2007 03:59

I was on another personals site today; when out of the blue I received a private message from a woman who said she liked my profile. After chatting for a couple minutes, she asked if I had a picture she could see. I don't have one posted on that site, so I went ahead a sent her a pic. (The same pic I have here.) About a minute later she replies, "never mind, you aren't worth my time". At first I was in shock at her rudeness. Then came anger, and then humiliation. I started to tell her off, but instead decided to just log off and try to forget it. I know I'm not the greatest looking guy in the world, although, I thought I was at least decent looking. My face is a little scrunched up in the pic from squinting due to the sun, but I still think it's an ok picture. Well later, I ended up going back and looking at her profile. Her profile had a picture. Now the thing is, this woman looked horrible. Her face was all sunken in like a drug addict, she had horrible features, and even appeared to have a slight mustache. After seeing this I don't know what made me feel worse. That someone was so rude to me, or that I was rejected by someone that looked like her. I was wondering... has anyone ever had something like this happen to them? Should I have told her off? Should I get a new picture? Or maybe just a new face??? j/k


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Posted on Thu, Dec 06, 2007 09:26

Maybe she's not a ball fan?


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Posted on Wed, Dec 05, 2007 09:25

What a jackass. She or he was probably hipped up on Methadone . Or just a born loser. You are a nice looking guy. She can just go play in the traffic!!!With that attitude, she will not be a prize for anyone to catch.


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Posted on Tue, Dec 04, 2007 21:49

:) I like your picture


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Posted on Tue, Dec 04, 2007 19:44

Awwww...I think you're Adorable! Then again, it's all about the eye of the beholder. (Poor lil' crazy lady doesn't know what she's talking about!)


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Posted on Thu, Nov 29, 2007 22:26

You are quite handsome! I couldn't imagine why she would have reacted that way maybe she likes a different ethnicity than you are or maybe she has a Cyrano fetish and found your nose too small...whatever the reason it is wonderful for us you two didn't click.


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Posted on Wed, Nov 28, 2007 14:58

Major DITTO, she does sound like a psycho for sure !! Nisi32132 omgitsalbs write: dont listen to her she sounds lie a psycho!


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Posted on Tue, Nov 27, 2007 21:45

Maybe your just looking at this thing wrong, as some have said maybe its her. Maybe its that she was wanting out anyway and needed an out(not a good way but maybe). It could even be as others said she thought you were out of her league. Just look at it this way you are better off without this person. There are some lovely ladies on here and a bunch of them have learned who you are now. move on find the love of your life and forget about that woman.


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Posted on Sat, May 12, 2007 15:39

I think you're missing a couple of obvious interpretations of her statements. 1) Once she saw your picture, she realized immediately that you were WAY out of her league. So, of course, it wasn't worth her while to pursue you further and she'd rather let you go than be rejected later. 2)Upon viewing her picture, she realized you were much younger than her. She decided it wasn't worth her time to compete with younger women for your affection.


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Posted on Sat, May 12, 2007 10:07

Wow with that real story u got alot of pretty fans ! Gratz pie !


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Posted on Mon, Apr 30, 2007 17:35

Everyone has said it already - but - your good looking. And - your photo - is a good photo. So - there is nothing off-putting about the way you look in the photo you have up. ** I especially like bitterman405's kudos to you ...."i dont know dude - i guess you look all right..." I LOVE IT Thats as good as your gonna get - a guy giving another guy a compliment - trying to make it clear he doesnt find you too fetching - personally. Cute. Anyway - everyone can talk about what really attracts people is the personality, sense of humor, etc...but the reality is that people are attracted to others, IN PART, based on physical appearance... That being said - you dont base whether or not you are "wasting your time" or spending it constructivly - by talking to someone ON LINE - based on a picture you see after-the-fact (after already expressing an intrest in the interaction) Its bullshit. Interacting with people On Line - is not AT ALL based on physical appearance. If you hit it off - you might THINK that you MAY end up AT LEAST finding a new friend. And WHY would you want to DATE someone you wouldnt want as a friend? In the first place? So - it's bullshit to decide you are "wasting your time" by looking at a photo - after youve been sucessfully interacting on-line. ALSO - you are open to meeting people on line for only 2 good reasons: 1) You are intrested in getting to know people based on MORE than just the physical appearance - looking for intellectual stimulation and similar intrests , etc.... or 2) YOU are not able to meet someone and capture thier attention IN PERSON - so you hope that On Line (where they dont see you In Person) - you can interact with someone and get them intrested ENOUGH to GIVE YOU SOME TIME IN PERSON. If you just havent found the right person, dont know many people, are new in an area, need to go outside your regular every-day realm to meet new people ---- and you turn to on-line ways of meeting people - you are doing it because you are OPEN to meeting new people - not turning away people (intresting people) - based on 1 photo. Maybe this woman is not sucessful meeting people in person , is bitter about it - and because SHE feels rejected, it is empowering for her to do some rejecting. People who Put Down others in order to Make Themself feel better are pathetic people. Thier opinion isnt worth anything - because its not really opinion. All thier interactions are self-centered. And they wouldnt NEED so much self promoting acts if they LIKED THEMSELF - and if they dont like themself - and they are mean and nasty - no one else is going to like them. People emailed me because they "liked" my profile, started talking to me on line (i dont mind meeting new people and interacting on line - so thats fine with me) ... but they would try to then set up a "date"...they had expressed this "idea" they had about HOW i look based on WHAT I TYPE ON LINE...What I SAY.... (and i do not flirt/chat or talk about sex..) and when i told them how i look - describe myself (just say i'm big) - they were aghast...and dissapointed. Im NOT the one trolling profiles that are NOT for "dating" purposes trying to get a date...so WHY are THEY dissapointed? Ive gotten the same from people ive spoken with on the phone. I had a job where i worked at "home base" where people would check in for work .... guys got this "image" of me based on my voice and the way i talk - - - Theyd even DESCRIBE this idea..."I bet your blond and busty and tall and..." No Im brunette, short and fat. SO how is it that what i have to say is any less or more intresting based on the way i do or dont look. ESPECIALLY when im only interacting with you on LINE or on the PHONE? I once had spent some time talking to a guy on the phone (before internet meeting and dating...) - and we finally arranged to meet - he didnt show up. I think he did - he just saw me and decided not to talk to me. GOD i wasnt trying to meet the love of my life - i was just TALKING to someone - and if it didnt end up being ANYTHING MORE than just SEEING A MOVIE (we were to meet at the movies) - with someone i TALK to on the phone - FINE. But - no - Ive also had total strangers walking by me or driving by ...who yell out rude comments about me being fat. Or even just say snide comments - thinking i'd either not hear, or that i'd ignore it. (These things have happened to me since i was a teen-ager - and i've ranged in weight from 140 to 280 --- and gotten comments like this. I look back and see that i WASNT ACTUALLY fat back when....maybe not Skinny, but not fat ...and i still got those comments - from strangers.) Why do people feel compelled to do it? I dont know. But i ALWAYS say somthing back. WHY should i act scared, or embarassed, or be quiet? Or act like i dont hear it? I also say somthing when i hear people talking about others. My usual response is something like this: "You may not find me attractive and you may think im fat or ugly or whatever. Fine. Im not going to comment on HOW you look - but I'd like to know EXACTLY HOW it is that you think YOU ARE SOOO Attractive that EVERYONE finds YOU attractive, and that there is NOTHING wrong with YOU? You dont KNOW me. Does it make you FEEL BETTER about yourself to put down a complete stranger. Does it make your life easier? Does it make you Feel GOOD? WHAT excactly is SO appealing to you and important to you - to signal ME out - to put down? What ABOUT YOU? ARE you SO pathetic - that the ONLY way you can feel good about yourself or make yourself feel good or attractive is to make fun of ME? And if that is the case - and i am as ugly and insignifigant and a spectical to be made fun of as you imply by your actions - then WHAT does it say about YOU and YOUR life. If you were ANYTHING worth a DAMN - you wouldnt have the TIME to seek out to put down or try to embarass stragers. YOU are pathetic. Stop and take a look at YOURSELF. I dont know WHAT it is about you that is so deficient - but i can now ONLY IMAGINE....so try and wotk on THAT. Put some effort into THAT." ...you get the picture. Sometimes im more angry - and sometiems i just ask more questions - and push it - like ---- "would you do this in front of your mother, sister, daughter.... do you want ass holes like you to make fun of your mother, sister, daughter... What is the point? What are YOU contributing to the world to make it a better place - by making fun of people and ridiculeing them. Or are you just a waste of space - if that is all you can do?" It doesnt always affect them - sometimes it pisses them off, sometiems it makes them feel bad. Ive even had people who apologized. - Sorry - ive made this more about me now than the original post... i didnt check spelling, so sorry.


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Posted on Mon, Apr 30, 2007 15:05

some people on internet are just out to hurt or anger other people for kicks ive ran into more than a few i doubt if u were face to face this thing would be so brazen..


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Posted on Sun, Apr 29, 2007 12:45

I don't get that - from your picture you look very attractive, definitely my type physically. I would sooo be interested if we didn't live so far away from each other. Just count it as her loss, not yours.


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Posted on Sat, Mar 31, 2007 14:15

Kinda late here, but I'm going to say it anyway, you're cute! You know it's true!


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Posted on Fri, Mar 30, 2007 16:15

I personally think that she was rude and disrepectful to you. You are a great looking guy, but thats not even the point. Everyone has their own sense of whats sexy to them and if she didn't like what she saw she did not have to be such a A$$ about it!


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Posted on Wed, Mar 21, 2007 14:41

more_for_me_to_love ,, I'm Vicki & I would love to get to know you .. I checked out your profile & you are only minutes from me ...Email me sometime if interested ..Its pretty easy to find me. xo Vicki


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Posted on Thu, Mar 15, 2007 17:30

Dear more for me to love, I realize I'm days late in responding to your blog (just joined the system). I thought perhaps I would share a little story that happened to a friend of a friend (and by that I mean me but don't tell anyone)... Several years ago (before internet dating became popular), I met a guy on a (phone) chat line. We spoke for several days before agreeing to meet (and yes, I had forewarned this guy that I was pleasantly plump to which he said was "not an issue"). I allowed him to pick me up at my friend's apartment building which was equal distance for us to travel. He knocked on the door and introductions (as awkward as they can be) went well. As we were leaving the apartment he explained that he couldn't find parking close to the building (which was always an issue) and that he would get his car and pull around to the front. At this point I am impressed with his chivalry but after several hours passed I realized he wasn't coming back. To say I was devastated would be an understatement. Days later he called, explained that I looked very similar to an ex-girlfriend (for whom he still had feelings). Do I buy that excuse? Not really. Did that help my self-esteem after the several hours spent crying that evening? No, but the point is it doesn't matter. Any person that could disrespect someone that much isn't worth my time. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and beauty goes much deeper than looks. I would much rather be FAT with a great personality than drop dead gorgeous without common decency. Hold your head high, you have nothing to be ashamed of.


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Posted on Thu, Mar 15, 2007 14:36

HI THERE! Well for what I see in your photo you're quite handsome and I feel that this woman had no reason to be rude with you but we have to face the fact that there are many people out there that have no tact! Just thank God that the freindship didn't continue because imagine with time what this woman could have said or done to you. take care and don't give up! Rosy


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Posted on Thu, Mar 15, 2007 14:17

Well. that woman sounds like she has problems of her own. Most people like that are not secure themselves and so they cute down others to make thenselves feel better. Personally, I think you are cute as a bugs ear!! Big Winks to you. I need to put up a different pic myself, this one does not do me justice, but really I would rather get to know people based on what is in my heart rather than what I look like. You hang in there. Whimsical2000 Whimsical2000


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Posted on Thu, Mar 08, 2007 07:50

Hi there ....You have nothing to worry about ....what goes around comes around .....all the best


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