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Posted on Wed, May 10, 2006 11:42

Ok, you go on a date, it seems to go great, you think you got along, there is never an uncomfortable moment in the conversation...... So...... how long do you wait for the person to call before you decide that they are just not interested?


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Posted on Thu, May 25, 2006 03:41

Hi Nubian, I don't think it's being polite at all when one is left to hang, so to speak, after a date. It's best to just let the person you dated know what you feel. I think not knowing and never hearing back actually hurt worse than "I had a wonderful time but would prefer to be just friends". At least this way the person knows what to expect and can move on instead of wondering why their date just hasn't called. Yes, there can be circimstances like job, family, etc as you have stated but a 5 minute phone call or even a quick email at least shows that one thinks enough about the person they have dated to at least be truthful. Sometimes honesty can be more painful in the short term but at least it doesn't leave one wondering why. Hi Moonstruck, If you are interested in the guy you went out with, give him a call and see what the deal is. If he's positive, well you have a second date. If not, then at least you know where you stand and can continue on with life instead of wondering why he's not calling you.


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Posted on Sat, May 13, 2006 00:47

If you really enjoyed yourself and liked the man, go ahead and give him a call if he hasn't called in a couple of days. It is better to know if it was there for him too instead of wondering about it. Sometimes guys like women to make the next move. You know they can be just as nervous about the whole dating experience as we are at times.


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Posted on Fri, May 12, 2006 12:46

I don't think you should waste time "waiting". If the two of you had "clicked" then he would have suggested another date right away. There is absolutely no reason why a woman should be expected to wait to see IF a guy will call. Call him, most men secretly would enjoy the compliment of being approached for a date.


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Posted on Fri, May 12, 2006 12:25

Sometimes its difficult for both parties to be completely honest about the date because neither wants to hurt the other. I overcame this after my second date when I knew there wasnt going to be an "US". I sat him down and asked him how he felt about the day and then I told him how much i enjoyed my self - (which I did) but I also explained to him that unfortunately I didnt feel that he was right for me and then I also asked him if he wants to draw a line under it or develop a platonic friendship. We are now firm friends sending each other ecards on birthdays etc and there is also a mutual respect between us. It may not be everyone's way of doing things but it's worth a try.


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Posted on Fri, May 12, 2006 11:59

this is my opinion all guys are different he could be shy or not interested but never let that get you down and never let them see you sweat me personally i would call or contacted him in some kind of way and if he is actin funny or weired time to move on but if he is happy and excited to hear from you everything is fine


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Posted on Thu, May 11, 2006 22:43

why wait? If you are interested why is he the one to make the next move? Are you that old fashioned? If he is not interested he will turn you down and then you will know. If he is not then you don't have to wait at all will you?


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Posted on Thu, May 11, 2006 19:55

They could be kind of shy. You could always follow up with a card,email or a phone call just saying "Thanks-I enjoyed myself and would like to do it again if you have time." Then if you don't hear back, well..guess they really were not interested.


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Posted on Thu, May 11, 2006 04:34

If someone doesn't call within the first week after the date barring any trips, family obligations or job issues this person is really not that into you!!!! Usually, a man that takes that long has a woman, he is just being polite or he is just not that into you!!! This is my unofficial indicator because you deserve someone that is totally into you. Don't waist your precious time and keep on dating. Enjoy your free time because there are billions of fish in the sea.


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